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Aileen1968 -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 5:10:09 AM)
Eeew. I hate group hugs. Cooties.

IrishMist -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 5:11:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Eeew. I hate group hugs. Cooties. Just think of all the annonomous pinches you might receive [:D][;)]

RCdc -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 5:14:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied But it's a great form of entertainment! The theatre is entertaining. Dinner with friends is entertaining. Going out and breathing in some fresh air is highly enjoyable. quote: A little bit of common sense would assist the op in this case. And age and a bit more experience may assist the OP too. Although age doesn't always mean a thing. That has been proven. the.dark.

califsue -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 5:58:56 AM)
Well, first of all is he just a trainer or your Master/Dom? There are too many unaswered questions to really provide an answer. I would suggest if you are new to scour the forums and read, read and read some more. Although some Master/Doms collar quickly, most don't and will take their time getting to know you before collaring. You are only 18, fairly new to the website. There are things that could have happened, he may have gotten what he wanted from you when you met on 9/10/08. If he doesn't have the guts to tell you, then get over him and move on as he isn't someone you would really want anyway.

BlackPhx -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 6:06:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 Well, the post is sort of well, I say myself,"is this a troll?" Collared for 2 days? Havent heard from them in a day and is lost? Come on! I didnt hear from my Master last night. I guess I should freak out! Blackphx and I have been together for 5 years now, face to face and in real time..when he doesn't contact me when expected and scheduled to do so..I panic, get angry, worried, and have even contacted his office if it carries over to the next day. Usually it is because his phone charger was lost or he was exhausted or couldn't get wi-fi where he was, but that doesn't stop me from worrying about him. He is 40 I am 55..he is still my heart and my life. While the OP is young, that doesn't make her worry any less valid. There are many Doctors who knew in grade school what they wanted to do..and they are not the only ones. CJ.. take a deep breath and try and relax. There are many reasons some one may not have contacted you when expected to. Not all of them are bad and few have anything to do with you. The best laid plans of mice and men and all that. Cell phones get lost, computers crash, work beckons. If you have not heard from him by the weekend, then yes it is possible that he has changed his mind and is too much of a coward to say anything. Relationships take time to form and deepen, especially BDSM ones as they involve a level of trust most people dont achieve with casual dating. You are young, take your time and enjoy exploring your life and need, don't just rush in. It is not all Sleeping Beauty or Exit to Eden. There are many dangers and piutfalls out there even for the old and wary. If you can, hook up with your local munch or Next Gen Munch and get to know yourself and your local community. You will find a great support network there, and people who can advise you better than we can on a forum. Good luck poenkitten Portions of this message have been removed by Moderator Twelve for your reading pleasure and to fit the guidelines of the TOS

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 6:27:48 AM)
~fast reply~ I think one reason I feel compelled to offer compassion, even though the situation is somewhat absurd revolves around something that happened just not so long ago. I have a friend who has been happily dating. She's been ecstatic, and on top of the world. I saw her one day, and she looked like the world had just fallen down on her head and she was doing all she could do to stand upright -- the human version of The Caryatid Carrying Her Stone (see Rodin). I took the time to find out what had happened, and discovered that just a couple of days before, she'd gone to see her boyfriend and found that he had died in his sleep. I'm not talking about someone -old- here... these folks are in their early 30s! Sometimes, things happen. It behooves us to show a bit of compassion and a bit of tact. You never know what could be sitting on the other side of that unknown situation. Calla Firestorm

candystripper -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 6:46:23 AM)
Jade, perhaps this was not meant to be. Pull yourself together and ask if this is how you want to be treated. When you hear from him, decide then if his conduct is acceptable. candystripper [sm=pole.gif]

lusciouslips19 -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 7:16:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar We were supposed to offer emphaty and compassion????? Next it will be a group hug. No one is 'supposed' to offer or do anything. I'll pass on the hug. I am kind of fussy on who I canoodle with. the.dark. You are so Hawt when you use words like "canoodle"[:D]

lusciouslips19 -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 7:31:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlackPhx quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 Well, the post is sort of well, I say myself,"is this a troll?" Collared for 2 days? Havent heard from them in a day and is lost? Come on! I didnt hear from my Master last night. I guess I should freak out! Blackphx and I have been together for 5 years now, face to face and in real time..when he doesn't contact me when expected and scheduled to do so..I panic, get angry, worried, and have even contacted his office if it carries over to the next day. Usually it is because his phone charger was lost or he was exhausted or couldn't get wi-fi where he was, but that doesn't stop me from worrying about him. He is 40 I am 55..he is still my heart and my life. While the OP is young, that doesn't make her worry any less valid. There are many Doctors who knew in grade school what they wanted to do..and they are not the only ones. CJ.. take a deep breath and try and relax. There are many reasons some one may not have contacted you when expected to. Not all of them are bad and few have anything to do with you. The best laid plans of mice and men and all that. Cell phones get lost, computers crash, work beckons. If you have not heard from him by the weekend, then yes it is possible that he has changed his mind and is too much of a coward to say anything. Relationships take time to form and deepen, especially BDSM ones as they involve a level of trust most people dont achieve with casual dating. You are young, take your time and enjoy exploring your life and need, don't just rush in. It is not all Sleeping Beauty or Exit to Eden. There are many dangers and piutfalls out there even for the old and wary. If you can, hook up with your local munch or Next Gen Munch and get to know yourself and your local community. You will find a great support network there, and people who can advise you better than we can on a forum. Good luck poenkitten poen, while I agree to a point...My Master didnt call last night. he most likely fell asleep exhausted getting home late from work. I know this but it was hard getting to sleep without his phone call. However, the OP didnt specify how long there relationship is. At 18 how do we know they didnt meet 2 days ago or 3 days ago? What if there relationship is online only? If you notice the Op hasnt been back to give any more details. It just seemed far fetched and made up drama. yes, I know I could be wrong. However, we need the Op to enlighten us with the details for us to determine if its real . *Portions of the quoted message have been edited by Moderator Twelve for your reading pleasure and to fit the guidelines of the TOS.*

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 7:37:25 AM)
awwwww....teen love.......wait i mean drama..... those were the good old days.....

RCdc -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 7:41:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 You are so Hawt when you use words like "canoodle"[:D] Pffft - I am so, even without da words. When you shimmy your butt over here for a visit, I'll show ya just how hawt.[:D][;)] the.dark.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 7:48:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 You are so Hawt when you use words like "canoodle"[:D] Pffft - I am so, even without da words. When you shimmy your butt over here for a visit, I'll show ya just how hawt.[:D][;)] the.dark. In the words of my mentor Jimmy Durante.... Ha cha cha!!!![:D][;)]

sweetpeasmiles -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 8:16:41 AM)
all good thoughts for the op.... but i'm still giggling about the deranged lemming visual....

thetammyjo -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 8:46:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CollarJade [&:] Can anybody help me ad tell me how to figure out why my trainer will not talk to me? i have done nothing wrong and he said we would get together on 9/10/08 which we did but he also said we woulod be together on 9/11/08 as well and i have had not contact from him at all today concerning why we did not meet last night....i am scared when i have only been collared for about 2 days now.......i have not disobayed him at all.....I feel scared and lost without knowing what is going on? please someone help me....my heart is bleeding[:(] i kind of feel like a child left out on her own...no shelter and no arms to keep me safe and warm Your trainer collared you? We aren't using the term "trainer" in the same way apparently. You have allowed yourself to emotional bound far too quickly, dear. You will need to go through a grieving process and slow things down the next time. My biggest piece of advice for this is to not confuse dominant with trainer -- they can go together but if someone is just your trainer, I don't think they should be collaring you. Second piece of advice is to check out anyone who claims to be a trainer. How well known are they in the local or regional community? Can they give you contact information for folks they have previously trained? Can the offer a formal process for training that you both approve and sign on to (literally in fact)? Are there clearly stated goals for you to be working on as you train? If even one of these isn't a positive result, I'd move on to another potential trainer. Obviously to do all of this you need to get into your local or regional community. Yes, it will be scary to do on your own but honestly in my experience it is the best way to find partners, learn about yourself and train.

stella41b -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 8:56:58 AM)
No tears little angel Your heart is in good hands You will grow, you will learn And maybe even travel to distant lands No worries little angel Your tears will soon fade away You'll overcome the pain and stand Once again without fear Don't give up little angel For even though you are down Along will come one who is better for you And you will forget to frown Have faith little angel Don't let people play with your heart Let the fools play their games Just take care and make another start..

justgemmie -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 9:55:49 AM)
greetings everyone greetings luscious! sweet tag line ~~ You're never too old to become younger. Mae West just wanted to let you know :) gemmie

seababy -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 10:05:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Eeew. I hate group hugs. Cooties. I lurve you!

hopelessfool -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 10:09:38 AM)
How can one be a deranged lemming, I thought they followed the leader... Were you the leader of the lemmings? Did you make them do deranged things like spank each other for your amusement?

RealSub58 -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 10:21:31 AM)
edited to say, if the op comes back [sm=welcome.gif] quote: ORIGINAL: CollarJade [&:] when i have only been collared for about 2 days now.......i have not disobayed him at all.....I feel scared and lost without knowing what is going on? please someone help me....my heart is bleeding[:(] i kind of feel like a child left out on her own...no shelter and no arms to keep me safe and warm You will have MORE heartbreak. Joining and in less than a week being collared says the foundation of your relationship isn't strong. Velcro collars are put on unsuspecting "slaves." Yes my opinion/judgment after reading your profile and now this post of plea. Personally, collars are as sacred as wedding vows. I am owned and not collared, for well over 18 months now. Each day is a journey and each day the commitment stronger. In regards to "no shelter".... Obviously, to me, the control of your mind and heart is not in this relationship. Ownership means control and with each day, control and submission grows deeper. Now there is obviously a whole other story behind this......

RapierFugue -> RE: HELP!!! (9/12/2008 10:26:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hopelessfool How can one be a deranged lemming, I thought they followed the leader... Were you the leader of the lemmings? Did you make them do deranged things like spank each other for your amusement? That’s so got to be a euphemism: “Yeah, she was pretty hot for me, so I spanked her lemming and she came so hard she nerfed my gerbil”.

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