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oceanwynds -> RE: Masters who wont cum (9/26/2008 11:05:23 AM)

To reach the point of almost having an orgasm but not is actually a good way to use energy too if you are a healer or into applying different forms of energy in other avenues. Personally it delights me to help build that energy for Sir, so he can apply it any way he needs.

oceanwynds



cjan -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 9:44:40 AM)

Hi, Lushy. Intersting thread. I too rarely cum. I suppose there are a number of reasons, as peeps have already said. One, of course is control. I enjoy when my partner surrenders her "ego need" for me to cum as she expects or wishes. For me, it's not a mind fuck in that I'm not trying to "do" anything to her, I simply want her to completely surrender to my wishes.

I prefer to control and give my partner as many orgasms as I wish. I enjoy her loss of control and complete surrender. Also, as some have said, not cumming is a way for me to conserve energy, whether libidinous, sexual, physichal, emotional or whatever. Energy is energy it just takes many forms and I often prefer to conserve it to use as I wish rather than "disipate " it. I find that I am much nastier and more creative sexually when I conserve my energy by not cumming. After an orgasm, I often just want to read a book, watch a ball game, a movie or go do something and my interest in sex play is zero, so, as they say..."be careful what you wish for".

Your Master sounds as if he makes good use of his own energy. He loves and appreciates you and satisfies you sexually, emotionally and in other ways that are important. It seems to me that your apparent insecurity regarding his not cumming is your problem, not his, especially since he has assured you that you satisfy him sexually as well.

I'm still not clear on whether he cums when/if he masturbates. If he does and you crave his cum, perhaps he can supply you some in a vial. I have done this with a few partners that have enjoyed having a vial of my stuff on hand for times when I have not been available.

Best Wishes as always to you and yours, Lushy.



KatyLied -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 9:54:44 AM)

I wonder if he has cum yet....



cjan -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 9:59:00 AM)

LoL, Katy...the cum countdown ?



KatyLied -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 10:00:54 AM)

I know, I can't help it.  I'm feeling naughty today.  With no outlet.   [;)]



cjan -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 10:13:44 AM)

Awww, no outlet ? Then how about fresh batteries ? [8D]



KatyLied -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 10:18:00 AM)

But, but, my toys don't cum!



cjan -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 10:21:58 AM)

Here ya go, darlin'

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/tags/squirting-dildos/



KatyLied -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 11:02:21 AM)

I guess I need to find that other thread about things I've never experienced and make note of the squirting dildo.



cjan -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 12:12:04 PM)

Hey, Lushy, I just had a thought. Perhaps it will work for you. One thing that is sure to make me cum.

Sometimes when my girl is all made up, her hair and makeup perfect and fresh, when she is rushing to go out the door to work , for an appointment, or perhaps we are going out, I kiss her and when I get that little "don't mess up my makeup" kiss, I like to make her kneel, grab her hair and vigorously face fuck her. Of course, I make sure to make a mess of her hair and makeup. Sometimes, I'll cum in her mouth, sometimes on her face. Then I'll slap her on the ass on her way out the door and she leaves smiling to freshen up on her way. She loves it and so do I. Perhaps a li'l reverse psychology will get you what you want.



slavescarlette -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 5:30:29 PM)

Luscious,
i know you've gotten lots of helpful replies. I just thought I would throw it out there that Daddy doesn't often cum either. I don't full understand why, though from talking to him, I am beginning to understand that it's often a choice, not a matter of being unable to. I remember him saying that for him, cumming wasn't nearly as exciting as watching me have orgasm after orgasm.

So what helped me resolve the issue in my mind was to know that he is in control of it and that it's not about me being not good enough, it's about him choosing NOT to. And for the record, after nearly a year together, he's never once expressed a desire to have me "wear" his cum, though I had gotten to taste it a few times.

I guess my point is, you're not alone...

...scarlette



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 7:20:48 PM)

Update:

This has been brought back from the past. Although not long ago. but some sudden changes have happened.

This specific sir came into my life wanting to be my knight in shining armor.I had just had my boyfriend/Sir of 8 months break up with me. It was a mere 3 weeks later. he was very courtly and wooing and took me out in corvettes and wined and dined me plus shopping trips and chocolates. sweet nothings in my ear. I did feel like a princess and I needed that.

But things ended up not being quite right. There was a long courtship process so when we finally were intimate it was great except i had pause when he smacked me in the area of my lower back(kidneys). As a Massage therapy Instructor I know this is an endangerment site. i also had an incident i posted about where he slapped me so fast and much that I had an emotional breakdown. I tried to work from there and i gave him charts. I was once slapped accidently on my bad knee. the last times I had a corset pulled tighter when I said i couldnt breathe. i yelled and he apologized. he had also hit m at my knee again that night. None of this was malicious but he wasnt taking the time to learn what he needed and he didnt have an awareness and instinct about the body that some people have.

At the time that the last incident happened i had got together with my old Dom that broke off with me 4 months ago. We had kept in touch and were happy for each other. i thought I was getting together with a buddy but It was not like that. i found out i still had feelings for him and he discovered that he did love me and miss me. prior to that he never saw that he loved m and always held back.

so through some soul searching I realized that although i cared for the new dom, he couldnt keep me safe plus my feelings for him were not as strong as I thought and my feelings for my old boyfriend were stronger than I thought.

The old/new Dom and I are embarking anew and he has no problem holding back or cumming in my mouth cause i deserve my daddys cum.



Roselaure -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 7:24:45 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Update:

This has been brought back from the past. Although not long ago. but some sudden changes have happened.

so through some soul searching I realized that although i cared for the new dom, he couldnt keep me safe plus my feelings for him were not as strong as I thought and my feelings for my old boyfriend were stronger than I thought.



When it's right you know it.  Be happy, sweetie!



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 7:34:08 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Roselaure

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Update:

This has been brought back from the past. Although not long ago. but some sudden changes have happened.

so through some soul searching I realized that although i cared for the new dom, he couldnt keep me safe plus my feelings for him were not as strong as I thought and my feelings for my old boyfriend were stronger than I thought.



When it's right you know it.  Be happy, sweetie!


thank you so much. It is very right! I traded in the rides in a corvette to rides in a toyota corolla and I couldnt be happier.



Roselaure -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 7:36:36 PM)

 

I'm told it's just as easy  to fall in love with a rich man as it is a poor one, but somehow I've never managed it!



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 7:49:16 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Roselaure

 

I'm told it's just as easy  to fall in love with a rich man as it is a poor one, but somehow I've never managed it!


I dont think he was that rich. just compulsive shopper and trying everything to win me.



Lordandmaster -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 8:37:00 PM)

Maybe he has retarded ejaculation.

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

So i have been with my master for a short time. 2 and a half months. Its really a wonderful relationship. We are very much in love. We had along courtship where he did not penetrate me for quite a number of weeks. Intimacy and love goes together for him. He wanted to show me how special i was. I dont doubt his feelings. I know he cums when he masterbates. But so far he has never cum for me. he gives me many orgasms. I think he equates it with being in control. He says its not that big a deal and he eventually will. It is a big deal to me. I want his cum.

Is this common for a Master to equate cumming with losing control?



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/14/2008 8:52:59 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Maybe he has retarded ejaculation.

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

So i have been with my master for a short time. 2 and a half months. Its really a wonderful relationship. We are very much in love. We had along courtship where he did not penetrate me for quite a number of weeks. Intimacy and love goes together for him. He wanted to show me how special i was. I dont doubt his feelings. I know he cums when he masterbates. But so far he has never cum for me. he gives me many orgasms. I think he equates it with being in control. He says its not that big a deal and he eventually will. It is a big deal to me. I want his cum.

Is this common for a Master to equate cumming with losing control?



Maybe. But again, its not my problem anymore and it never was.



Lordandmaster -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/15/2008 7:15:00 AM)

Then what was the purpose of this thread?



cjan -> RE: Masters who wont cum (10/15/2008 8:21:03 AM)

I'm glad you're happy, Lushy. That's all that matters. You are wise to realize what really matters most to you and I admire your willingness to be vulnerable, to try again when it seems prudent and to follow your heart as well as listen to what your brain and experience tell you.

You are also wise to recognize and act appropriately when a "dom" doesn't have the temperament, experience or willingness to learn what is in your both best interest.





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