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LadyJenasighd -> Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 7:14:21 PM)
So my question has to do with emails. I personally hate getting one liners or anything rude in a email. So I take the time to read a persons profile and respond how I feel a right. But I find it very rude when a sub/slave deletes the email as it were nothing. This actually bugs my alot. I just feel as though if I take the time to read your info and email you, you should at least read it, and reply saying " hey fuck off I dont like you" or something. Can anyone answer why subs/slaves do this??? Are they being rude? SHy? or just dont care???? ~Temptation~ ~ForePlay~ ~Passion~ LadyJensighd and Sir Real

DomMeinCT -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 7:17:33 PM)
There should be a button for the answer to your question: Welcome to the internet. No response IS a response. ETA: You'll find identical threads from both Doms and subs complaining about this.

KatyLied -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 7:38:44 PM)
No response = no interest See how easy it is to be on the internets!

MsLadySue -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 7:38:55 PM)
As annoying as this might be to you, there is no rule saying anyone is required to answer an unsolicited email. Even though people have a profile on cm, it doesn't mean we have a "right" to have our email responded to or even read.

ownedslaveemma -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 7:41:46 PM)
Everyone has different reasons for why they don’t do something. Personally, when someone doesn’t take the time to at least read what I sent to them. That pretty much tells me that they aren’t worth my time or my worry. I should note, from experience, that when I was actively searching for a Master a few years ago. I would become overwhelmed with emails from everyone under the sun wanting to own me. I was busy and I had a pretty good idea what I wanted so I didn’t respond to everyone that messaged me. Because if I responded to them and rejected them, they would send back scathing emails. Best wishes, emma

SoulPiercer -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 7:51:10 PM)
I was going to write a long response and attempt to explain that just because one is submissive, that doesn't mean you automatically have what they seek. But then I realized that you figured out you were a "Domme" by the time you were 21. You're well ahead of the rest of the class. You'll figure the rest out on your own as well. PS .. since I saw this directed at a male dominant who offered the same whine a few days ago, in the spirit of gender equality: Get over yourself.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 7:55:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied No response = no interest See how easy it is to be on the internets! What she said.

bamabbwsub -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 7:59:51 PM)
~FR~ Yes, this is the Internet. Yes, no response IS a response. But I also think that the anonymity of being behind a computer screen tends to make people think that rude behavior is somehow "okay." I personally think it is very rude for people to delete an e-mail without even bothering to read it. I don't necessarily agree that it's rude for them not to reply, however. I sometimes get e-mails that simply say, "Hello. Do you have Yahoo?" Those, I don't reply to, simply because it's probably just a trolling e-mail. You know, send out 100 of those and hope for 1 response. I also often don't respond to people who don't match what I'm looking for, which is posted clearly in my profile. This, by the way, isn't just a sub/slave issue. It's just a people issue, and the fact that you're a Domme doesn't mean that anyone has to open and/or read anything you send. People, unfortunately, don't have to extend any kind of common courtesy while hiding behind a computer screen. Is it rude? Yes. Are you wasting your time? Only on the ones who don't bother to read or reply. But there will eventually be that one who will, and he/she may be just what you're looking for.

igor2003 -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 8:48:38 PM)
Most of the people here seem to believe that no response is a response, but I know for fact that this is not always the case. Many Mistresses are inundated with mail and it has happened more than once that my introduction has been lost in the shuffle. If there is a Mistress that I really do want to get to know I will usually send a first introduction, and if i hear nothing at all from her i will send a follow up about a week later. There have been at least a half-dozen times that my initial letter was overlooked or lost in the shuffle and they either had not seen my initial letter or they HAD seen it and wanted further information only to accidently lose my letter in some fashion. If however i hear nothing after the SECOND letter, then THAT is a response. And yes, to me not responding, especially to a thoughtful and informative letter that someone has put time into is definitely rude. But that simply tells me that this would not be the kind of person i want further correspondance with anyway.

StrongSpirit -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 8:59:50 PM)
quote: ETA: You'll find identical threads from both Doms and subs comp quote: ORIGINAL: MsLadySue As annoying as this might be to you, there is no rule saying anyone is required to answer an unsolicited email. Even though people have a profile on cm, it doesn't mean we have a "right" to have our email responded to or even read. Nope, sorry, you are wrong. I have a rule. It is "If someone writes well to you, not replying is rude." Since you have never heard it before, lets call it "StrongSpirits Rule 1." The mere fact that so few people follow my rule does NOT change the fact that they are rude. And need to be spanked for their rudeness. But people ARE rude. Every day people do rude things. Just because everyone is rude, doesn't make it right. Lots of rather rude people get upset about one liners, insist that the man/dominant do actual work, read their profile and come up with a cute/funny/dominant reply. Then they are so lazy, they refuse to so much as say "no thanks". That is rude. Period. No ifs, no ands, no buts. Part of the problem is that while people are rude, they don't like to admit it. Just as men have no right tell women that "sending a perfect stranger a picture of my cock is not rude", women do not have the right to say "not responding to a well written, interesting email from a man I am not interested in is not rude." Why? Because rude people don't have the right to change social norms to satisfy themselves. If someone writes something polite to you, it is polite to respond at least with a no-thank-you. There is no exception for the Internet, despite the number of rude people on the Internet. Now, if only I could get a law past that allowed me to spank all the rude people. :D

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 9:30:03 PM)
Them deleting the email IS them saying, "Fuck off." Master Fire

LadyJenasighd -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 9:44:53 PM)
Very well said, and thank you

softpjOS -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 9:49:01 PM)
LOL Hello MF good to see You doing well. Personally, I delete and block them with no answer. If they are writing someone, shouldnt you look to see if they are allowed contact as in subs or slaves, and also that this person you are writing to even welcomes contact by strangers. How about reading a profile first.. LOL OS yeah I know I am peeking on the pj shhhooooooshhh .. (winks)

LadyJenasighd -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 9:58:42 PM)
So are you saying ANYONE who emails you you delete block right on the spot? That seems pretty silly to me. And I personally think if someone isnt Allowed to talk/email/chat they should say this so that people dont step on toes. Does that not make sense??

Maya2001 -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 10:22:11 PM)
Some people use filters so they only recieve mail from those that match their preferences the emails that do not match will end up in their bulk box, others may be checking your profle before deciding to read... being you are young is going to be one disadvantage , most subs want a dom/domme to be older than them, they also want someone with experience which your partner is lacking the other strike will be that you and part of a dom couple, most subs /slave want a relationship with either a male or female not dealing with both,, the fact is you have a fair bit of spelling errors in your profile .. that can be a turn off for many... so expect rejections you are not going to fit in with a lot of peoples preferences

MistressSybella -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/3/2008 11:57:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer I was going to write a long response and attempt to explain that just because one is submissive, that doesn't mean you automatically have what they seek. But then I realized that you figured out you were a "Domme" by the time you were 21. You're well ahead of the rest of the class. You'll figure the rest out on your own as well. PS .. since I saw this directed at a male dominant who offered the same whine a few days ago, in the spirit of gender equality: Get over yourself. Priceless! LOL! After I read that, I had to look at your profile to see if you were available..but alas, you identify as dominant. Darn! LOL!

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/4/2008 4:29:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyJenasighd But I find it very rude when a sub/slave deletes the email as it were nothing. we also find it rude when it's done to us. it's two way street. you're not the only one around here who whines (constantly) about this. there's no rule stating we're obligated to open/read/answer every message that's delivered to our in/spam box. most of us have mail filters set and if by some chance you don't fit the filters, deleted unread your message goes.

Focus50 -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/4/2008 4:39:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyJenasighd So my question has to do with emails. I personally hate getting one liners or anything rude in a email. So I take the time to read a persons profile and respond how I feel a right. But I find it very rude when a sub/slave deletes the email as it were nothing. This actually bugs my alot. I just feel as though if I take the time to read your info and email you, you should at least read it, and reply saying " hey fuck off I dont like you" or something. Can anyone answer why subs/slaves do this??? Are they being rude? SHy? or just dont care???? There was a time I yousta beat myself up over the frustrations of subs who ignored my polite and sincere mail but I quickly learnt not to bother about things I can't control - and that their ignorance and bad manners etc is likely a bullet dodged anyway. These days I don't even make first contact and confine myself solely to replying to those who write to me - simple! So yes, you are mostly wasting your time; especially in not realising that no reply is an answer in itself. Empowering yourself is far more satisfying than empowering the rude, lazy or ignorant.... Focus.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/4/2008 4:40:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit If someone writes something polite to you, it is polite to respond at least with a no-thank-you. There is no exception for the Internet, despite the number of rude people on the Internet. from my experience, that merely opens up a HUGE can of worms with responses ranging from "why aren't i the dominant you're looking for" to "i was never really interested in havins sex with your fat ass to begin with" to the ever popular - "you're fake ". why type "not interested" and get a whole lot of unnecessary drama/rantings from dominants (and dommes) who simply cannot handle rejection? screw that - if i don't read/reply back to you, i wasn't interested in you particularly the first place. this saves on your fingers typing back "you're too fat for me anyway" response for my spambox.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Am I wasting my time??? (8/4/2008 4:47:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl quote: ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit If someone writes something polite to you, it is polite to respond at least with a no-thank-you. There is no exception for the Internet, despite the number of rude people on the Internet. from my experience, that merely opens up a HUGE can of worms with responses ranging from "why aren't i the dominant you're looking for" to "i was never really interested in havins sex with your fat ass to begin with" to the ever popular - "you're fake ". why type "not interested" and get a whole lot of unnecessary drama/rantings from dominants (and dommes) who simply cannot handle rejection? screw that - if i don't read/reply back to you, i wasn't interested in you particularly the first place. this saves on your fingers typing back "you're too fat for me anyway" response for my spambox. I find this to be the exception, not the rule. When I do write to say I am not interested, often I get a response,"thank you for responding."

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