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HotMistress22 -> RE: Boys are Flakey (9/19/2008 10:40:34 PM)
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
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ORIGINAL: HotMistress22
I do a webcam verification within the first few emails and that weeds out the serious candidates from the online wankers. Who knows why boys are so fickle?
Seeing them on webcam only proves they are the same as their picture. It does not guarantee they will show up for a casual lunch meeting, a cup of coffee, or meet me at a hotel after I fly 2,000 miles to dominate them.
Akasha
Here is my protocol. I invite him for a cyber date via web cam. I tell him that during the cyber date I will need to see a Drivers License (pic and DL number.), Vehicle registration and a utility bill in their name. With this information (utility bill) I can confirm their name and where they live. With their address and name I can do free public records searches in the county they live in to screen for criminal/civil records etc. With the drivers license info I can check their age and confirm profile pic similarities and with the vehicle registration I can find out the vehicle's make, model, year and license plate number.
Finally to verify this information I ask the potential date to hold up the above-mentioned documentation up close to the web cam until I am able to get the clearest image. The potential date may need to adjust room lighting so that I am able to see numbers etc.
If he had any intentions of not showing up, he would think twice before providing this information to a wonderful lady such as yourself.
If they refuse to give me any of the above information, I DO NOT MEET THEM. They will give many excuses that sound legitimate and even make sense! But I do not allow myself to be swayed by them.
With a stringent prescreening protocol I stop most fakes and posers and other undesirables dead in there tracks. Most potential dates who are insincere will not permit this type of background screening process especially if they are not who they say they are.
There are many reasons why someone will not give you this information. Here are just a few.
1. They are married and want to have a (deceitful) relationship without the wife or you knowing.
2. They could be underage.
3. They are a fake and are only interested in online cybersex. Even though they say they want real time.
4. They are posing as another gender. (if it happens to be another FemDom you are meeting)
5. They are online and/or real time stalkers and want you to give out your information but will not give out any of their own.
6. They have multiple user accounts with many fake profile pictures, contacting many members at one time and do not want to be found out.
The list goes on and on.
The above is not intended as the only way to keep myself safe before a first date but it is a fairly effective way to separate the flakey boys from the men. It is not an exhaustive list of things to do either. And since every situation is different when it comes to dating someone online, no one can be 100% sure of ones sincerity. I use my common sense and do not let my emotions stand in the way of just plain good gut instinct and good judgment.
Like with any dating process whether in real-time or online, one needs to separate the good prospects from the bad. My 'suggestions' are simple, offering easy ways to help find a person, safer and within a reasonable period of time.
Hope this helps and hope you made him pay for that plane ticket upfront before he wasted your precious time.
ps: Someone wrote about phone calls -typical entrapment for the unwary. I have another protocol for that one too:) Another time though. Getting late.
Flakey boys.. we are Dommes not Dum!
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