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Pyrrsefanie:
I'm just as capable of dominating my boy in a tanktop and undies as I am in a catsuit... (snip) I guess I'd be considered unlikely just because I don't think there's many Aspie Dommes out there.  I've been told in the past that being terrified of phone conversations and near inability to make eye contact is not very "dommelike" behavior.

stella41b:
From what I can gather a woman being dominant is part of her inner nature, not a fashion statement.

LadyHibiscus:
Believe me, the fetish wear industry, and several custom corsetmakers, made some house payments from my purchases!  I love to play dress up -- but it's just dress up.  The clothes don't make the dominant, thank goodness.  (snip to next post)  A sub who sees me come into the room in one of my short nightgowns with nothing underneath is going to have a way better time than the one who sees me dressed to the nines in the Catherine Coatney gear.  Just sayin'.

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Let us not forget that at times a woman's assertive, bitchy, bossy, demanding (whatever label suits ya), is oft times a signifier of the opposite behind closed doors.  Most would never guess that I am submissive....

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ORIGINAL: iwearpanties

dressing up is that more of a metal mind game to a sub

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I am small too... have always had a rough time finding sexy stuff. Winne the pooh section doesn't have much variety, but where there is a will and enough money, there is a way. But I am dominant in anything... and if someone needs me to dress the fantasy part all the time... bye bye

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I haven't got any costumes nor do I think I fit any of the descriptions given. I'm just me, doing my thing. You will never catch me, knowingly putting anything vinyl, on any part of my body. Ick, eww, yuck, no way.

I gave up worrying whether I fit anyone's preconceived ideas a long time ago. It's a waste of time and energy. The last time I had a submissive staying at my house I believe I spent most of the time in shorts, flip flops and a tshirt. Or a cotton jersy dress. It was hot and I was going for comfort.

My interests are too varied to say I am a geek or anything else I can imagine. I am very comfortable with people socially, it's just that my preference is to stay away from most of them. It's not that I am uneasy or awkward around people, I just don't like most of them.Why waste time doing something I don't like?

Soooooo, I guess the aloof might work for some social situations. I've always thought it was more of an "I am really working hard to try and pretend I am not bored out of my skull and would prefer being at home." persona. I just don't like shallow chitchat.

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ORIGINAL: iwearpanties

dressing up is that more of a metal mind game to a sub

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ORIGINAL: MzDeadlyRed

I'm very much a nerd, a downright geek.  I also possess about as much grace as an elephant on roller skates.  I giggle and have 'duh' moments like you wouldn't believe.  Even if I could wear the stiletto high heel boots, I wouldn't be able to walk in them, much less take command of a 'scene' without falling flat on my face.  I am very much the unlikely Domme, if one were to gauge this by outer appearances!

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