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RE: Anti Feeder looking for an opposite of that fetish - 12/28/2006 9:37:54 PM

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I am a BBW. While I am ok with my body image I would love to be thinner.

However, I am looking forward to the day my Dom and I go 24/7 and He takes the initiative to help guide me on my weightloss journey. I am excited for the help and to see what happens along the way.

I appreciate a Dom that is willing to empower me and help lift me up on my journey.

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RE: Anti Feeder looking for an opposite of that fetish - 12/29/2006 7:48:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: SubmissiveBBW4U

I am a BBW. While I am ok with my body image I would love to be thinner.

However, I am looking forward to the day my Dom and I go 24/7 and He takes the initiative to help guide me on my weightloss journey. I am excited for the help and to see what happens along the way.

I appreciate a Dom that is willing to empower me and help lift me up on my journey.

A great way to view it.

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RE: Anti Feeder looking for an opposite of that fetish - 12/29/2006 11:52:48 AM

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No no...starvation would be a negative. I am looking for a positive.

An Emaciation fetish and a Feeding fetish are too similar in their goals. As they both strive to weaken the submissive. I want to empower the sub.

As in a diet and fitness Dominant? Hmmm I have one of those at my gym....he's called my trainer... the @#!%@ is a sadist!

Aint that the truth. If you want to find the most sadistic sob's that walk the planet, look in the yellow pages under "Physical Therapist".

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RE: Anti Feeder looking for an opposite of that fetish - 12/30/2006 11:56:47 PM

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Fat people are people who eat more calories than their bodies expound. Black and white. And this is no debate about why how etc.

I hate to point out that not all overweight people ae overweight because they eat to much. I personally am on a 1200 calorie diet and have been for a long time. I exercise daily and still do not lose weight. My weight comes from a medical condition called hypothyroidism, polycystic ovarian syndrome and insulin resistance. My doctors have finally found the right drugs that work together to solve the core problems of all of these conditions and so my body should now allow me to shed all this weight.
I cannot tell you how horrible it is to eat the right foods, exercise everyday and still be stuck inside a body that you feel is not your own. It is really like being in jail only you can't get out on good behavior. So please no one else say that it is black and white because honestly nothing is ever black and white. I did not choose this disgusting body but I have it and God willing I'll lose it quickly now. Also, please think of peoples feelings before being so... blunt is the nicest thing I can think to call it.
Happy New Year Everyone.

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RE: Anti Feeder looking for an opposite of that fetish - 12/31/2006 12:15:42 AM

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My dominant loves me for who I am and supports me if I want a milkshake for lunch or if I eat a salad for dinner. He wants me to be happy and to grow in good ways.

It took his support (and, ironically, me actually being in a romantic relationship) before I could deal with the emotional crud that prevented me from losing weight.

And I have polycystic ovarian syndrome and insulin resistance and am 5'3" and 226 lbs . . .but as of Thanksgiving I was 234 lbs. What changed?

I got a dog! I've wanted a dog for the whole of my adult life and I knew adding a dog to my life would add health benefits, but that's not the main reason I got her.

That said, my little dog is 22" high at the shoulder, weighs approx. 40 pounds and is a high energy breed (a standard Poodle, and she's just turned a year old, so she's still a puppy too!), so we take at least two long walks per day at her pace, which leaves me sweating. And a long walk is probably a mile round-trip.

I've lost 8 pounds in three weeks. For me, it took A) getting rid of the emotional hang-ups, B) walking the dog two miles every day, rain or shine, and C) eating a well-balanced healthy diet along with the other two to finally allow me to start losing the weight I need to lose for my health.

My dominant thinks it's great. He loves the dog, too :) But I was the one that had to deal with all the crud and figure out what it would take. He didn't do it. We don't have weight loss contracts or expectations or anything. I do it because I want to be healthy, for myself and him, and he agrees that's a good reason.

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RE: Anti Feeder looking for an opposite of that fetish - 12/31/2006 6:10:27 AM

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I have certainly tried to persuade ex-girlfriends to insitute a discipline regime for my fitness, weight and health, but they usually couldn't be bothered.

I'm sure there is a market for it.

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I have always found the fetish of "Feeders" distasteful and one of the worst sides of the BDSM lifestyle. Feeders prey on the some weakest in the flock, zap them of whatever self worth and self esteem they have left and leave the feedee at very high danger levels. It is handle safe, let alone sane and consensual. Still....There seems to be a niche within this world where it flourishes.

That got me thinking and I feel there must be an opposite to Feeding. I am not sure what that would be...Slimming? Thinning? Is there a name for this, a fetish to indulge as well? As a Dom who has battled his own weight demons and worked hard to reshape and drop weight, the thought of getting a bottom or sub to do the same, through reward and punishment appeals to me. Build up their self esteem and confidence and then enjoy a submisson that comes from strengh and choice and not weakness and need.

I was wondering if that type of TPE is part of this scene or does Feeding go unchallenged as a fetish?

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RE: Anti Feeder looking for an opposite of that fetish - 12/31/2006 7:20:01 AM

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It is a powerful submission and it becomes a heady power excha nge.

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