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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 6:08:53 PM

marieToo

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ORIGINAL: RedheadedWoman

The women who are angry at him are angry because he didnt choose them and two of them are crazy.

It's very common for a man with a string of jilted lovers in his past to give this line to his current prospect. This is so "textbook".

When there is more than one woman in a man's past all saying the same things about him, it is most likely something you should heed as a warning.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 6:13:42 PM

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slip sliding away....slip slidding awawaay....yeppers as fast as you can If he' s not learned better after 5 different subs enought that he has to either pay one or go to jail??? Come on,Wake up and Smell the Stink here....If this was Not D/s or S/m or whatever you want to call it..Would you still really Date this Kind of guy! sis, every alarm bell you got should be going off full steam...ghee's even!

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 6:17:01 PM

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I just perved your profile. You're not a kid. Stop acting like one. He's either a loser, a liar or a chaos demon. None of those sound like particularly appealing choices.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 6:27:24 PM

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Okay, I am trying to understand how such a perfect man could find such terrible women. {eyeroll} Okay seriously I would have stopped any form of communcation with him after the second e-mail. But you are a big girl and if you want a man that is going to lie to you and steal from you and treat you like crap then by all means take it further. I am curious what self respecting woman or man would want a person that would do that to them. Perhaps you think you change him. You could be the one to save him. Wow, what a pipe dream. I just hope that you find your self respect and run away from this so called man. But if you don't and go futher with this relationship then you will get what the others have recieved from him and then you can become one of the crazy or jealous exes in his life.

< Message edited by mztresn0w -- 9/3/2008 6:28:53 PM >

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 6:41:02 PM

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I am confused about why you are confused. Did you read what you wrote? What the heck makes this guy so interesting you want to join the jerry show? Please tell me it wasn't those few words that have been carefully scripted to entice sub-frenzy.
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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 7:48:11 PM

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It's already been said but i think it needs repeating... RUN... don't walk.
It sounds like nothing but a convoluted mess to me and are you comfortable with him screwing around with one or more others while he's seeing you? Cuz it's more likely he will than not. He's done it before and he'll do it again.
The way to end it... type this in the next email...
"You know, I have given this a lot of thought and reread most of our correspondence and I really don't think this has a chance of working out. I'm going to end this now before either of us gets anymore emotionally involved than we already are. I wish you nothing but the best in your search. Please don't bother to try to contact me - any future emails will be ignored and deleted unread."
i'd write that or something very similar. Remember, you owe him NOTHING! Be polite and look toward the horizon. Oh yeah - good luck in your search!

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 8:03:35 PM

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Thanks everyone for your advice which was all really good. i had dinner with my best friend and she agreed with you all and with what i guess i was feeling but was having trouble getting into my head in words. i guess i should of figured it out a lot earlier but i was trying so hard to be understanding that i wasnt understanding what he was saying if that makes sense. More htan anything it was the slave who wrote to me telling me what a great guy he was and how she wished him all the best that weirded me out because hes lied and cheated on her tons of times (by his own admission) and still she sticks by him and believes that the other women are crazy. I mean that says more about her really but its scary that he can have that effect on people so i wont give him a chance to hypnotize me as well.

So anyway yeah im going to write to him and end what really never began anyway. i thought it did but i guess that was all in my head and so tiem to stop it. So i wont be coming back here in six months saying i should of listened (at least not about him anyway). Promise. And thanks for everyone being so nice even though i was being a dope.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 8:14:35 PM

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Do not worry about being a "dope"..I guarantee that 99% of us on here have been "dopes" as well at one time or another...well.....except me!..I am after all "uber sub"......:0)..Tempting

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 8:19:04 PM

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WTF? Wait, I mean it like this. WTF!!!
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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 8:24:26 PM

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Brunettes are fine!
And Blonde's are fun
But when it comes... to gettin,....... a dirty job done
I;ll take a red headed woman.......

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 8:48:01 PM

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I wouldn't even bother writing anything more than "I'm through with you."

I hope this is the end of story for you and this feller. Run like hell.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 11:07:24 PM

L8bloomer

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... See you around in 6 months when you start up a "I should have listened' thread.

C-D

That long? *grin*

I'd say actions speak louder than words. From what you've described, his past actions with women say more about him than his ability to sweet talk.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/3/2008 11:36:34 PM

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~FR~
I have heard all of the responses and you have some very good advice going on here. There isn't much I can add, except, I wish you well and hope you have the strength to do what you know you must do. It is for your own good and well being.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/4/2008 12:02:47 AM

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This is a classic scenario for abuse. The abuser is charming and sweet at first, moves too fast, professes love even though he doesn't really know you... The victim either has such low self-esteem or is just so clueless and so starved for love and affection, that she lets herself be drawn in.

OP, I don't mean to be harsh but I want to help you save yourself from a lot of pain. This man has the equivalent of a sign on his forehead screaming out "I WILL MAKE YOU MISERABLE, AND I'LL ENJOY IT."
SEE THE SIGN. This man will emotionally and/or physically abuse you. Don't allow it.

I speak from experience, Dear. Cut off all contact with him immediately and don't look back. Save yourself.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/4/2008 12:33:08 AM

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I would say you should pass on this guy.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/4/2008 7:41:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: RedheadedWoman
{5 women who he was seeing all at the same time who didnt know about each other} And even though he cheated on the one woman hes been seeing off and on a bunch of times shes still involved with him.

So, from these sentences right here, you know you can't trust him. He has a history of lying to the women in his life. Why would you want to put your life into the hands of someone that has already proven that they're not trustworthy?

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/4/2008 8:56:37 AM

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Picasso was brilliant..this guy is a childhood painting.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/4/2008 9:01:52 AM

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ive been mailing back and forth with a guy from here for about a month now and while i liked a lot of what he said to me some (a lot) of it is weirding me out. He's sent me tons of information about his past and boy oh boy is there a past. There was a 20-year marriage and then 5 women who he was seeing all at the same time who didnt know about each other but then found out when one of them broke into his account and let them all know about each other. One of the 5 he's been seeing off and on for the last 5 years although there also seems to be two years missing in his history as much as ive been able to figure it all out. And then most recently there was that same woman plus another woman who lent him a bunch of money (he says that she kind of forced the money on him) and then went to the police about him stealing the money (he moved to Canada after breaking up with her but im not sure whether he told her or not) but also with a fake story of abuse and a third woman that he got pregnant twice and kicked him out after her second miscarriage. And even though he cheated on the one woman hes been seeing off and on a bunch of times shes still involved with him. And he calls them all slaves even the ones going back to when he was in college (hes 51 now).

No this isnt Jerry Springer or some weird soap opera. Honestly this is all stuff that he told me and im probably leaving stuff out! He also started talking about "fucking your three pussies" about 5 days after we started talking which really icked me out. But a lot of the stuff that hes written to me is really romantic and ever since i got upset about that email hes been mostly a gentleman in everything hes written. So i really dont know what to do. Hes acted like he knew me from the beginning kind of (i mean in a good way) and wanted me a lot and that sounded great until i started thinking that he didnt really know that much about me (we've never talked on the phone or even IMed) and so who is it that hes wanting?

Wow. Writing this all down in one place makes it sound really crazy but really its all true or i mean that its all true about what hes written me anyway. So do i take a chance on him or is this all too much?

Help?!?

rhw

I'm no saint myself..but if he's still acting like that or he's braggin about it.. Your in for one hell of a ride if you stay.(and not in a good way) People do things and change on occasions

Is he telling you this as a confession of his past or is it.."I really was a douche, ain't it cool"?

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/4/2008 9:06:31 AM

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If you have to ask a bunch of strangers on the internet about a decision you should be making yourself then you have bigger issues. Don't enter any relationship until you can think for yourself.

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RE: Very confused about what to do - 9/4/2008 9:15:47 AM

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nah, toss him in the bin, IMO

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