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MmeGigs -> RE: Real life vs internet. (8/21/2008 3:53:38 PM)
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ORIGINAL: leadership527
Ah yes, the good ol days when women glowed and men thundered....
As near as I can tell, it's a fiction. There isn't now nor has there ever been a BDSM community.
I'm definitely with you on this. Kinkyfolk aren't a community except in the "community of interest" sense.
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ORIGINAL: leadership527
I'll add one more point... in my viewing of what passes for a real life BDSM "community", for the most part, what I see (and hear from others) is a fractious lot, overwhelmed with politicial infighting and petty politics.
I'm definitely not with you on this. My local BDSM community is absolutely wonderful. There's always some petty or political stuff in any structured group of humans, but it's pretty minimal here. It could be because we're a lot of small and medium-sized groups that cooperate rather than compete. Many folks are members of more than one group. I belong to two groups and am an honorary member of another. If someone here feels that there's a constituency that's not being served or that they have a better idea for running a group, they're welcome - even encouraged - to start one up. They get a lot of support from the local community. If there is a need and/or they do have a better idea, they'll likely develop a following and be around for a while. If there isn't, they won't.
The community as a whole here is pretty pansexual. There are a lot of special-interest and specific orientation groups, but big parties and events draw a diverse crowd. There's a club here that focuses on kinky education and pulls in presenters from around the country, including some of the folks you're reading on Amazon, as well as taking advantage of the considerable experience and talent within our community. I can't think of a time when the presenter's stage was used to "score with hot young subs". The folks who present already have a good deal of credibility in the community or they wouldn't be presenting.
I'd like to think that there are a lot of good communities out there, but the more I hear about people's impressions of other communities, the happier I am to be here in MN.
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