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LadyHibiscus -> RE: Boys are Flakey (10/13/2008 11:38:12 AM)
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
This rapidly expanding thread has tipped me finally to a conclusion - you Dommes really do have it harder, don't you? In the world of BDSM, as in the vanilla world, men compete and women choose. Here, though, there are (insert latest estimate) 90 Dommes to 1 sub. I used to think we subs had the hard job - ninety times the competition we'd have if we aimed for a vanilla partner.
Sure, as a sub you need a few hours' experience in order to spot the males acting as Dommes for a kick, the pro-Dommes pretending to be lifestyle, and those with partners who pretend to be single. But I don't think there's much to that, really. You Dommes, on the other hand, seem to need ten times the normal female-intuitive abilities in order to sort out the "trues" from the "flakes". Hell, I wouldn't fancy that task. I have the intuitive abilities of a retarded goldfish.
I must say, though: why this thread, this late in the day? Why isn't there some well-established code on how to spot and deal with these sub flakes? In the complete knowledge that I'm being almost unbelievably cheeky in doing so, I'm going to suggest that all you Dommes fjoeken talk to each other more than you do! Maybe you should have online coffee mornings, or something.
We talk to each other all the time, actually! Something the many players on these boards should keep in mind. [8|] However, with the endless influx of new potentials, there isn't time to screen them all. Plus, one person's dream date is another's anathema. How are we truly to judge?
Unfortunately, many flakes take awhile to show their true colours. It's only after a certain amount of time and energy invested that they feel comfortable enough to drop the good behaviour routine and be themselves. While it's discouraging and tiresome, I have the most sympathy for the genuine men who are looking for dominants---they all start out behind the eight ball.
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