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RE: Is there any real Dommes left? - 8/8/2004 3:39:29 AM

UtahGoddess

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Going back to the original question:

I always ask what types of activities a boy enjoys, what submission means to them as well as what types of service they enjoy giving.

Having these answers tell me a lot about what motivates him and helps me map his submissive triggers. This information helps me control and train him.

Personally the "I'll do anything you want and have no personal needs" type of subs turn me off. I don't want someone that desperate and needy for a relationship. They tend to sit like a lump and wait for a string of commands or orders and offer very little initiative or substance. No thank you.

Those types of subs are but one peg higher for me than those who present themselves to me an proclaim they have no limits. If you truly believe you have no limits with a stranger, you are either mentally ill or stuck in fantasy. I prefer to earn trust through consistency over time.

Nuff said.....anything else would be insulting.

Ms Sandi

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Hope i dont regret this - 1/30/2005 9:27:52 AM

NaughtyBoy4U

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i sort of ask for this one.. but then guess i didnt in a few posts.. hopfully i wont be so stupid this time around, but we learn from our mistakes, or at least i do sometimes..

Wow so many reply to my old posts on here. i would have thought that i would loose them in deleting old accounts, but they are still around. Just so everyone knows, i am not the type to get angry when someone criticizes me, instead i get hurt. Yes that may make me some what of a wuss, but we are all different. i must admit i have learned so much from the profiles, posts and other things that i have both used, and posted in the BDSM sites. i have always been bad with words, and my grammar. i never went to school growing up, as i spent a great deal going from foster home to foster home, and quite a few places i desire not to speak of. i guess because of the places and things that happened in my childhood i made some bad choices in what i desired. Most of which i figured i could pretty much handle just about anything dished out in real life, but to be honest i couldn't handle quite a bit of the posts in reply to my threads. my not going to school wasn't by my choice, and in fact by the time i was blessed with getting into a school where i could catch up, i was very eager to do so. One of the foster homes i was in moved to Hawaii, and i was blessed with being able to attend a very expensive private school. While there were a lot of bads, there were more goods. Academy of The Pacific, in Honolulu Hawaii is where i was placed. i caught up from garde 3-11 in only 2-3 years time. i was very eager to learn, and get my education, but i was foolish as i got older, and i got married to a girl from Mauritius before finishing school. Not foolish in the marriage, even though she too got the green card and split, everything is for a reason, and i had good times with her also, even though i remained a virgin till i caught her with other guys. The no sex thing was due to her saying she was afraid to try cause of the pain, and to be honest i was confused as to how to go about it myself lol. Funny, all my friends at one point said id not know what to do if pussy slapped me in the face.. Damn i hate to admit it, but they were right.. Well to cut this short, i am grateful for all the reply both the ones that hurt, and more so the ones that didn't. The most important thing is that You were honest and didn't bull shit, i respect that even if i didn't reply. i have very much enjoyed reading the reply from SunDew, and i hope that if i ever do have a real life Domme, that i am blessed with someone who is as polite as She is. Thank You everyone..

tony...

PS: TonyFordz.com is now TonyFordz.net (i was burned by my domain provider and lost 44 domains. and because they wernt based in the USA, i wasnt able to tale any legal action), but my sites are like my grammar, confused and frequently changing... maybe someday someone will help me sort the confusion out. Till then, be well...

Wow only 25 worlds needed to be changed this time, im getting better :)

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RE: Is there any real Dommes left? - 1/30/2005 10:21:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: pet4Mommy
A Domme is to be served, and not to serve right? and if the slave is to serve and not be served then, why would the Domme then ask the slave what They can do to please them?
my other one was Desires2BeOwned before.
- slave

1st, may I suggest you read a couple of threads down "Doormat or not" in this same forum; than do a search on slaves and everyone's definition.

MizSuz, MistressZanthia, MitressDread among others all gave you excellent responses which should have prompted you to think your approach through, and learn to clarify what being a slave means to you, rather than say "Whatever"...

You aproached with harsh words, calling women with whom you've not connected well "fakes", and it's only fair that you are called out on your hypocrisy.
In my opinion (take it with a grain of salt, I haven't done this long), a Mystress ought to be able to do whatever she wants with someone like you (including castration to make you nicer); as you and I both know, that is not within reason, so figure out what is reasonable for you as a person to offer a lady, and accept that each person is different, and if the ones you've spoken with have not met your desired standard, keep looking, preferably without offending (burning bridges) the one's you've met.

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RE: Is there any real Dommes left? - 1/30/2005 1:12:26 PM

NATI

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I think you got a very good and well deserved spanking. And I think that the commentary and the advice given to you was outstanding. I can tell you (having dogs) that I have a relationship with my dogs. And dogs being what they are WILL make sure that their needs are made known - in very canine ways, of course.

People are very complex. Far more complex than a dog will ever be. It is paramount as a domme to make sure that the sub/slave is being taken care of in a manner that will keep him/her healthy and well balanced - and HAPPY.

I hope you ake the lessons learned in this thread to heart. And -btw- take pride in the fact that you were able to catch up on oyur education, and did so very quickly from what you are saying. You lacked stability in your childhood, and I'm just going to spit this out intot he wind - perhaps that 'stability' and foundation that you did not have as a kid is what you are seeking. But keep your outlook positive and take the hurt in stride. Hurt is often the harbinger of change and growth. We do not learn how to modify if we are not allowing ourselves permission to make mistakes.

The safe person will remain permanently fixed and immobile and will therefore remain exactly as they are. I get the feeling that this is not what you are looking for and would like to take that leap of faith.

Do some more homework. But I think, given your last post - that you are thinking about it. And that is always a good thing.

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