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RE: Singles Only! - 8/27/2008 11:30:03 PM

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...In many ways I do enjoy being single and having a greater sense of freedom to do what I please. What I found was it is also a very lonely way of life...

I couldn't have said it any better.

...and then there are the Holidays...

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RE: Singles Only! - 8/27/2008 11:34:51 PM

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It is a razor's edge between enjoying the aloneness and feeling the loneliness.

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RE: Singles Only! - 8/27/2008 11:37:45 PM

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oh god, sappa..that is SO true :)

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RE: Singles Only! - 8/27/2008 11:41:44 PM

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When I was single I didn't really enjoy it. It had its perks, but the lonelyness and downsides far outweighed any perks in most cases.

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Ha. I see all you coupled people. It’s okay you can play too, but I’d prefer your responses are specific to the status of singlehood. I know you worship your Master and have found beatitude with your slave; that’s for another forum, please.

It seems to me we are more likely to express satisfaction or even happiness with the circumstances in which we find ourselves. In other words, singles will express delight with being single, coupled folks will tell you it’s bliss to be together.

So let’s get specific: Are you satisfied being single?

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RE: Singles Only! - 8/28/2008 2:54:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: beargonewild

...In many ways I do enjoy being single and having a greater sense of freedom to do what I please. What I found was it is also a very lonely way of life...

I couldn't have said it any better.

...and then there are the Holidays...

Okay now this part I have to agree with. I am comfortable in my own skin and with being on my own, but the holidays do become a drag.

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RE: Singles Only! - 8/28/2008 4:44:15 AM

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I have been single for 9-10 year now I did this by choice. Mental insability for me made this choice. I was in a very caring relationship and was loved to the point of distraction. While he could have accepted even 5 % from me in the relationship, it was at the point where was totally dependant on him, I did love him, but wasnt in love. If you can undersand that and hurt him deeply when I broke it off. I came to the conclusion that if my paticipation of a relations was heavly light now being able to give and equal effort in the relationship that I needed to re think a partner relationship. A uneven emotional relationship leads to disaster. So I took the not until I feel I can contribute more on a equal basis I had no right to drag someone into one of a already instable point.

Due to my circumstaces I havent lived alone but been the gypsy and lived with family or the very closest off friends.

Of course there have now and then been friends with benifits. It was pointedly just that.

Do I get lonley, of course, do I miss daily interation, yes, but in the long run I do it not as much for me, but primirly for an equaly satisify healthy relationship.

I have most definetely got used to it and sometimes enjoy the fact that there isnt that chance of a possible loud sleeper and my remote is mostly been all my own. LOL just a perk.

Holidays to me are a perk, I am not a fan of holidays and generally avoid them. Most especially the winter holidays seasons as SAD is in full swing. I have no desire to participate the holidays with others.

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RE: Singles Only! - 8/28/2008 7:48:45 AM

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Like so many have written I need a lot of alone time and space and have chosen to be single for almost my entire adult life, being single has worked for me ..... now for the long version....

My first love was someone who was unhealthy for me I didn't know I was experiencing domestic violence until I was away from him. I count being hit by a bus in Mexico as the thing which saved my life by forcibly removing me from the relationship (why have an ordinary break up when you can be dramatic??). The person who I believe was my soulmate came back into my life while I was recovering from this experience and even though I wanted so much to have a life with him my fears wouldn't let me (or rather I wouldn't let me).

Since then I have focused on my study and career, my family and my friends and thankfully have only had fleeting moments of loneliness. I am extremely content in my life, I find joy in so much of my life, I laugh often and smile even more and am thankful for the people around me. I am finally now at a place in my life where I feel ready to let my defences down and am enjoying the exhiliration of flirting with strangers that I see walking down the street!

I have to also say being single allows me to take spur of the moment trips and to never need to consult with anyone else before making a decision which is awesome.

edited to add: I may need to kill you all now that I have told you this.

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