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AquaticSub -> RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so Vern. (8/12/2008 1:10:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: masterforRT
Here's my take on it:
I dislike George W. Bush. I think he's the worst President in 100 years. That said, he DID get elected the most powerful man in the world-twice.
Though I don't like or respect the MAN, I DO respect his POSITION. Do you see the difference? The POSITION of President has to be respected.
Same for D/s.
You might not know or like a person, but if they ARE a Dom, then they deserve a certain respect for their POSITION!
Sometimes you just have to give people the benefit of the doubt.
If you can't do that, how can D/s work?
And, YES experience, time and wisdom factor into the equation. Look, I don't care what anyone says-for the most part if you take a group of people, the ones that have put the most time into something simply know the most about it. This applies over the gamut from D/s to auto mechanics. Are there exceptions? Of course! A musical prodigy would be one. There are people who have relatively little musical experience that can play music better then those with 50 years experience. But these are an EXCEPTION to the rule-the rule still holds sound.
Does the reverse hold true as well? Of course. I've seen people here who have posted 3500+ times-and (obviously) don't have a single clue what BDSM is about. But again, this is an exeption to the rule.
It works very simply.
I respect those who deserve respect and everyone, owner or otherwise has to earn it. Firemen get automatic respect. Police get get automatic respect. Those with third degree black belts, a PhD or MD, etc have proven that they can pass a series of easily agreed on and rigid expectations and they deserve respect.
To claim to be a dominant you just have to do that: Claim you are one. I will not automatically assume this means anything deserving of respect. I have a great deal of respect for those who have worked hard and have attained considerable skill, both in play and in the everyday of their relationships. I have a great deal of respect for people like Master Fire and John Warren who have managed to publish their views on relationships and BDSM.
Now I will be polite until shown that I will not be treated politely, but that is a far cry from actual respect. I'd suggest you not worry about proving yourself to everyone because not everyone needs to respect you. If you are so intent on having everyone respect you, you probably won't get much anyway. If you are worthy of respect than simply being yourself will get it, with no need to flash titles around.
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