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Also, the lack of good-looking or even reasonable-looking men in bdsm porn (at least the porn i've seen) is amazing.

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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

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ORIGINAL: nobhobbery

Question: Is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? Do most mistresses (incidentally this will be posted almost verbatim in the master thread as well) follow the attraction patterns prevalent in the larger world? I only ask because I've noticed that a lot of BDSM seems focused around the dominant insulting the submissive (i.e. about having a small penis, being ugly, being fat, being short, being stupid, being useless, etc.). What if you are none of these things? Is that a turn off? I may have gotten the wrong idea here entirely, but it seems to me that BDSM (or at least Mistress-Slave relationships) seem to be based on the mistress exploiting the slave's weaknesses for her own pleasure and the slave getting off on being exploited. Also, the lack of good-looking or even reasonable-looking men in bdsm porn (at least the porn i've seen) is amazing.  

I know in my relationship, Mistress has never pulled the humiliation card on me.  I have insecurities and self-esteem issues (in regards to my appearance, i don't think I'm that attractive...my height and size, I'm only 5'5" and 155 pounds), but Mistress constantly tells me how sexy she thinks I am or how I'm perfect for her.  I know I'm certainly not every domme's cup of tea, but I certainly don't see what Mistress sees when she looks at me.  Hell, I'm not complaining...I have the love of a gorgeous domme!
 
She doesn't spend time poking at my weaknesses to break me down.  She does everything she can to bring me up and make me feel special.  If she did the humiliation thing to me, it would certainly be a turn-off and make me question why I would give myself to someone who thinks so little of me.
 
On top of that, I get perved so little that I have to perv myself so I can see the little "Who's Viewing Me" option turn red...

I think you're GEORGEOUS & your Mistress is one lucky woman!

Awww....shucks!  ***blushes***  Thank you so much!  You have no idea how much that made me smile!  Mistress tells me that all the time, but I figure she's just saying it because she has to.  It's like a mother saying her baby is beautiful when, in actuality, the kid is so ugly that it's protected by Greenpeace.

For whatever reason, a compliment from a total stranger seems to positively affect you more than a compliment from a loved one.  So thank you again.  I feel I am a very lucky man to be with her, though.

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most men in porn are hideous

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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

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most men in porn are hideous

ron jeremy....YIKES....but apparently in his early years...he wasnt as bad as he turned out to be...and how did he still do porn at that point????

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet
 I'm only 5'5" and 155 pounds),

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

OH GGGGOOODDDD!

It's just so HHHHAAAARRRDDD being this beautiful.

You don't even know!

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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Ha...yep. This is a hilarious thread. It's almost like one writers would make up, but there is a pic and all. Heh.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Porn is bought by men, who aren't interested in what the men look like, only what the women look like. Which is why they aren't paying for good looking men.

Beyond that, a lot of the humiliation, lowly worm stuff is because male subs with little experience see this in porn and assume it is what they have to say to get along with a femdomme. And newer dommes also assume they have to be into this to get a sub.

Dommes with more experience may use humiliation but not the kind that is patterned on bad porn fantasy wanker material. Since bdsm porn is made by men for profit who are not into bdsm, you can't expect it to be a true indicator of what people really do like.