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chuckypet -> Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 9:53:54 PM)

(first post here, forgive me for the sloppiness)
 
First off, I'm a kisser.  Boy/girl, public/private...if we're attracted to eachother and the mood is right, I'm all for it.  It's an attraction thing for me but also says, "I like you and I want to be close to you."
 
I've recently met a young man here and we're doing very nicely at laying the foundation for a great friendship as well as a D/s relationship.  I would primarily be his Domme though my desire to be Dommed by him will be fulfilled as well.  :)  Anyway, he's much younger than I and fairly inexperienced but for a 3 yr realtionship.  After a fantasy IM, he'd mentioned that he wasn't sure about kissing, that perhaps it should be reserved for a "dating" relationship.  I understand his implication of intimacy but, for me, there's an AMAZING amount of intimacy in D/s.  I also understand that this perception is probably due to his lack of experience in all arenas and he'll figure it out as he learns more.  We've spent time together in RL, have alot of fun and are getting quite comfortable with each other.  I won't press the issue, it's not that important but it's something I'll miss.  My idea is to let him call that shots as far as the lip service goes.  He's MORE than willing to go forth with many other edgy & kinktastic scenarios.  =)
 
So my question is this:
How many others in D/s relationships kiss?



Hime -> RE: Kissing in a D/s realationship? (8/10/2008 10:01:53 PM)

I love to kiss and, I couldn't imagine my relationship without doing so.

And actually, kissing is "protocol" in my D/s relationship. 
When my boy steps through the door - he is to greet me with a firm embrace and a kiss - then....he kneels and awaits any further instructions.


~xoxo



Missokyst -> RE: Kissing in a D/s realationship? (8/10/2008 10:04:40 PM)

I am a freak.  I will let someone beat me before I let them fuck me.  And I will let them fuck me before I want them to kiss me.  Kissing is intimate, scent, taste, pheremones and style combine up close and personal.  I can be on my belly bent over a counter for a fuck with no other imput needed.  But for kisses that are a relationship on their own, I really have to want you in my face.
Freaky I know.
But that is the other end of the spectrum. (icons can be bookends)
Kyst



ChicagoAmy -> RE: Kissing in a D/s realationship? (8/10/2008 10:05:53 PM)

I've had it both ways but I'm with you I really like kissing. And depending on the type of relationship I had with the person it could be a deal breaker if there was no kissing. 



littlewonder -> RE: Kissing in a D/s realationship? (8/10/2008 10:08:30 PM)

If I'm in a d/s relationship then that means I'm in a relationship with that person for the long haul...period...so that includes everything, even kissing. It then becomes one of my requirements to be in a relationship with that person. No kissing to me means he just really isn't into me and he sees us as nothing more than casual players and that's really not what I'm seeking at all.






NeedingMore220 -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:10:26 PM)

I need kissing in my D/s relationship - I find it connects and bonds us ... oh, and is hot as hell too.  [:D]



berrysurprise -> RE: Kissing in a D/s realationship? (8/10/2008 10:13:07 PM)

I do kiss my Dom,  But I can understand why it is sacred and something he would like to maybe keep separate... i would be less inclined to share that kind of intimacy with someone who i am playing with but not emotionally involved with... however when it comes to my Dom i cannot help but be emotionally involved with him so therefore i cannot deny him my kisses



Hime -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:13:22 PM)

quote:

After a fantasy IM, he'd mentioned that he wasn't sure about kissing, that perhaps it should be reserved for a "dating" relationship.  I understand his implication of intimacy but, for me, there's an AMAZING amount of intimacy in D/s.


It's quite possible that his reference to a "Dating Relationship" means that he would like kissing reserved for a relationship that is Romantic and/or Emotionally Involved.   Two people can be intimate without being romantic or having an emotional connection.


~xoxo



Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:13:33 PM)

Wow... I'm freak for kissing!  Hell, I love to kiss...  Gee, I'll even kiss the Vanilla girls.  Kissing is something that's wonderful activitity... 



LadySunn -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:18:30 PM)

Kissing is wonderful especially after my sub has taken a real thurough whipping and their eyes are filled with tears and the sniffling has not stopped.  mmmm... Was that TMI?



cravesdom -> RE: Kissing in a D/s realationship? (8/10/2008 10:19:46 PM)

For me it has depended on the relationship. If it was just for play, then kissing was not normally involved, although it depended on the Dom I was with. But when it was an actual relationship kissing was absolutely involved. I cannot imagine a relationship without kissing. I love it too much!

I don't get the intimacy argument though. Yes, kissing is very intimate, but so are many other activities one might participate in during a D/s relationship. That goes right along the lines of people who have sex with someone but then are afraid to talk to them about where the relationship might be going or some other important topic because "we're not that close yet". Yes, I have friends who have told me that!



Evility -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:24:04 PM)

I see doms kissing sub's asses all the time. I think it does occur.



ElectraGlide -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:30:03 PM)

No we are biting the ass, on the fresh spank area. It creates a sensation, that makes her leap a bit, lol.



Hime -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:31:23 PM)

quote:

I see doms kissing sub's asses all the time. I think it does occur.


Hell Yah....
Those welted and bruised ass cheeks are hard to resist!  [:D]


~xoxo



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:34:37 PM)

Whatever works for you.  As often as most dom males want cock sucking on demand, a surprisingly high amount choose not to orgasm often or ever as a symbol of their aloofness, control and dominance in a relationship.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:39:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: chuckypet
How many others in D/s relationships kiss?

I do and I dont.
I have 2 boys, Fox and Angel. Fox is my romantic partner, Angel is my friend and slave.
Fox and I kiss regularly, often and rather enjoy it.
Angel and I have kissed twice, and will likely never do so again, unless you count the little pecks on the cheek or forehead as kissing. It simply doesnt fit our dynamic. It isnt about intamacy or control, for us, its about the dynamic and its effects. He is my baby girl in scene and a hot kissing session in he mddle of that would completely wreck the headspace. For us now, any sort of romantic intamacy would completely wreck the headspace. So, we dont.

DV



jim64 -> RE: Kissing in a D/s realationship? (8/10/2008 10:53:36 PM)

Kissing can say everything : "hello/goodbye", "i love you", "i want to fuck you", "i'm sorry", "let me make it feel better", and even "i hate you and never want to see you again." I love kissing. I think it is more exciting to kiss someone the first time than it is too have sex. The kiss is much more intimate. Sex can be a close second, but I love kissing. Good sex has a lot of kissing! In many places.

In a D/s scene kissing is not required. It depends on the people involved. I find that a nice kiss is great for ending a scene. Much better than a handshake. Again, it depends on who, where, and when.

Lots of  kissing,
jim the lip





Cuffkinks -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 10:59:02 PM)

   Absolutely. I couldn't be in a relationship (D/s or otherwise) without kissing. Besides being a beautiful, intimate, and totally fucking hot act, I like to think I'm a good kisser. I'd definitely miss it if it wasn't there. 
  On another note...I love to have My mouth locked on My little girl's mouth as I hurt her or let her cum, using My own mouth as a gag on her. The muffled yelps, whimpers, and /or moans sound hot as hell. I not only hear them, but I can feel them going from her directly into Me. To Me, it's another way of taking what is Mine...which is everything about her.



E2Sweet -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/10/2008 11:22:23 PM)

Hmm, isn't D/s without kissing kind of like eating chocolate chip cookies without a glass of milk? Sure, cookies are very good by themselves, but add a glass of milk and it takes things to a whole new level of bliss. [;)]



SimplyMichael -> RE: Kissing in a D/s relationship? (8/11/2008 1:34:43 AM)

I think I miss kissing the most of all things.



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