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I really respect Ranger's comments in general - and don't care a bit whether he's arrogant or not - but there is lots of remarkably slack reasoning (read NONSENSE) in the thread. I pick on Ranger because I think he can handle a friendly smack upside the head:

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Oh man - so every CEO who tries to make his company more productive is admitting that his company isn't very productive in the first place? I hope your independent business since 24 isn't about building bridges, there, Ranger, or Air Traffic Controllers R Us.

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Business is good, folks. I feel like James Fulton next to the river before any of youse has seen my poor little Folly! For four years I've been living in this boat, and it floats. About 30% growth rate. Just want to kick it up a notch, make it more fun.

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The thing that has struck me all along about your concept is the common misunderstanding sub men have about how a femdom's energy works, how she gets motivated, how she expresses herself and how she uses her passion. I would argue that it would be easier for a *woman* (not a femdom) to play the role you outline than it would be for a full fledged, self aware femdom.

Sub men idealize femdoms as having an undercurrent, easily tappable, constantly available resource of dominant energy, imagination, drive and passion. We are all different; but one thing I believe is consistent is that we do not have nearly the constant source of femdom motivation they desire or fantasize about -- and, more importantly, we can't turn it on and shut it off when it is convenient. Most important is that we can't turn it on "in order to get things done" with our partner, or when shackled with the idea that a secondary thing hangs in the balance if we don't "suck it up" and put on the femdom mode.

Some of us operate on a pretty steady flow of femdom energy and passion, but still, it can't be "on call" or tagged as a "resource" that creates a sense of obligation. And yes, it's easy for you to down play it now and say you don't mean to be micromanaged or that this is overanalyzed, but we've all BEEN in situations with a sub that is passive aggressive, pouting, being lethargic to try to get us to "motivate" him, pouting because we aren't "in the mood" at that given moment.

We prefer relationships where our dominant energy is appreciated for what it is -- natural.

The reason I think a vanilla (money motivated) woman would be better at this is she can "fake it" at will. Any femdom can show a vanilla woman "these are the tasks you need to assign to keep his dick hard and keep him motivated. And if he acts up, do this. Oh, and send him this kind of nasty note 2 times a day to really keep him on his toes. Then, evaluate him at the end of the week. and here's a punishment schedule to use. Have him send pictures of his cock in chastity at random times, so set your clock to go off and remind you..." etc. It's all just a bunch of tasks. What is different is that the vanilla woman won't get as annoyed, frustrated or irritated when the sub starts whining and pouting and needing more direction, because she won't feel like he's topping from the bottom -- she'll just think he's being a pain in the ass.

Akasha