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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 3:06:18 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		i'ld have to say curious. my experience was also in my teens,mostly making out and using fingers. i would try topping another female w/ sir,no problem,lol, i do so love using my strap-on.
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I've been thinking about this lately. In my view, bisexuality is on a spectrum. With people defining themselves somewhere along the spectrum. I've had bisexual experiences, in my teens, but none as an adult. Some of my fantasies go there, often in a "being dom'd into it" type of scenario. I identify as straight, and I seek out a member of the opposite sex first. But a more true identity would probably find me somewhere between bi-curious and bisexual. I'm trying to figure out how you define yourself as bisexual, is it by experience? Is it by where your mind goes when you see an attractive member of the same sex? Is it because sometimes you like to play with members of the same sex?





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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 3:07:34 PM   
greenie


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Status: offline 		i have been with women, i don't mind being with women, i don't mind going down on a woman, but i don't get off on being with a woman. i find for myself that it's easier to just say that i'm straight with bi-tendencies. Meaning i find women attractive and can enjoy being with them but don't get off on being with them.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 3:20:23 PM   
MissDiandSirHugh


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Status: offline 		We are both Bi completely due to our open relationship and able to enjoy either sex in any play either in this life style or Vanilla and enjoy it with those who also are the same both of us have and do enjoy all aspects of that side of us in many ways including the pleasure of being able to look at some one of the same sex and notice them in other ways than just a quick glance even if we do not know them from a bar of soap.
It can also be distracting at times when we go to the big smoke and Sir is driving as then Miss can perve and even point out some one who took her interest and want Sir to have a look as well but that is just a funny side of our life.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 3:29:41 PM   
LadiesBladewing


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ORIGINAL: perverseangelic

I'm not bisexual, because to me identifying as "bisexual" implies there are only -two- genders to be attracted to. I think that's pretty much being prooved false every day.



The phrase I use is "ambisexterous", though sometimes I'll go with "gender neutral" or "gender flexible". I fall in love with people, not genders, so that makes the whole "shell" issue pretty irrelevant for me. It also means that the scales aren't particularly relevant for me, since I could go anywhere on the scale depending on the particular individual being considered. *chuckles*

Lady Zephyr

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 3:45:40 PM   
stormsfate


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Status: offline 		I tend to identify more with heteroflexible, however that isn't often a choice when selecting an option for one's profile.


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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 4:13:55 PM   
dominmd


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Status: offline 		As a switch, I am somewhere in there. I have not been sexually active with guys, only women. I have been actively dommed by both men and women though. I can say that I am curious, but would be extremely picky of any guy that wanted to have me explore my sexuality in depth. My fantasies involve being "forced" into doing something with guys as well as women.

Now as a Dom, I prefer topping 2 women at once and having them obey my very sexual commands.


But, right now I am in a deep sub mode, so don't read too deeply into my reply.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 4:33:44 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		My fantasies also involve being "forced" and made to to things (the very things I want to do, but won't admit to myself, perhaps). But I think that under the right circumstances I would not need to be Dom'd to do it. I find the fantasy I hold when I think about being with a woman is one of softness, giggles, light strokes and tenderness. This is at odds with what appeals to me when I think of a strong, forecful man.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 5:19:51 PM   
chgodomcouple


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Status: offline 		well on the spectrum.. i guess im 10 for women 9 for men...

Since i was very young i liked girls... my first kiss was with a girl... and only when i hit puberty i guess i started liking guys also... so i been Bi since early ages.. and Rather be with a women than a man... even though i love my Daddy.. and plan on marring a man someday.. i still like the intimacy with a women better, its a total different kind of relationship

A.S.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 5:24:11 PM   
michaelMI


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Status: offline 		i don't ever want to be forced into a bi situation, just not something i would ever enjoy. would mess me up big time.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 5:56:26 PM   
MadameDahlia


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Status: offline 		I like to look at both genders. I can find people of either genders hot... sexy... arousing.

I'm also very, very, very selective - and only find a small number of people arousing.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/17/2005 8:56:40 PM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

I've been thinking about this lately. In my view, bisexuality is on a spectrum. With people defining themselves somewhere along the spectrum.


You are only about 57 years behind Kinsey on this statement ;)

I actually have gone from identifying as straight, to lesbian, to bisexual to just plain "open minded sexual being". Now that is the most liberating!

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/18/2005 6:31:44 AM   
HenryMiller


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ORIGINAL: RosaB

Can't be any worse than topping a man that is wearing a dress.


Rosa


Ha. May be so, but crotchless panties are still hotter on men than women.


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RE: Bisexuality - 11/18/2005 7:43:44 AM   
Sensualips


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Status: offline 		I used to say I was a social bisexual. It is not a lifestyle, but if it is being offered up at parties....


I think about it the same way as LA. You can move yourself around on the sace, depending on your mood and the place youa re in on your life. Of course, desire is even a questionable term though. I now consider myself bisexual (a regular bisexual, if such exists) and have enjoyed sex with women only slightly less intensely and moderately less frequently than sex with men. I do have "crushes" on women.

However, my bisexuality is very much sexual and not so much mental or emotional. That is hard tro explain as I certainly have mental and emotional connections with women, just mor eoften in a non sexual relationship. A "real" lesbian friend of mine jokes I am not a "real" bisexual because of this. For example, I just can't see myself cuddling up on the couch with a woman, snuggling and watching tv. The romantic/cuddly type things just don't work for me with women. Light touching with women is a prelude to more contact, not something I do unto itself. I do love kissing women though, even if it does not lead to more play.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/18/2005 9:36:38 AM   
luvdragonx


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Status: offline 		I'm definitely bisexual, no question. I believe I'm equally attracted to both genders mostly because there is no 'Look' I'm attracted to. If someone is attractive - male or female - I'm gonna look and look hard.

There are also two types of 'sexual' attraction for me. One is purely visual. The other is a Whole Person attraction. With the first, ANYONE is open to my appreciation - men, women, TV, TG - if you look good, honey, it is good to me One the other hand, I wouldn't normally embrace a Whole Person attraction to someone who is sexually incompatible, like gay men for example.

Relationships with women (for me) are hard to establish and maintain. Either we're friends or we're lovers, but for some reason I can never get them both in the same person.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/18/2005 2:18:32 PM   
nokkers


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Status: offline 		my views are from a different approach.
i don't consider myself so much bisexual as gender nonspecific.
when i am attracted to a person its got nothing to do with their genetalia, its the energy inside.
true, some people exude a more masculine energy and some more feminine (oft times the opposite of thier true gendr) and i would say i find those people that have a balance of both are those i am attracted to.
if we're really getting into labels, i suppose that would make me pansexual...but for the sake of making it easy, i go as "bisexual".
cheers
jules

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/18/2005 3:31:53 PM   
RosaB


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

I've been thinking about this lately. In my view, bisexuality is on a spectrum. With people defining themselves somewhere along the spectrum.


You are only about 57 years behind Kinsey on this statement ;)

- LA



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Come to think of it, I remember hearing Kinsey say pretty much just that about people sexuality, in reference to bisexuality, falling somewhere on a scale between 1 to 10. It rang true to me then as it does while reading through this thread. What a very fascinating man he was. I'm grateful for his very forward thinking.


Rosa

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/19/2005 4:59:36 PM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RosaB


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

I've been thinking about this lately. In my view, bisexuality is on a spectrum. With people defining themselves somewhere along the spectrum.


You are only about 57 years behind Kinsey on this statement ;)

- LA



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Come to think of it, I remember hearing Kinsey say pretty much just that about people sexuality, in reference to bisexuality, falling somewhere on a scale between 1 to 10. It rang true to me then as it does while reading through this thread. What a very fascinating man he was. I'm grateful for his very forward thinking.


Rosa



Actually, it's a scale of 1-6

The scale is as follows:
0 - Exclusively heterosexual experience(s)
1 - Predominantly heterosexual experience(s), only incidentally homosexual
2 - Predominantly heterosexual experience(s), but more than incidentally homosexual
3 - Equally heterosexual and homosexual experience(s)
4 - Predominantly homosexual experience(s), but more than incidentally heterosexual
5 - Predominantly homosexual experience(s), only incidentally heterosexual
6 - Exclusively homosexual experience(s)

- LA

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/19/2005 6:59:55 PM   
RosaB


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Status: offline 		Well, I knew it was something like that, the sentiment is the same.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/19/2005 7:18:18 PM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		Ym not bysecsual. Ym pansexual.
Sorry cant resist.
PeverseA- i dont give a shit about your spelling, i can still understand it. Fuck i have oodles of tolerance for poor spelling. My son is dislexic, brings a whole new meaning to the term 'creative writing' lol.
Nice to see the anally retentives amongst us squirming though nice one! Emerald lol.
You look so pretty when you squirm lmao.

Bisexual implies that there are only two sexualities. And dont know about the rest of peeps, but ive got more than two myself. Now if i meet another with say 3 sexualities, how can that possibly be bisexual?

As long as its consentual and monogamous, all is fine by me.

Personal preference, is never to have a relationship with another female!!! But play, sure thats cool.

pandoravampire


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RE: Bisexuality - 11/20/2005 6:35:48 AM   
MsIncognito


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Status: offline 		I consider myself bisexual because I am just as easily attracted to a female as to a male. If she's smart, witty, fun and has "it" the connection and feeling is the same as for a man.

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