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Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 1:12:12 AM   
clzs112


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Status: offline 		It is really confused to me whether the age factor to find a sm partner is important.I am a dom,when I chat with the sub girl,they will leave after they know your age.Because what they want is a senior or above 35 men to dominate them. Young guys just make them feel not reliable and lack of the ability to control.
Does age matter,or just I got bad luck...someone tell me.....Thx
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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 1:19:57 AM   
porcelain26


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Status: offline 		Age matters to me in some respects. I'm not a big fan of younger guys because I've had exclusively rotten experiences with younger guys. Older guys I like to a certain extent, but then I get the ones that think because they're 15 years older than me, they're god's gift and I should immediately be bowing down to their brilliance. Not a fan of that kind of behavior either. I guess it all boils down to the person. Age might make me initally skeptical of someone, but I'm willing to hear them out. Though they don't usually get more than one chance; if ya blow it, I'm done.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 1:32:31 AM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		clzs, I never assume a man has or has not got any experience at D/s play; but I don't date men much younger than myself because we haven't got enough in common to make a lasting relationship IME.  Maybe that's also a reason other women feel you might not be right for them.
 
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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 1:34:00 AM   
clzs112


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Status: offline 		Thx for reply.porcelain26
Got one chance to blow someone down seems difficult...But I think what makes a man depends on  his experiences and the knowledge he had.Brillant man try very hard to be extraordinary even if he is young.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 2:49:49 AM   
Usako


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Status: offline 		Everyone likes something different.

Since I'm young I ideally want someone near my age but don't auto shoot down people older. Some people have stricter rules on age, some don't. Just keep looking, there ya go.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 4:44:21 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Depends.  If someone is 18 and interested in me I am not going to take it seriously.  I keep my age range within 10 years on either side.  But when I was 25 my dominant was 21. 
I dont see anything wrong with newbies learning together.  But I have to say I would never have met my potentials online.  Here age is a number which often gives people an impression of what they recall.  In person age is nothing if your personality shows you to be dominant.
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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 5:11:59 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 5:20:23 AM   
Renski


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quote:

ORIGINAL: clzs112

It is really confused to me whether the age factor to find a sm partner is important.I am a dom,when I chat with the sub girl,they will leave after they know your age.Because what they want is a senior or above 35 men to dominate them. Young guys just make them feel not reliable and lack of the ability to control.
Does age matter,or just I got bad luck...someone tell me.....Thx


Well im 18 and eager to learn, however, i dont want to seem a troll. I really am here for the right reasons not to have my fantasies lived out. Well obviously it would be nice. But i have to respect everyone else, and eventually when/ if i get a Master/Mistress i will submit to them and accept their needs come first.

I understand what you say about age. But it doesnt matter to me. Everyone has their own "ideals" if you like. I didnt grow up with a dad which i guess made me more feminine *hence the cd* but men and women at the ages of up to about 40 dont matter to me. As long as they are nice people and we connect. Its not age its chemistry.


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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 5:34:14 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		35 is senior. That makes me senior, senior, senor, senior senior. Have to stop typing Im getting a senior moment.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 5:49:36 AM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: clzs112

It is really confused to me whether the age factor to find a sm partner is important.I am a dom,when I chat with the sub girl,they will leave after they know your age.Because what they want is a senior or above 35 men to dominate them. Young guys just make them feel not reliable and lack of the ability to control.
Does age matter,or just I got bad luck...someone tell me.....Thx


Age matters as much as it matters to the individual.

Nothing more, nothing less.

Why would it be any other way?

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 7:20:13 AM   
DomDolf


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Status: offline 		Everyone has their comfort level. When I was younger I felt the same as you do. My experience is that  when I go to munches and other lifestyle friendly events I find it's easier to get to know people and because I am well-groomed, well-mannered, well-spoken and certainly because I am willing to play in front of others and then can easily discuss my scene that I get opportunities that I would not if my only resource was a pen and paper (picture live version of this forum). In other words, you often do not get more than one chance online and you have to understand that when the resources are many and the trolls and losers and wannabes and nevergonnabes and... you get the picture, are also many it becomes easier to just blow off someone and move on. If you can represent yourself well the age becomes less important to people that are not against the age just based on the number. I have had submissives up to 14 years older than me. One in particular had issues with the age because she was worried about whether I would be attracted to her 10 years down the road, which was a valid concern. I still think she is beautiful, by the way.

I was as confident as can be because I had life and lifestyle experiences that no one I knew at my age or even much older had. It was immature of me to believe that people would just see that in me and know that I was a safe bet. I had my opportunities because I did not let anything deter me and I was always prideful about anything that represented me, words (choice of and grammar), appearance, etc. If I was being blown off because of my age I chalked it up to "their loss" and moved on. As said, it all boils down to a person's comfort level and experiences whether they will be accepting of you regardless of age.

Take pride in everything you do, be confident where you have earned the right to be confident and learn more in the areas that you have not. Never be cocky and remain capable of being humbled. Take the words in my signature to heart. They are very pertinent. These things, when evident, greatly increase your chances of meeting someone that will not be concerned about your age.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 7:46:19 AM   
MasterAramis


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Status: offline 		Age is only important for those that care about it. For me being "older" (43) I have a hard time with someone who is, lets say 18 - 25. Not because of their age typically, but because of their life experience and maturity. So when I am looking at someone in that age bracket, I try to look past their age and see if they have the maturity to sustain something long term. On occasion I do find them.

On the flip side, as a young slave or submissive, they might wish to find someone who can relate to them and their generation and I can completely understand that as well.

Aramis

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 8:07:47 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		MasterAramis you must be new to the board. Most of the 18 -25 year olds who post on here think that they are way more mature and wiser that 43 years olds.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 8:11:06 AM   
MamaDomme1


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Status: offline 		I'm 48.  I want my damned senior discount!

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 8:15:35 AM   
indigostar


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

MasterAramis you must be new to the board. Most of the 18 -25 year olds who post on here think that they are way more mature and wiser that 43 years olds.


I don't really agree with you....it is true that some younger people think they're more mature and wiser than the elders when the're not, but at the same time, there are a good number of instances when they actually are more mature.

But of course, I don't think maturity comes with age. I think it comes from experiences, and you can experience things at any age, and sometimes yes, they do end up making people more mature at an earlier age.

I mean, just look at the majority of politicians...they're all old and gray...but during campaigns they fight like 3 year olds.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 8:20:42 AM   
rc4otkVA


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Status: offline 		While I prefer to play with older men for certain scenarios, I think that experience outweighs age. I'd pick a 20 year old with a few months of experience, over a 35 year old who doesn't know anything about bdsm. In any situation that has to do with power, people assume that an older person is most likely to have enough experience to take the reigns.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 10:39:30 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		My experience where I live has been different in as much as that my age (63 almost) works against me as does the fact that I'm married to a  Lady who is 30 years my junior and we are both Dominants..  I would think that it can depend on yourself and how you present yourself as much as the local sociological dynamic. In some cases wyoiu ability to have a reasonable iuncome counts too..


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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 12:09:34 PM   
StormsSlave


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Status: offline 		Well, yes & no.

When I was young, I thought I was wise. From my backwards looking perspective, I now know I was smart, not wise. I don't know if I'm wise now, but I think I'm at least gettting closer.

Openness, a willingness to learn, and compatibility are way more important to me than age. A willingness to learn and try new things is required. In truth, younger people have the edge in this area. In my experience, the older a man gets, the more arrogant and un-teachable he becomes. I am excited by exploration, and if you already know it all, what is there left to explore?

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 1:36:32 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		ok instead of being s selfish sob about age does not matter looking at it i will be with anything or anyone     HOW about looking at this way your obligation to those around you carefor  unless you do not care   then your not what you say you are just playing the fantasy game    someone at twenty is not going to work for someone at fifity  its stupid to think other wise
we have different life rules for a reason  while it might be great to pretend to be hugh hefner  in the end  it sucks for everyone involed  

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 2:02:11 PM   
angaothsi


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Status: offline 		Clzs112~

For me personally it could be an issue, if I were seeking anything (which I'm not)
Not because of the experience you have in BDSM, but because of the differences in life experience, lack of things in comman. We would just be at different places in regaurds to short term goals, maybe even the time frame of long term goals. Again though, this is just how I feel and I'm sure I don't speak for the majority. ( I wouldnt even want to!) Keep looking and when you find the right person for you age isnt going to be an issue.

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