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corysub -> RE: What Causes Homophobia? (9/6/2008 6:39:36 PM)
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ORIGINAL: candystripper
All my adult life, I've been aware of fear/resentment/hatred among some hetersexual Men towards homosexual Men. Yet I've not noticed it amoung any Women.
It seems we accept all Women...from the most-popular supermodel to the the most Butched-Out Les, as Women. I am unaware of any girlfriend of mine who has ever expressed a fear of 'losing her womanhood' (though some have said they feared losing their 'feminity', and perhaps that's a parallel, but I don't think so.)
So wtf is up with hetersexual Men? By 18 or 21, don't you pretty much 'know', as Women do, what sort of body 'turns your crank'? Do you fear deep inside you you harbor feelings of 'latent homosexuality' and some day, some gorgeous flamer will seduce you?
And if it happened, how would you be any less a Man? Gay Men as as Manly as any other Man; pretty much (with a nod to the intersexxed) if you have the parts, you're a Man..even if someone removes the parts, you're still a Man; just one who's been altered.
(With a nod to the ts/tv/cd's) Women I know do not wring their hands in grief when contacted by a fem lez; perhaps they missed that statement in our profiles that we are straight -- or perhaps we are gay, and delight in receiving such contacts -- but we are all of us Women.
Women do not form gangs which go around beating up lesbian couples, not to my knowledge, and trust me, Women are very bit as group oriented and capable of violence as Men. So, I'm interested in comments on this phenomena.
Any thoughts?
candystripper [sm=pole.gif]
hmmmmmm..The question is "What causes Homophobia"..I guess there are as many answers to this question as the colors in the rainbow that represent the gay movement. For myself, I was homophobic in my teen years...but I am
in the older generation and when I was a teenager gay people were all in the closet and, frankly, I really didn't know much about homosexuality. Ignorance is always at the root of any phobia I guess. Out of the hundreds of boys in my neighborhood I could point to two that were outwardly gay. The rest if us were "macho" if we knew what was good for us. By the way, We neverthought of a girl being lesbian. A girl was either "clean" or a whore but never a lesbian. The Stonewall riots came in my late teens and within a few years the gay liberation movement was well underway. I think lends itself to homophobic reaction among hetero males is that when you have a movement, you also than have those that are on the fringe of the movement. Too activist gays..pushing their gayness on others, I think, is one of the myriad of reasons for the homophobic backlash.
In more recent years, I really feel that homophobia has been relegated to a small and manageable issue...but I am not gay and probably would not feel the same vibes as one who was gay. I am bi, however, and have some wonderful gay friends who I wouldn't trade for anything. I think we are alway going to have some sort of bigotry towards a group, an ethnic population, a religion, and maybe even gender. Can one be bigoted towards the opposite sex? Sorry for the rambling.
I guess that is the human condition and it's failing.
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