What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms?

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Draythos -> What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 5:57:28 AM)
Last night I admitted to hitting a slave out of anger. I told the situation which is as follows. She was a bitchy bottom, I told her I would not tolerate it, we singed a playlist stating that she would not do it but, she did it anyway so, I felt disrespected and lost my cool and punched her ass (literally). We appolagized to each other, her for doing what she contracted Not to do and me for hitting her. We haven't played together sense (it's been over a year). One of the more "experienced" Tops and an "exprienced" bottom gave me a 30 minute lecture because of it. If I wanted a good lecture, I would have gone to Harvard. OK, you "experienced" players my know more than some of the others but, you don't know everything and that does NOT give you the right to badger, patrinize and /or challenge (that's what made me her) others that are not as "experiencd" as you. I'm sure you've made mistakes, too. So, make your comments short, sweet and to the point.

mistoferin -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:02:12 AM)
So what exactly is the point of your post here? I can't figure out what you're asking? Are you asking why someone would express their disapproval at your admission of committing an abusive act that violates the very basic principle of consent....in a chat room that is connected to a website where people feel strongly about issues such as abuse and consent? Gee, I wonder.....[8\|]

Madame4a -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:03:04 AM)
chat room? use the little X in the corner of your screen

Draythos -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:09:58 AM)
The question is, "Why do experinced players like to lecture the not so experienced players for making comments, asking questions or amitting to mistakes?"

angelynne -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:11:29 AM)
Maybe to help them not make the same mistake again?

Draythos -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:13:06 AM)
I haven't done that in 2 years, now, I tell them to pack their shit and leave.

IrishMist -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:13:43 AM)
quote: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? quote: The question is, "Why do experinced players like to lecture the not so experienced players for making comments, asking questions or amitting to mistakes?" The answer to your dilemma lies here quote: So what exactly is the point of your post here? I can't figure out what you're asking? Are you asking why someone would express their disapproval at your admission of committing an abusive act that violates the very basic principle of consent....in a chat room that is connected to a website where people feel strongly about issues such as abuse and consent? Gee, I wonder.....[8\|] as so nicely stated by Mistoferin Have a nice day [:)]

Draythos -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:16:26 AM)
It's not just where I hit the slave. I also got lectured when I asked about new toys I was going to try, places I want to do a scene and some new ideas I had.

DarkSteven -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:17:00 AM)
She cannot have been your slave if this caused a rift for a year. Let me get this straight. You hit her, you both signed some piece of paper saying everything was cool and haven't played together since? 1. How did you define being "bitchy"? Your judgment, or did she get some input? 2. You haven't played in a year. Does that indicate something to you? 3. You admit to not being very experienced, and then demand respect. 4. You write a twelve line rant and then demand that WE be succinct. Please act in a way to earn respect.

Madame4a -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:17:59 AM)
Actually, I noted this seemed to bother you. I thought perhaps I'd give you some advice on how to stop that. as to the answer shrug people like to lecture quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos The question is, "Why do experinced players like to lecture the not so experienced players for making comments, asking questions or amitting to mistakes?"

mistoferin -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:21:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos The question is, "Why do experinced players like to lecture the not so experienced players for making comments, asking questions or amitting to mistakes?" Actually, I don't really see a question in this thread....but I do see a whine. "They're all pickin' on meeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!"

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:22:45 AM)
Going to sum this post up with one word: WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

CruelDesires -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:23:05 AM)
Insert Jaws music here C-D

sirsholly -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:24:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos The question is, "Why do experinced players like to lecture the not so experienced players for making comments, asking questions or amitting to mistakes?" i think the level of experience here is a moot point. People go into a chatroom or onto these boards to share their thoughts. The fact is you were hearing a few things you did not want to hear. You were physically abusive. What'd you expect...a pat on the head and sympathy?

Draythos -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:24:40 AM)
By bitchy I mean she continuosly challenged me, she was greedy, always wanted more than I could give her. The separation was agreed upon mutually. I don't demand respect, I ask for it. NO! I didn't demand anything. I was making a point about how experiened players force their "I know everything" way of thinking on others. Respect is earned, NOT given. You treat me with respct and I'll do the same.

sirsholly -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:25:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos The question is, "Why do experinced players like to lecture the not so experienced players for making comments, asking questions or amitting to mistakes?" Actually, I don't really see a question in this thread....but I do see a whine. "They're all pickin' on meeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!" Meanies...every damn one of 'em. [8\|]

heartfeltsub -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:26:44 AM)
Let me get this straight, you ask questions and when the people answer you, in your mind it becomes a lecture and you are offended? i really should check your profile to see how old you are, etc, but as i've been to lazy to do that; if i ask people a question, their response is generally determined by the tone and tenor of my question. i know many more experienced Dominants and submissive alike who are more than willing to help someone new, help pass on knowledge, and how they pass on that information depends almost entirely on the attitude of the person who is asking for their help. heartfelt

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:28:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub i really should check your profile to see how old you are, etc, but as i've been to lazy to do that SUPPOSEDLY a 36-year-old male according to his profile. Watch out, ladies! [8\|]

Draythos -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:28:16 AM)
Its not just me, I've seen others in chatrooms go through the same thing. I'm speaking for all them.

IrishMist -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:28:19 AM)
/sits back to enjoy the show [sm=popcorn.gif]

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