CallaFirestormBW
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong
Some folks will do anything to get love and attention. Too bad the practice does nothing for self-esteem.
To me, this is a sweeping generalization. I have actually known people who have done this -- in fact, my mother was one of them. My dad had -everything- in his name, and gave her an allowance from which she ran the household. My mother had an -amazing- measure of self-esteem (and, as some may remember from an earlier post, actually -ran- our household, though my father was the titular figurehead and held the assets, because that was just the way they thought things should be, since both were from the Old Country). She participated heavily in the community, had her own radio talk show, and had a -slew- of friends. She and I didn't agree on a lot of things, but I can never fault her level of self-esteem and have discovered her wisdom as years go by.
I think that if someone is secure and whole, and is in a healthy relationship, who has authority over the assets has very -little- to do with self-esteem. I don't get my self-esteem from my paycheck or what I own -- so why does it automatically presume that letting go of authority over those items would -reduce- self-esteem?
Calla Firestorm
< Message edited by CallaFirestormBW -- 8/29/2008 8:14:13 AM >
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oh wow not again - 
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