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ScooterTrash -> RE: Don't look here... (9/8/2008 4:51:27 PM)
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ORIGINAL: masterforRT
Don't waste your time looking for 'the one' here. Most won't find them here. Instead, go to a dungeon, or a munch-anything local to you.
You might find some friends and acquaintances here, but very few willing to commit. And frankly who can blame them? It's much easier to feel out about someone in person-when you can look at them, see their body language, etc..
I read this early this morning and it irritated me, but I thought I would give it more thought before commenting. I didn't feel better about it this evening. I don't know if this comment comes from a case of sour grapes or is simply inexperience talking, but this is bad advice, plain and simple. I've been to plenty of munches and can say from experience, that the majority of folks you will encounter are already attached or so deeply nested in their own little subgroups that your chance of finding someone there is slim to nonexistent. A few, you really don't want to see any body language from, take my work for it. At best you may actually talk to a half dozen people every week and it would require lengthy conversations just to get you to the same level you would be at by reading a decently written profile. Don't fool yourself either; there are just as many players in the real live world as there are on the Internet. Certainly you will be able (in most cases) to verify they are the sex they claim, but the validity ends there. I have spoke to many folks in person who were just as far out of the label they claimed to fit in as many of the online Ds & Ss. Dungeons if you can even find one near you, are going to be the same problem except worse. Besides, why would you want to limit yourself to so very few opportunities? Utilizing on-line searches opens you up to literally a world of possibilities. Of course you can pare that down to your own country or even state, but even at that you have multiplied your chances exponentially. The same cautions need to be exercised and perhaps even more so, but I can speak from experience that even though you will have to kiss a lot of frogs, your choice of frogs is greatly increased. Don't shirk off the opportunities of utilizing modern electronic communications just because there are a few bad apples...those apples grow in your local community as well, don't think they don't.
As an FYI, I met my Co-dominant and wife on-line and our female slave of many years, on-line. Neither of them lived next door, by a long shot. There would not have been a "by chance" meeting, in those cases and in my opinion, that would have been a terrible loss.
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly
all those who have met their partners here, myself and my husband included, call bullshit on this....
I second that motion!
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