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tsatske -> RE: Masters who wont cum (9/24/2008 2:22:31 AM)
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I had one of those too. Additionally, he wasn't vocal at all in bed. I understand that not everyone is, and that I'm louder than many, but to me it felt like I wasn't pleasing enough to him. We discussed it of course, but not a fun way to feel.
My last several Masters/partners/playmates before Master were impotent.
Master has the 'problem' being described here. He actually does not 'withhold' his cum from me, but His need to cum seems to be - oh, every week or so.
He does equate sex to love, more than other play - he does not have sex with my sisterslave who is not His property, for instance. (she has a training/mentouring collar, and will eventually find herself a Master)
Yes, this 'problem' means he can be hard for a long, long time. It means he can be hard a lot more often, and, if he's in the mood for it, a lot sooner.
You know, there is a Yoga practice of this, that people spend years learning to do. Maybe we should count ourselves lucky?
srrsly, though - women in our society are taught strange things about sex, and, yes, those things do bleed into our lifestyle, as well.
Women are taught sex is all about the woman. Since the man is a randy horndog anyway, always wanting sex and lucky to get it whenever and whereever he can, he should pretty much attend to her every need and demand, while taking what he gets. (no, i am not accusing anyone here of taking any attitude that i list.)
In a vanilla relationship, if a man wants sex, he suggests it to his partner, and if she doesn't 'feel like it', she says no. For him to complain about that is insensitive, makes him one focused, and - well, a randy horndog. If a woman wants sex and a man says no, it is 'damaging to her ego.'
the way this is related is this - if a woman can't cum very often, or at all, but tells her partner she finds their sex life satisfying, he is advised not to pressure her. Oh, sure, she is already doing it to herself, trying to figure out 'why' she only cums on such rare occasion, so they talk about trust, yadda yadda, but it's all about HER, not him - she's the one to orgasm or not, after all.
What if some men just naturally have a lot more sex, and a lot less orgasm? I have another friend/playmate who is like this, and, again, the constant hard on, always ready for sex seems to go with it.
If this is how he is built - how do you think HE feels (no, this is not aimed at any one of us, just a question in general) to have a partner who is completely focused on it? probably the way i'd feel if my partner asked me to bend myself in half in tantric sex positions i am obviously not built for, everytime we played, even if they said, 'oh, okay', each time i said, 'no, i don't think so....'.
Overall, how do you think this board would react if a man posted that his slave was not a squirter, and he HAD to make her one, because He couldn't feel adaquate unless she squirted every time? (again, not a comparrison to any poster's comments)
i think it is okay to beg for Masters cum. I do it myself, and sometimes get it - but not everytime. nor do i beg everytime - but i am not even saying that that is not okay. You can find out if that is cool or not by just asking, i would think.
But overall, i would take note at the number of men that have been mentioned here as existing and assure yourself that it isn't you, it may just be the way he is built.
And, as to why he wouldn't just say that, i think he has probably never identified it as true. After all, it doesn't get talked about much amongst men, i think, and it's not like there's a name for it - or, not a commonly used one that gets it talked about, if someone here does decide to post such a name. There is ESO, (extended sexual orgasm), which some men study years to achieve, of course, and that is the name I usually give it - these are just men who are natuarally ESO, without the years of study and practice.
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