Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Why you need to pay a pro-domme


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> Why you need to pay a pro-domme Page: [1] 2 3 4   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 7:13:20 AM   
MsIncontrol


Posts: 261
Joined: 10/3/2007
Status: offline 		My lovely new lover and I, also a lifestyle FemmeDomme, were chatting online today as we do most days lately and were discussing my upcoming plans for formulating a new kinky class.  I'm particularly interested in the fine lines of demarcation between lifestyle and Pro Dommes, where those lines intersect and how, when and if they coalesce.  As a prelude to this post, let me say that I adore ProDommes, do not find them "in competition" with lifestyle Dommes, and have a couple current or former ones as close friends.  Professional Dominas provide a much-needed and valuable service to kinky men and I don't seek to discredit them in any way.  However, there are radical differences in why woman dominate for money and why lifestyle Dommes do not, so seeking out one type when you really should be fishing for another is a huge and unfortunately all-too common mistake for submissive men.  If you're a submissive male and reading this, it IS advice.  Additional note: this is a TOTALLY non-politically correct post.  You have been warned.

YOU MAY WANT TO SEE A PRO DOMME IF...

1. You are married and your wife "just doesn't understand you" but wouldn't mind if you let a stranger whip you and fuck you up the ass.
2. You travel a lot for business and will only be in my town overnight this week, but oh so want to "serve" a beautiful woman.
3. You are a one-trick pony and need someone to indulge your desire to be a toilet, a slutty whore dressed in panties, or want to try that strap-on...but just once.
4. You are a high-powered executive, politician or other self-imposed important figure and need 100% discretion, 100% of the time.  You really aren't submissive; you just want to experience what it's like to give up control.
5. You are a leather/latex/PVC fetishist and want to see the BEST wardrobes on the most conventionally attractive women.  Most lifestyle Dommes aren't going to be able to afford to indulge your every fashionista whim.
6. You are not interested in or won't make time for a full-time Dominant female partner.  Or, you are not interested in getting married/re-married to a Dominant woman.
7. You have committment issues and don't want to work on them but still want to be able to "submit" as you see fit and when your schedule allows.
8. You are a kinky bisexual man partnered to another man and want to be able to indulge in your attraction to women on an occasional basis.
9. You are kinky, independently wealthy, and like getting what you want, when you want it, regardless of cost.
10. You have a controlling nature and want to run the scene from the bottom, having your fantasy fulfilled to the tiniest detail. 


I know it sounds bitchy, and I guess it is.  But sheesh, when will they GET it???

Written in conjunction with:  KinkyArtemis

_____________________________

Happiness is only real when shared. - Christopher McCandless
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 7:17:47 AM   
Lynnxz


Posts: 4813
Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline
Hehehe-  ^_^

*Waits patiently for the "OMG WHORES" posts*


< Message edited by Lynnxz -- 9/13/2008 7:18:17 AM >

_____________________________

HBIC



(in reply to MsIncontrol)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 7:20:21 AM   
HandSolo


Posts: 323
Joined: 11/22/2007
Status: offline 		11. You want to find somebody to play with, and you don't feel like searching for three or ten years. ;)

_____________________________

I plan on leaving this world the way I came in: naked, screaming and by accident.

(in reply to Lynnxz)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 7:21:38 AM   
MsIncontrol


Posts: 261
Joined: 10/3/2007
Status: offline 		Oh..they pay for it one way or the other.  Sure, I do not charge per session....my hubbie got on his knees at my feet and offered me a beautiful diamond ring...when he begged to be mine for life.   I'm thinking that he could have gotten quite a number of (hundreds) $200 sessions for the price of that ring...he he he he.

_____________________________

Happiness is only real when shared. - Christopher McCandless

(in reply to Lynnxz)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 7:23:03 AM   
MsIncontrol


Posts: 261
Joined: 10/3/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: HandSolo

11. You want to find somebody to play with, and you don't feel like searching for three or ten years. ;)


Absolutely!  That is great.  Also add, if you live in BFE and don't want to re-locate to a city where there are a number of choices.

< Message edited by MsIncontrol -- 9/13/2008 7:40:45 AM >

_____________________________

Happiness is only real when shared. - Christopher McCandless

(in reply to HandSolo)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 7:27:28 AM   
Tantriqu


Posts: 2026
Joined: 12/29/2006
Status: offline 		#11:  you don't relate well to real-time humans, and only venture out of your apartment to pay to have your Xena, Angelina and anime porn fantasies fulfilled

(in reply to MsIncontrol)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 7:29:23 AM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		THANK YOU, this is great!

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to Tantriqu)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 7:35:36 AM   
chiaThePet


Posts: 2694
Joined: 2/4/2007
Status: offline 		 
OMG S'MORES!

chia* (the pet)

_____________________________

Love is a many splendid sting.

You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.

(in reply to MsIncontrol)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 7:36:55 AM   
Lynnxz


Posts: 4813
Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


OMG S'MORES!

chia* (the pet)





_____________________________

HBIC



(in reply to chiaThePet)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 8:23:48 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


Posts: 5824
Status: offline 		#11 if you look like and are just as hairy as one of them geico cavemen.

_____________________________

I did not reply to your cmail.
I am flawed.
Imperfect.
MUST SPANK!!!
SPAAAAAAAANK!!!

(in reply to Lynnxz)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 8:33:35 AM   
MsIncontrol


Posts: 261
Joined: 10/3/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

#11 if you look like and are just as hairy as one of them geico cavemen.


I think you can save some money and just go to a salon for some waxing.  I know every wax technician I've ever had has been a complete sadist!  Save money and get your back waxed at the same time!!

_____________________________

Happiness is only real when shared. - Christopher McCandless

(in reply to faerytattoodgirl)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 8:59:42 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


Posts: 5824
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MsIncontrol

quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

#11 if you look like and are just as hairy as one of them geico cavemen.


I think you can save some money and just go to a salon for some waxing.  I know every wax technician I've ever had has been a complete sadist!  Save money and get your back waxed at the same time!!


okay..but i meant for a dif reason since chances are this caveman is single...and desperate.  LOL


_____________________________

I did not reply to your cmail.
I am flawed.
Imperfect.
MUST SPANK!!!
SPAAAAAAAANK!!!

(in reply to MsIncontrol)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 10:39:53 AM   
Wheldrake


Posts: 477
Status: offline 		I suppose the short version is that you should go to a pro domme if you want to experience submission on your own terms - and a lifestyle domme if you're ready to experience submission on someone else's.

(in reply to faerytattoodgirl)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 10:49:39 AM   
zakkan


Posts: 606
Joined: 4/15/2008
Status: offline 		#12. You are trying to get some new ideas for your lifestyle dom.

#13. You have some ideas, but you want someone to try it out on you first before you suggest it to your lifestyle dom, in case you find out you don't like it but she does.

#14. You don't know what you want, and you are trying to get some ideas.




_____________________________

Silence! I keel you!

(in reply to Wheldrake)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 10:51:57 AM   
tasha_tart


Posts: 385
Joined: 2/20/2004
From: Ontario, Canada
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

#11:  you don't relate well to real-time humans, and only venture out of your apartment to pay to have your Xena, Angelina and anime porn fantasies fulfilled


Damn...who told?



Tasha


_____________________________


"Sex without love is an empty experience. But as empty experiences go, it's one of the better ones."...Woody Allen

(in reply to Tantriqu)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 11:07:29 AM   
OneMoreWaste


Posts: 910
Joined: 8/24/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MsIncontrol
6. You are not interested in or won't make time for a full-time Dominant female partner.  Or, you are not interested in getting married/re-married to a Dominant woman.


I don't think it's entirely correct to assume that there are NO Dominant Women out there who are looking for play-only partners or Friends-With-Beatings

(in reply to MsIncontrol)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 11:22:55 AM   
Coupleofwhats


Posts: 280
Joined: 6/4/2008
Status: offline 		Great post!

(Although, I do want to point out that some Pro Dommes are also Lifestyle.)

Here are some more reasons to see a Pro:
- You're older but only want to play with very young and attractive women.

- You enjoy play that is higher in risk and you want someone with a lot of experience.

- You prefer scenes with elaborate outfits/playspaces and a plethora of implements.

< Message edited by Coupleofwhats -- 9/13/2008 11:24:45 AM >

_____________________________

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fm6JgZ35w8w

(in reply to MsIncontrol)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 11:22:55 AM   
Alixandria


Posts: 101
Joined: 2/27/2005
From: Edmonton, Alberta
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: OneMoreWaste

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsIncontrol
6. You are not interested in or won't make time for a full-time Dominant female partner.  Or, you are not interested in getting married/re-married to a Dominant woman.


I don't think it's entirely correct to assume that there are NO Dominant Women out there who are looking for play-only partners or Friends-With-Beatings


Of course, you're right.  I would have been one of them had I not gotten disgusted with the search and given up.  Having a narrow range of kinks hurts your chances from the top side as well as the bottom.  However, the bulk of women who are actually *looking* through a site like this one can get their occasional play itch scratched through the regular community things they do.  Once they make it here, they are looking for something that isn't easily found through their casual contacts in the scene.

In my case, I was approached by lots of bottoms (and considered approaching some more who I talked with regularly), but it was made clear by these bottoms that they wanted a fully formed scene with all of the proper accouterments, the fully developed skillset and (preferably) me dressed in the latest kink gear.  They did not want some rank beginner experimenting on the way to getting good ("I can't stand it when I can escape from the bondage").  That is, unless I would consent to play "tease and denial" games which I absolutely refused to do.

So yes, if a fellow simply has the need to get their play needs satisfied on a schedule, they have a better chance if paying for it.  If I had been more affluent, I would have considered paying for it.

Alix


(in reply to OneMoreWaste)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 11:33:40 AM   
Misstoyou


Posts: 1149
Joined: 9/4/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MsIncontrol


YOU MAY WANT TO SEE A PRO DOMME IF...



6. You are not interested in or won't make time for a full-time Dominant female partner.  Or, you are not interested in getting married/re-married to a Dominant woman.

[/link]


Using myself as an example, not all un-attached lifestyle Dommes are looking for a full-time life-time committment. I don't disagree with the rest of the list, but please, please, please don't send all the part-time submissives to the pros! lol


_____________________________

~ Miss Marie

a.k.a. "mean Lady"


(in reply to MsIncontrol)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Why you need to pay a pro-domme - 9/13/2008 11:38:40 AM   
Lynnxz


Posts: 4813
Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats

Great post!

(Although, I do want to point out that some Pro Dommes are also Lifestyle.)

Here are some more reasons to see a Pro:
- You're older but only want to play with very young and attractive women.



Hahahaha... yes!


_____________________________

HBIC



(in reply to Coupleofwhats)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3 4   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> Why you need to pay a pro-domme Page: [1] 2 3 4   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.125