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Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 3:01:40 PM   
brad56


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Status: offline 		What do other Mistresses think of Mistresses who give detailed intstructions on how to approach them through collarme email and then rather than simply checking the no thank you quick response button they block you for no reason (e-mails were respectful and followed her guidelines)?  
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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 3:13:57 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Not knowing details it is hard to answer your question, but just because someone emails, even according to instruction, doesn't mean it is a requirement that the mistress or anyone else respond in any way.  Their time and reasons are their own, as is your choice to view it as rude or not.

Personally, I may read an email and respond to emails later in the day... then I might get busy, tired or forget to respond.  My time is my own and I decide when I do something or if I do it and if that is rude... then I am rude.  I try to be kind for the most part and I do try to respond to all email, but if someone offends me or breaks one of my rules of contact, I do not always feel the need to explain it. I was specific enough in my profile.  I tend to simply block them according to my specific instructions.

I would suggest not worrying about it and moving on to someone else.

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 3:14:40 PM   
MsCfromMelbourne


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Status: offline 		Quick question - how do you know you are blocked?  Does CM tell you that?

Your mail might have been filtered as spam by accident.  It happens.

The "Mistress" may be a man having a laugh tricking other men.  It happens.

The Mistress might have found something in your email annoying. 

The Mistress might have disliked something in your profile. 

Some Mistresses don't give reasons because invariably the man starts to argue with them.  No-one likes rejection.  Some men even become abusive. 

.....it could be so many things, why not just try someone else?

Good luck in the search for a compatible partner

< Message edited by MsCfromMelbourne -- 8/16/2008 3:18:07 PM >

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 3:17:19 PM   
MsCfromMelbourne


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Status: offline 		brad56 seems to have disappeared from CM.  Deleted his profile because it got blocked?

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 3:27:50 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I don't know, I got the feeling he created a profile to come complain and was actually sending a message to 'someone'.  Maybe my experience's being shown with a couple of brads here. lol  I just blocked one. lol

Nope... I am wrong... the thingy says he joined long ago.

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 3:37:28 PM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		as the little girl from full house used to say.... "HOW RUDE!!"



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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 3:42:15 PM   
brad56


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Status: offline 		Thanks MsC,
Sounds like some good possibilities. I was just a little put off as I am not the type of person to be offended by no reply as I am sure that attractive Mistresses are inundated by e-mails. I just thought a "no thank you" would have been more appropriate so that I would not take the time to compose another e-mail days later only to find I had been blocked when I sent it. Thanks all...i am moving on.

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 3:45:52 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		brad, if you are hiding your profile, maybe she checked your profile when it was hidden and decided to block you as some of us tend to believe that is a guy playing games.

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 8:00:45 PM   
MissLily


Posts: 146
Joined: 8/19/2007
Status: offline 		This is the Internet, don't expect the best out of people.

There could be any number of reason why the person is not responding. Filters, no time, no inclination and so on. You really shouldn't take it personnal. Even if you took time to write your message. I don't answer any messages that don't exactly fit what I'm looking for, for example, because it would simply be too long.

This may sound rude, but the Ladies you're contacting don't owe you anything. If you're offended because they block you, you're letting strangers get to you. Not the best thing for you and definitly NOT the best thing if you're looking for someone on this site.

Good luck to you and never mind the people who block you. You might not even have liked them anyway.
Miss Lily

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 9:04:32 PM   
AcademyForSlaves


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Status: offline 		Hi.

I don't think it's a slave's right to say what a Mistress should or shouldn't do. She has her reasons for what she does and even if the slave doesn't understand it he should try to accept it.

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/16/2008 9:54:17 PM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		did you accidentally attach a cock shot?

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/17/2008 12:00:54 AM   
HeavansKeeper


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quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

as the little girl from full house used to say.... "HOW RUDE!!"




Television in Canada? Where do you find the time between constant polar bear attacks?

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/17/2008 12:38:14 AM   
MizSexyVixen


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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

did you accidentally attach a cock shot?


LOL It happens......much more often than it should. Must be a CM "glitch." 

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/17/2008 12:47:27 AM   
sillyslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Oh, there ARE lots of Ladies out there that would block me or anyone else just for nothing, whatever be written to them. Maybe They just didn't like my nickname, maybe They just weren't in mood, maybe They think i should write i'm "gay" just because i have a huge vibrator buzzing up my ass. Pick your choice.

But honestly, i thought this would be the topic about Ladies being exceptionally rude to a serving slave.

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/17/2008 1:30:27 AM   
E2Sweet


Posts: 649
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From: TopLeftCornerOf, OH, USA
Status: offline 		A couple weeks ago I had a femdom message me out-of-the-blue, tell me she saw that my profile included the statement "suggestions and comments are always welcome" at the bottom of the profile text, and then commented that my nose "didn't look quite right"...

Sometimes you just have to laugh, shake off the frustration, and vow to not waste your time on the person...even if they did just piss in your Post Toasties.

Edited to add:
....stop staring at my nose...


< Message edited by E2Sweet -- 8/17/2008 1:34:31 AM >

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/17/2008 1:45:34 AM   
girlfromthesouth


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Status: offline 		It's a little pointed at the end, but I can assure you that mine is funny-looking. Your nose is just unique. I think it's cute.

It's weird for someone to randomly say that, though. Not so weird for dominant women to block submissive men (or women), considering how many messages most of them get in a day. After a while there is just simply too much to keep up with and, as unpleasant as it sounds, no one really owes any obligation to anyone here.

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/17/2008 3:47:16 AM   
MsCfromMelbourne


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Status: offline 		brad56, when I click your profile, its not there.  Did you hit "hide profile"?  Why? 

The Mistress may have written you a reply, sent it and received the message "member no longer has a profile".  That has happened to me.

Put a profile back up and try again.


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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/17/2008 4:35:19 AM   
thishereboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Hi.

I don't think it's a slave's right to say what a Mistress should or shouldn't do. She has her reasons for what she does and even if the slave doesn't understand it he should try to accept it.


While that is certainly true of a M/s couple, the OP was talking about emailing someone on CM, not his Mistress. After he is collared, then he can blindly follow what ever she says

To the OP....this is the internet. Expect to encounter all kinds of people. If she blocked you, move on and be glad you haven't wasted any more time. Personally I found it much easier to meet people at local munches and parties.

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/17/2008 9:03:23 AM   
DominaYork


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Status: offline 		I spend most of my day being nice and playing nice with others. When I'm wearing the Domina 'hat' and able to shrug off the vanillia world 'hat' I don't want to have to worry about putting on kid gloves and patting a sub on the head. I try to be kind and mind my manners but I tend to not censor myself, it's the freedom I find in D/s and one I won't give up easily. I'll answer your email if I wish to and I'll be honest in my answer. If you find it rude that I don't answer or if you find my honest reply rude, shucks durn let me go cry myself to sleep. You are welcome to think I am rude, however, I will chalk it up to us seeking different things and move on.

I'm always surprised by topics like this that boil down to a sub going on about how the Domina doesn't do <fill in the blank with whatever action the sub wanted done> for him. I too thought this was going to be about really rude behavior and where is the line between rude actions in a D/s relationship and how often simply being dominate is mistaken for being a bitch.

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RE: Rude Mistresses - 8/17/2008 9:22:07 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		This kind of thread really makes me crazy.  Last week I had a guy write me, and since I was feeling snarky, I wrote back and said that his time would be better spent looking for women who matched his interests.  I got a little LECTURE on how the slave's job was to find the needs of the dominant out.  How about by reading the profile?    He didn't respond to that, though he did go back and read!

Those who feel rejected by me have come back to lecture, and call me a fake, and rude, and all sorts of things.  Oh well.  I don't spend any time worrying about the perceptions of those who will never touch my life. 

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