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sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 7:07:10 PM   
subcurious74


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Status: offline 		I had another dom tell my dom's not  confident cause he isn't willing to send me out to another dom on my own.
He said,"part of the dom thing,, is to send u out to serve,, and report details".  I'm looking to see what everyone feels and hoping I can rub it in his face as I do not agree most doms do that.  From the conversations I've had.  Please share your thoughts.
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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 7:36:13 PM   
restlessdreamer


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Joined: 3/19/2007
Status: offline 		Psht. Silly girl.

Of course your Dom is insecure for not sharing! How else is he to know how good you are trained unless half the male population of CM can take you for a spin? He should feel utterly shamed for being so selfish!

And you... you are a bad, bad subbie coming to the forums to make such an all-knowing and wise Dom look bad. TsK!

TsK! I say!



(Sorry. The facetious, sarcastic side of me couldn't resist.)

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 7:38:44 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		You know how in chess they say it's always best to sacrifice the OTHER PLAYER'S pieces?  (Well, they say that in chess.)

I'll say it's always best to share SOMEONE ELSE'S sub.  Mine are off-limits.  Sorry, guys.

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 7:42:14 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Its called sour grapes. If someone cant get what they want, that means there is something wrong with it, not with them.
The Dom who wants you to be shared is going to blame your Dom's confidence, or your training, or your trustworthiness. It cant possibly be anything else. Especially not that someone just doesnt allow their subs to be shared. Mine have never and will never be commodities to be shared.

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 7:42:27 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		*snort*

Tell him if he can't get his own, he doesn't deserve a chance to play with other men's girls.

What an idiot.


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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 7:45:28 PM   
sirsholly


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Status: offline 		My guess is the loser can't get a girl on his own so he is looking for a Dom to order his sub to be with him.

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 7:45:57 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		What a lameass.  If you intend to answer that at all the best way is to do it with a little sarcastic humor.  "You have been reading the beauty series haven't you?  Did it make you squirm in pleasure when the prince got it up his ass?  I know that might seen interesting to you but try to remember it was a fictional piece."
Kyst

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 7:55:46 PM   
DomDolf


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Status: offline 		Tell him he has to learn how to spell "you" first. Then he will have enough sense (cents) to buy a clue.

Dolf

Edited to remove words that might get the moderators eyeballing me.

< Message edited by DomDolf -- 9/6/2008 7:57:43 PM >

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 7:59:12 PM   
chamberqueen


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Joined: 10/25/2007
From: Kalamazoo, MI
Status: offline 		What's funny is that I had a Dom tell me a few days ago that my Master is weak because he DOES share me.  Guess you just can't please everyone.

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 8:09:54 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I would tell him that according to the dom loaning out submissive's handbook, the dom must submit a twenty five page document, giving all personal information, all financial information and recommendations from other dom's who have shared submissives with him.  Make him prove what page it is not on if he disputes this. 

Why waste time talking to an idiot... you really can't prove anything more than they have already proven... they are an idiot.

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 8:28:12 PM   
subcurious74


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Status: offline 		TY all I am quite happy and hope he reads.

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 8:42:28 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL...he said what??????            Yea,right?

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 9:00:48 PM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		Just block him. Don't bother thinking about him. If you are not into being shared, then that's all that needs to be said.
Block, delete, ignore.

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 10:00:27 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Well the reality is that most people are too insecure to have an open relationship.  But that doesn't mean that's the reason why YOU choose not to be in an open situation, and it's certainly not part and parcel of being in a Ds situation.  Ask him where he bought his rulebook from and that he should ask for a refund.

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/6/2008 11:38:57 PM   
Daes


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Joined: 4/20/2007
From: Diamond Bar, SoCal
Status: offline 		Some share, some dont. Mine doesnt, but it doesnt mean Im not open to the idea either. Still its not something I /need/ to have, we're happy, and thats what matters.

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/7/2008 5:43:22 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		why are you talking to this man in the first place is my only question?

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/7/2008 5:58:15 AM   
sirsholly


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Status: offline 		but ya know....you could tell him your Dom charges a fee (500.00 sounds 'bout right). Have him Western Union the dough then send a "Dear Dumbass" thank you note.....

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/7/2008 6:14:41 AM   
Skully7000


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Status: offline 		my situation: I love sharing with close friends and leather family(or if they are a someone who is well respected and I have the oppurtunity to watch and learn)

what I respect: someone who chooses not to share, or who doesn't hesitate to say "not now she needs my attention now. but I'll keep it in mind for another time"(coming from a family member I know the line wasn't bullshit)

what I don't Respect: someone who doesn't share because they are AFRAID of loosing their partner. Also someone who tries to Steal the Sub away from their owner.

Honestly, if I want to play with someone who has a partner...its just play and I have every intention of giving them back after the scene. I don't want to keep a submissive that left their previous Dom in order to be with me...how can I ever truly trust that they won't just up and leave me for the next Dom.

Cheers
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RE: sharing of subs - 9/7/2008 9:12:08 AM   
kiwisub12


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ORIGINAL: subcurious74

I had another dom tell my dom's not  confident cause he isn't willing to send me out to another dom on my own.
He said,"part of the dom thing,, is to send u out to serve,, and report details".  I'm looking to see what everyone feels and hoping I can rub it in his face as I do not agree most doms do that.  From the conversations I've had.  Please share your thoughts.



He must have really read the "Dom Book of Ways To Behave Properly" thoroughly. My Sir doesn't recall that section - but he told me when i met him that he might share me with others - but he would be there the whole time!

However i am glad that he is following the "One Twue Way of Doms".  Its nice that someone is twue to the letter of the law. .  After all, if there isn't someone who is willing to instruct others then the ignorance just compounds itself, until ignorance reigns.  and that would be bad!

i'm fairly sure that there are not rules set in stone about how a dom "must" act. If there were, there would probably be an official school with a curriculum, and tests and teachers with straps and rulers to maintain discipline......   you know, some of that actually sounds like fun  ...... 

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RE: sharing of subs - 9/7/2008 9:20:31 AM   
TwilightShadows


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From: twilight
Status: offline 		I think it would break my heart to be shared.  I guess that's because D/s is not an activity for me like going to the movies.  It's hard, it's revealing, it takes trust and work and love.  I'm not a band saw, for crying out loud, I'm a complicately emotional creature, lol.

(I'm not a slave, so I won't be shared - hard limit for me). 

To each his/her own. 

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