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softpjOS -> RE: S&M is now PC?? (8/27/2008 11:57:07 AM)
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ORIGINAL: UmbraDomina
I guess the best way I can explain what I mean by PC, I call the disneyland effect...... S&M at one time was dark, full of loud screams, dark corners, sweat, tears... strong leather covered dominants, who played by their own rules. Now it seems to be lighter..... fluffy....... almost sweet. Does that make any sence?
Now that would get me to drop my disney "hard limit" and return to ratland in a heart beat! Dommesland, a spanking ride... mmmm roflol. Growing up/living so close to ratlando, after trip 391 to the park i said never again!
my take on the whole "evolution" of *what we do*, is truly no different than anything else in this world. The more diverse the people that become involved, more activities/behaviors are incorporated, the *lifestyle* becomes "exposed" in a "new light" and the darkness associated with it starts to fade. It's nothing more than people opening their eyes, being open minded and willing to accept people as they are.
Trust me, there are still many many people that will never accept any part of it, and to those people, it will remain a very dark, fearful thing to them.
S/m D/s will never be fully accepted by society, no different than being gay, lesbian, bi, transgendered..... the dark corners will remain a fact of life for many of us and when we do find an accepting group we'll step out of the dark embrace it.
Perhaps this is the "fluffy side" You are seeing. People coming into this that aren't necessarily fitting into Your definition of "S/m-D/s" or what You expect to see. (absolutely not being judgemental in any way with that statement, *insert smile and friendly debate* so it's not taken wrong) [:)]
In my own, sometimes warped, opinion; we need to be more accepting of people that may not fall into our exact definintion of "lifestyle" or "BDSM" or *insert label of choice*, in order to have a sense of community and acceptance. Thus the "Your kink isn't My kink" saying that is so prevalent.
As for bringing "vanilla" into the scene, in some ways i guess i'm guilty of sugarcoating some of the things Mistress and i do, say to my husband... by sugarcoating i do not mean that i am in any way dishonest with him, i just don't give him all the details of a scene or our play. He knows when we play, how we play, he simply isn't comfortable in knowing intimate details such as bruises, cuts.
Personally i like the dark, and converting people over to the *dark side* ~giggles~
pj
*edited for typo*
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