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RE: Bisexuality - 11/20/2005 2:11:22 PM

mystictryst

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Although I identify as bisexual, and consider myself bisexual, many years ago, I was terrified of being anything but heterosexual (even if I didn't really know what heterosexual meant). I've always had a very strong attraction to women, probably more than I do to men. As a wee one, I remember being almost addicted to pornographic magazines) and then going through long periods of chastizing myself for being such a freak.

As a teen, I wanted to experience more, as I was learning it wasn't so freaky to be attracted to women, but never had the opportunity... My "first" (sexual) experience was in my early twenties, and I knew I was hooked...

I also think that bisexuality encompasses more than just a sexual (sex) aspect... So although I am with a man and have been relationship-wise, almost exclusively with men, I think that if the timing were right (meaning my being single), I could very easily have a relationship with a women and be just as happy with her as I have been (and am) with a man.

Hope that makes some sense.. :)

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/20/2005 2:36:14 PM

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i've read thru the reply ... and the more i read..i think the more i'm not sure either about bisexuality.

i've experianced female companionship on different levels.

gangbanged in teenage years by some gals on the beach in Oceanside CA back in the early 80's... made me know i couldn't stand a female to touch me.

then later on during my training... i found i could be aroused sexually.. provided a Dom of the male species was there.. directing my movements

then in my late 20's i was pursued by a Mistress in Alabama.... and i really like this Mistress.... and when we finally got to be alone and explore... i couldn't get into anything. (could of been finding out she mislead me about being a Mistress, and i of course find this out as we're being beginning and noticed there really wasn't a Dom bone on her body in private).....

upon returning home to NC, i again find myself being sought out by an old friend i knew to be totally gay. 100% into women, no if but or ands about it. and i found myself again transfixed and excited as all hell about being hers...... but nervous because of the previous failed attempt... so she backed off.

and now here again.. i sit and wonder... because when i'm serving... and the mere thought of a Dom ordering me to please another female.. WOW...

so how does one know.... dunno... when you find out... please.. share .. i'm wanting to know myself now...

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/20/2005 5:49:00 PM

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I tend to think that there a two primary kinds of bisexuals. (though I'm sure that by splitting hairs you could come up with infinite variations) Namely, I think that you have "true bisexuals", that is people for whom being attracted to both sexes is as inherent a part of them as being attracted to their prefered sex is for homosexuals and heterosexuals. On the other hand, you have people who are more or less primarily hetero or homosexual but have learned to appreciate sexual interaction with the sex they aren't attracted to.Of course, as with all models there are people who don't fit it perfectly, though I would generally think of someone who has a genuine attraction to both sexes to be truly bisexual (or perhaps I should say bisexually oriented) even if they do have a clear preference between the two.

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/20/2005 10:46:09 PM

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its good thing atoms are not like people we would never had engergy. all things in nature are opsites things with out minds anyway chemicals lol for them to bond there has to be a catalyst bdsm is like that i think we have sexual needs out way reality what is what sh ould be for balance but then again i am a conservitive pervitive its about good love not in the sexual sense but good sex the one that touches your soul is about good love how can being bi have that balance it cant it leaves you empty and wanting read the statments i think about this but but i do not get all from this sex or that sex thats a fractal personality. my life is not sexual based i grew beyond that i want spirit the soul of someone i have a theory about soul mates or positive and negitive personas in a engergy sense but that another time

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/21/2005 5:02:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

its good thing atoms are not like people we would never had engergy. all things in nature are opsites things with out minds anyway chemicals lol for them to bond there has to be a catalyst bdsm is like that i think we have sexual needs out way reality what is what sh ould be for balance but then again i am a conservitive pervitive its about good love not in the sexual sense but good sex the one that touches your soul is about good love how can being bi have that balance it cant it leaves you empty and wanting read the statments i think about this but but i do not get all from this sex or that sex thats a fractal personality. my life is not sexual based i grew beyond that i want spirit the soul of someone i have a theory about soul mates or positive and negitive personas in a engergy sense but that another time

namaste

While I can barely understand what you're actually trying to say, I'd like to point out that being bisexual has no more impact on someone's ability to have a fulfilling relationship with someone than being heterosexual or homosexual does. Just because you happen to be unable to find fulfillment with someone of either sex doesn't negate the fact that a substancial number of people can.

(edit: The comments about your grammar were probably out of line.)

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RE: Bisexuality - 11/21/2005 9:24:17 AM

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I've always preferred the Kinsey Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale.

It's a six (well technically seven) point scale. They believe that people will fall differently on it throughout their life.

0- Exclusively heterosexual with no homosexual
1- Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6- Exclusively homosexual

At this point in my life I'm a "2". :)

For more information on the scale and other works of the Kinsey Institute you can visit their site: www.kinseyinstitute.org/

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