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RE: No You Can't - 9/11/2008 10:40:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
start thinking about stuff that turns you off. from subtle little nuances to the grossest most vile thing you could think of. and it doesn't have to be sexual either, although that helps.

When my orgasms were controlled, I began with this practice, as well, and it was helpful.

Here are some other "tricks" I used, to help with the process:

* Practice practice practice. On my own, I would bring myself to nearly an orgasm, and as I felt that internal rise reaching the point of no return (yet not quite there yet), I would back off a little and hold it. I would practice holding it right there, and when I accomplished holding it, I would practice holding a little longer...a little longer...a little longer.

* Focus. As I reached that point, I would tense my body up and focus on holding it. This meant not allowing my thoughts to wander anywhere else but the energy that had built up in my body. If I lost focus on that, I would almost always lose it. The mind is extremely powerful.

* Those times I did "lose it," I wouldn't allow (or I would try like mad not to allow) the orgasm to fully explode. This often times meant clenching my body so tight, coiling up into a ball, and focusing all my energy on stopping. Admittedly, this was usually quite painful, but at least I didn't complete the orgasm. When my body calmed, I would try again.

* Don't beat yourself up over not accomplishing this. You are working with the body's natural progression. Would you beat yourself up for bleeding if you're cut?

* The place I ultimately came to is, when I was reaching orgasm with him, I would bring myself to where I mentioned above - where I brought myself just shy of reaching that "peak" - that point of no return, and I would hold it there until he gave the OK to orgasm. It was no easy feat, mind you. The longer I would hold it, the more painful it would become. My body would tremble, my eyes would well up, and finally (and his favorite), I would beg beg beg for release (sometimes he would allow it, sometimes he would not). But if every time you bring yourself to orgasm, you pull back just shy of "going over", you might be amazed at how long you can hold at that agonizing place. It was exhausting for me, but he loved it. And if/when he finally allowed me to go over, the orgasms were explosive and often times overwhelming.

* Give yourself time. Holding for extended periods of time took me a very long time to learn. Be patient. If you're trying, I can't see your Dominant being disappointed in your efforts. It took me a lot of work, concentration and energy. Admittedly, it got to a point where orgasms were not always very enjoyable for me, but then I was doing them for him not me. Usually after an orgasm like this, I would be exhausted afterward, in need of rest (I remember one of his other slaves calling me a wimp for needing to rest after cumming).

My best to you with this!!

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