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HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 2:24:08 AM   
CollarJade


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Status: offline 		 Can anybody help me ad tell me how to figure out why my trainer will not talk to me? i have done nothing wrong and he said we would get together on 9/10/08 which we did but he also said we woulod be together on 9/11/08 as well and i have had not contact from him at all today concerning why we did not meet last night....i am scared   when i have only been collared for about 2 days now.......i have not disobayed him at all.....I feel scared and lost without knowing what is going on? please someone help me....my heart is bleeding  i kind of feel like a child left out on her own...no shelter and no arms to keep me safe and warm

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 2:28:38 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		How do you contact him?  Call him?  Online only? 
There is too little information Jade to answer.  He may have been called away, he might be an asshole.  Is this real meetings?
 
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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 2:50:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Jade, you're only 18, you've yet to live.  Have a cup of Earl Gray tea, relax....  Put him on ignore. 

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 3:34:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		His wife may have found out he was a Dom talking to a teenybopper and beat the shit out of him. Mabey they took away his internet priveliges in prison. The list is endless. Mabey you should try living a normal life before you jump into this one. As you have seen this one is fraught with heartache and rejection. Sort of like a sad country song.

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 3:37:56 AM   
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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 3:39:39 AM   
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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:02:46 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		And this, dear readers, is a classic example of why you should not come onto forums and ask a bunch of strangers for advice.
 
Compassion nil - Empathy none.
 
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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:08:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		We were supposed to offer emphaty and compassion????? Next it will be a group hug.

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:10:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CollarJade

 Can anybody help me ad tell me how to figure out why my trainer will not talk to me? i have done nothing wrong and he said we would get together on 9/10/08 which we did but he also said we woulod be together on 9/11/08 as well and i have had not contact from him at all today concerning why we did not meet last night....i am scared   when i have only been collared for about 2 days now.......i have not disobayed him at all.....I feel scared and lost without knowing what is going on? please someone help me....my heart is bleeding  i kind of feel like a child left out on her own...no shelter and no arms to keep me safe and warm


Hello jade...unfortunately - not that much information to build good advice on here...but here goes:

1. how long had you known him before you got collared?
2. is this an online thing only?
3. if not - have you even met real time?
4. How much time did you spend with him before the collar came on?
5. do you have any other means than a mail addy to contact him by?

As you see...many posts above here tell you what they think - and i am afraid also that he might be one of those collar-collectors - fun with the chase...when that is done - they move on to the next target.

Could also be a legit reason (sick  - broken pc etc)...you can not fall apart after 2 days, doll - if you do - you are sure to have a rough life ahead.

If you do not hear from him again - chalk it up to experience...and move on - hopefully a little wiser and maybe a tad less trusting...

You are 18 - a child at heart and mind - smiles - you should learn about life first and foremost - learn about yourself - before you trust yourself in someone elses control...s...

good luck - and find your smile again.


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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:10:38 AM   
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And this, dear readers, is a classic example of why you should not come onto forums and ask a bunch of strangers for advice.
 
Compassion nil - Empathy none.
 
the.dark.



Well, the post is sort of well, I say myself,"is this a troll?" Collared for 2 days? Havent heard from them in a day and is lost? Come on! I didnt hear from my Master last night. I guess I should freak out!

Maybe people shouldnt come here for advice for things like that?

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:12:38 AM   
RCdc


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We were supposed to offer emphaty and compassion????? Next it will be a group hug.



No one is 'supposed' to offer or do anything.
I'll pass on the hug.  I am kind of fussy on who I canoodle with.
 
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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:14:11 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		Oh dear oh dear....what does your collar look like? are you gonna give it back?

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:14:26 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

We were supposed to offer emphaty and compassion????? Next it will be a group hug.


I like hugs! :).

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:17:48 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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ORIGINAL: CollarJade

 Can anybody help me ad tell me how to figure out why my trainer will not talk to me? i have done nothing wrong and he said we would get together on 9/10/08 which we did but he also said we woulod be together on 9/11/08 as well and i have had not contact from him at all today concerning why we did not meet last night....i am scared   when i have only been collared for about 2 days now.......i have not disobayed him at all.....I feel scared and lost without knowing what is going on? please someone help me....my heart is bleeding  i kind of feel like a child left out on her own...no shelter and no arms to keep me safe and warm


It sounds like this guy was playing games with you because you were easy to play games with. The internet is full of people like that sadly, don't worry, there are plenty of sincere people about as well, just hang in there. :).

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:23:18 AM   
RCdc


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Well, the post is sort of well, I say myself,"is this a troll?" Collared for 2 days? Havent heard from them in a day and is lost? Come on! I didnt hear from my Master last night. I guess I should freak out!


It could be anything, lusciousone.  But regardless of the posters intentions, there are those out there who are genuiningly going through similar trauma.

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Maybe people shouldnt come here for advice for things like that?
 
That isn't up to anyone to decide for others - but it is a classic example of why one shouldn't(as I stated above).  Personally, I don't believe people should be asking advice at all.  But that is another thread entirely.
 
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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:23:22 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

And this, dear readers, is a classic example of why you should not come onto forums and ask a bunch of strangers for advice.
 
Compassion nil - Empathy none.
 
the.dark.



Well, the post is sort of well, I say myself,"is this a troll?" Collared for 2 days? Havent heard from them in a day and is lost? Come on! I didnt hear from my Master last night. I guess I should freak out!

Maybe people shouldnt come here for advice for things like that?

 
 
 Hmph.

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 4:47:21 AM   
RapierFugue


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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

And this, dear readers, is a classic example of why you should not come onto forums and ask a bunch of strangers for advice.
 
Compassion nil - Empathy none.
 
the.dark.

 
Tempting as it is to leap in and rip the whassname, I find myself oddly in agreement with you, sort of ... on the one hand, this is a public forum, so people are free to say what they wish, within reason, and there’s also the fact that people have seen this sort of thing so many times, so compassion fatigue sets in, primarily as we all know what the likely cause is, but as you seem (from the posts of yours I’ve read) to be such a decent sort I’ll say yeah, ok, maybe people should try to help a little more and judge a little less.
 
To the OP: it doesn’t look good, but there may be a perfectly logical explanation – my net connection once died for days – have you another way of contacting him?  All you can do is be patient, relax as much as possible, and wait, though I suggest going out and doing things, rather than waiting in and just worrying.  If he gets in touch then you’ll get an explanation, and if he doesn’t then he was either an idiot or his courage failed him, and you don’t want to be involved with either sort of chap.
 
There: that’s my one “nice” post of the year.  Took long enough to turn up, and reads as completely gaylord, but what the hell – spread a little happiness as you go by, etc etc
 

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 5:03:21 AM   
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And this, dear readers, is a classic example of why you should not come onto forums and ask a bunch of strangers for advice.


But it's a great form of entertainment!

A little bit of common sense would assist the op in this case. 


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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 5:06:47 AM   
RapierFugue


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

And this, dear readers, is a classic example of why you should not come onto forums and ask a bunch of strangers for advice.


But it's a great form of entertainment!

A little bit of common sense would assist the op in this case. 



I don’t know about you, but when I was 18 I had all the commonsense of a deranged lemming.
 
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Many would argue I'm not a great deal better now

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RE: HELP!!! - 9/12/2008 5:07:07 AM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

We were supposed to offer emphaty and compassion????? Next it will be a group hug.

Group hug?
Where?
I want one.


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