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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 12:42:09 PM   
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Drywall mudding is actually like a zen thing to me.
 
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Ok now I know you are a sick twisted person *g*

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 12:57:09 PM   
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Drywall mudding is actually like a zen thing to me.
 
Jewel


Ok now I know you are a sick twisted person *g*


Damnit, my secret is out!!! And you know what the really sad part is?? I couldn't put icing on a cake for love nor money!!!
 
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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 1:07:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I detest having to do anything on someone else's schedule. This crap of working for someone else for $$ sucks!

The funny part is that in my free time I work harder than I do here where I get paid for it. At home there is ALWAYS something to be done. Everything from laundry, to cleaning house to, weeding flower beds, picking and canning, cleaning the horse barn, mowing, fixing fence, riding horses, I am never bored and I will never run out of projects. I simply adore it. Being at home, on the farm is pure heaven to me. I love doing the work, I love the feeling of being physically tired at the end of the day. Of sitting down with a glass of wine on the patio, looking out over the valley, watching the various animals and just.....being. Before crawling off to my bed so I can get up and do it all over again the next day.

Here at work, that's just want I have to do so I can do what I love. Plus, sometimes I need a few days rest for my sore muscles, bumps and bruises.


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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 1:32:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Because of my profession i've become a well organized time manager....just tell me what you want, when you want it accomplished and i'll get it done.  In my personal life i'd rather be given the "big picture" by my Dominant and then be allowed to accomplish  the tasks in my own way, to meet his requirements.  I've always been the type of person who finishes "work" first before i'm able to allow myself time to play at the things i enjoy.  I believe you need balance in life...you should make the time to relax.  Recharge the batteries so to speak.....and i definitely don't have any trouble doing that... a good book, the sun, pool time, a walk or my oils does it for me.

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So... Doesn't this mean submissives get less stressed when their time is governed by their Dominants.  In theory.. maybe.. I suspect in practice for many they are like me.  But I expect there are some that absolutely love it when their Dominant governs their time.  What about Dominants.... do you find it stressful when someone else is governering your time? 

So...  are you busy.. can you relax?  does it stress you when others dictate your time? or do you find it relaxing and enjoyable?  What happens to you?


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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 1:34:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		For many years have lived that my time is my money. I work so I can own as much of my own time as possible. In my ideal world, I would own all my own time.

Working as a waitress, usually soak in an epsom salt bath for like and hour afterwards to get all the kinks out. I dont like working for money at all, but well...

I am not good at a bar, you know sitting around having drinks usually makes me nuts, I feel so fidgety, same with sun-bathing, am much better splashing around in the water, searching for shells and rocks, and out on a dance floor.

I try and meditate but it bores me to tears. I like to read, can stay up late reading.

My dog is great relaxation too. I take her out, brush her, clean her, cook for her. I do cook quite a bit. I make lunches for my sister and her daughter to take to work, they drop by in the morning to pick it up. Seems like dishes appear over and over again throughout the day.

I am an oil painter so that takes up huge amounts of my time. I do like portrait commissions, which is work, and for someone else, slightly annoying but not as much as dealing with people and being a human forklift at the restaurant, food in, plates out, food in, plates out, food in, plates out...

I am a homebody and love to curl up on my couch. Knit, sew, draw, watch movies, listening to music, learning to play guitar. Having a quick nap is great. Going out is fun especially somewhere interesting. I spend loads of time on my own and find I need to, get nutty if cannot get time to myself, walking or going somewhere alone.

Not sure how I would go with a Dom-type dictating things for me to do. I imagine if we were compatible it could be really fun and even a relief, not so sure though.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 1:42:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can't seem to do anything but relax.  Even when I'm working.  My mind just kinda, shoves everything aside.  I get it done eventually, sometimes.  I've been told by people that they envy my carefree attitude.  On the flip side of the spectrum, I wish I could just develop the smallest bit of motivation to be directed at school.  I envy the people who can get all their work done with time to spare.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 1:53:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Knight, you and Creative Dominant are working way too much. Both of you need to reevaluate your careers and goals in life. A comet is on the way and going to blast us all sooner or later in any case.

Relax and find something that gives you more time to play. It may happen that if things work out right, the more time you have off, the more money you make.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 2:27:29 PM   
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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 2:44:21 PM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		I'm a constant fidgeted. I rarely can sit still and if I am sitting some part of me always wiggles. I have a bad habit of getting up to do things in the middle of watching a movie. My ex Dom actually threatened to duct tape me to a chair.

I get bored easily. Before I had the rugrat I actually worked 2 full time jobs and one part time job just because I was bored. I also went to school full time and worked full time. But one was more need then want lol

As for having my Master lay out my leisure time for me.... I would have no problem with that at all. I like schedules and things that are organized and planned a head of time.

But on the flip side, sometimes i like the option of just kicking back and reading a book with no time limits and nothing else I have to worry about getting done.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 4:00:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
So... Doesn't this mean submissives get less stressed when their time is governed by their Dominants.  In theory.. maybe.. I suspect in practice for many they are like me.  But I expect there are some that absolutely love it when their Dominant governs their time.  What about Dominants.... do you find it stressful when someone else is governering your time? 

So...  are you busy.. can you relax?  does it stress you when others dictate your time? or do you find it relaxing and enjoyable?  What happens to you?

I find it's dependent on personality and time management preferences.  Nothing to do with orientation.

Most doms don't have the time to directly govern the time of others- it tends to be more freeform.  :) 

I find scheduling to be enjoyable, but that includes scheduling for "No schedule" time.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 7:44:43 PM   
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So...  are you busy.. can you relax?  does it stress you when others dictate your time? or do you find it relaxing and enjoyable?  What happens to you?


I am amazed at just how busy I am now that I don't work outside the home.  I think, to a degree, I've lost a little bit of the ability to relax, but so far there hasn't been a problem. 

Firm doesn't dictate my time, though he has offered to when I've lamented about having too much to do and not enough time.  I suspect that if I started having problems, he would step in, but so far that hasn't been necessary.

I would guess that in some respects, it would be more relaxing for me if Firm dictated how I was to spend my time.  There would be the comfort of knowing that I was accomplishing what he felt I needed to, and that the rest was not as important to him and therefore not worth my worrying over.

On the other hand, it might be more stressful.  Something that I greatly enjoy is surprising Firm... being more to him than he expects.  I keep my eyes open for things that I can do to help him and do those without his direction.  To a degree, those "surprise" things are very important to me... they are physical evidence to show him how important he is to me and the precedence that his needs take in my life... voluntarily.

If Firm were to manage my time for me, I wouldn't be free to take the initiative to seek out and surprise him.  I would lose the joy that I get from doing so, and I'd probably find that stressful.

It might also create more stress because I'm also a bit stubborn in that, if it's something for which I am knowledgeable and accomplished in doing, I don't feel things are done to the best of my ability if I'm not free to do them in my own time and manner.  Perhaps some might consider that to be a very "unsubly" trait, but I'm a bit of a perfectionist.  So far, it seems to work okay... Firm's not complained yet. 

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/20/2008 8:59:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I was so insanely busy for a prolonged period of time that I eventually crashed, and hard.

Now I am learning and understanding the benefits of just being still for awhile, and allowing my spirit to rest.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/21/2008 5:38:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		One of my tasks for the summer was to get a tan.  I decided to sit out for an hour a day in the sun on good days carefully choosing the time so that the sun's rays would be the strongest.  The first day I thought I was going to go nuts - I don't typically sit out to tan.  I had brought a book but I still felt like I was going stircrazy.  I knew that I was fulfilling a task so I forced myself to do it, but I would much rather have been doing some busy work.

Oddly enough, over the summer I have come to enjoy that time.  There are days when it is the only task I have so I carry with me the thought that I am doing exactly what I am supposed to being.  I have a young kitten that often scratches me and I find that the scratches heal more quickly if I can lay out.  My arms have never felt so smooth (no doubt the tanning oil that I use) and I have become more comfortable with my physical imperfections (nothing like being in a bathing suit in front of strangers to help you to make the decision that you need to get over yourself).  It isn't anything that keeps me particularly busy or mentally stimulated, but it gives me the chance to provide uninterrupted service for an hour a day.



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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/22/2008 12:56:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Every now and then I feel the need to have a "veg day". Not quite laze by the pool, but a sleep in, get up late, loll around in not much clothes, read or watch movies or whatever day. They're good ... but I don't want them too often! When I go on holidays, I might factor in 1 or 2 veg days in amongst all the other activities. However, as My favourite holiday involves a long drive around this wonderful country in which I live, the veg day(s) usually involve sorting all the photos Master and I have already taken (We are both snap-happy nuts!) and writing down the information about where We've been so I can journal it later when I scrapbook the photos.

Meantime, I try to do scrapbooking for at least one afternoon a week ... and that is wonderfully relaxing. It's amazing how much longer the time seems when I'm doing it, I love it. Best of all when Master and I settle down together to do the same thing!

I'm still tempted to sell up and buy a bus and just go on permanent travelling holidays ... *sigh* ... gotta be a big bus to fit the scrapping stuff in too!

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/22/2008 7:49:20 AM   
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Knight, you and Creative Dominant are working way too much.


It's only work when you not enjoying it...  And when I am not enjoying it..... I take a break from A and go do something else that I enjoy.... I will get back to A soon enough.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/22/2008 11:46:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		My Lord says I learned to be frantic while I lived in Illinois. I actually learned this long before Illinois. I don't sit still well at all. I enjoy watching things get done, rooms get cleaner, and work being completed.

I'd be very frustrated if My Lord were to tell me how to spend my time all of the time. Occasionally he requires me to relax, sit with him, put the damn phone down, stay in bed. He gets that motion and productivity is my way, but he also sees that I wouldn't sit down and relax if it weren't for him.

For my part, My Lord has taught me to be in the world and not be so eager to clutter my universe with distractions. He has literally held me in bed with him. I have learned to trust his judgement about me, and relax as he requires. He knows me well.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/22/2008 11:55:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Knight, you and Creative Dominant are working way too much. Both of you need to reevaluate your careers and goals in life. A comet is on the way and going to blast us all sooner or later in any case.

Relax and find something that gives you more time to play. It may happen that if things work out right, the more time you have off, the more money you make.


But see, that is part of the problem Steel...for the most part, I LIKE my patients.  I love having someone walk in bent over, begging "Doc...I can't straighten up" and seeing them go out with a big smile saying "Damn Doc...I love you".  The sadistic but caring side loves hearing them groan when I hit that just-right spot in the muscle.  The humorous side of me loves hearing "Sheeeeeeeeeeesh Doc, are you SURE I am supposed to stretch this way?"  I HATE the friggin' paperwork and once I get my divorce debts paid off...next year, yea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...I am seriously thinking of bringing a girl in to do it again.  I am also looking at teaching my own class so I can get away from the office and Colorado at least one weekend a month.  Teaching DOES relax me and gives me the pleasure of interacting with other doctors and passing on what I have learned in 25 years.  Plus, if I am lucky, I will be able to meet others from collarme when I go out to teach.  It seems that there are dominants and submissives and switches from a great many states that I am acquainted with or am friends with and I would love to be able to go out to dinner and coffee and dessert with them after a day of teaching.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/22/2008 1:49:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		My last vacation I stayed real busy doing stuff like lying in a hammock reading and napping, and driving around sightseeing, or sitting on a beach drinking beer. I really need to learn how to relax.

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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/22/2008 4:41:52 PM   
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RE: Being Busy!! - 8/26/2008 7:20:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		My work used to be more of a personal descriptor than a job, but I realised that burning myself out was not so much fun. I'm a figity person as well but I don't deal well with set schedules,(why my career now suites me, the same thing rarely happens twice and every day is diffrent)  I like to enjoy the journey and not just be rushing to get to the destination when it comes to vacations, same as leisure time, sponteniety is something I thrive on, I sometimes like not knowing what comes next. Please note... I said sometimes!

having my day plotted out for me could be fun, but probably not lol :). I'm also one of those annoying people that rarely makes lists.

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