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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/24/2008 10:25:02 PM   
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Also, the lack of good-looking or even reasonable-looking men in bdsm porn (at least the porn i've seen) is amazing.


This is hardly BDSM specific. With the exception of gay porn, I would say that most men in porn are hideous, in my opinion.


With Mark Davis  from sexandsubmission.com being the obvious exception!!  That is a fucking HOT man!

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/24/2008 10:27:12 PM   
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OP, there are a lot of things you could assume in the short period of time you have been observing, but you would be incorrect in many if not most of them. It's good that you are willing to ask questions, keep doing it. There is something for almost everyone in BDSM and Ds. If you feel things should be a certain way then be assured there is someone else, if not many others, that feel the same way. Take it slow and question everything until you are comfortable in your own definitions and understanding of what this all means to you. Many of the people that are looking for the newbies are looking for someone that can be "formed" the way they want. Be smart and don't do anything that doesn't feel right.

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/24/2008 10:36:28 PM   
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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/24/2008 10:58:33 PM   
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Ouch, collarme. You've hurt me. Not all of you, obviously, you're mostly good chaps. But a whole bunch of people called me clueless and a troll, and that stings. lol. Anyway, I clearly didn't fully think out the top post, though I still say there's a correlation between BDSM porn and hideous men (someone said that all men in porn are hideous besides gay porn; frankly, besides bondage I mostly watch gay porn. So there, haha). Obviously your sense of what's attractive does not fly out the window as soon as you get into BDSM. However, I would like to point out that my understanding of BDSM was that it played on weaknesses of the sub being exploited by the dominant. Therefore, it makes sense that the more weaknesses that are obvious to the naked eye, the more likely you would be to be chosen. Since this was based on a false assumption, it's wrong. But now you can see my thought processes. :) Thanks for reading.  

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/24/2008 11:01:11 PM   
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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/24/2008 11:29:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

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Also, the lack of good-looking or even reasonable-looking men in bdsm porn (at least the porn i've seen) is amazing.


This is hardly BDSM specific. With the exception of gay porn, I would say that most men in porn are hideous, in my opinion.


With Mark Davis  from sexandsubmission.com being the obvious exception!!  That is a fucking HOT man!


Yes he is... om nom nom....


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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 12:16:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: nobhobbery

Ouch, collarme. You've hurt me. Not all of you, obviously, you're mostly good chaps. But a whole bunch of people called me clueless and a troll, and that stings. lol. Anyway, I clearly didn't fully think out the top post, though I still say there's a correlation between BDSM porn and hideous men (someone said that all men in porn are hideous besides gay porn; frankly, besides bondage I mostly watch gay porn. So there, haha). Obviously your sense of what's attractive does not fly out the window as soon as you get into BDSM. However, I would like to point out that my understanding of BDSM was that it played on weaknesses of the sub being exploited by the dominant. Therefore, it makes sense that the more weaknesses that are obvious to the naked eye, the more likely you would be to be chosen. Since this was based on a false assumption, it's wrong. But now you can see my thought processes. :) Thanks for reading.  



See... nobody has any problems in engaging in verbal humilation with you!!! :-)  think you have your answer now! :-)

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 12:17:56 AM   
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LMAO Whip!! 

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 5:29:22 AM   
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Awww....shucks!  ***blushes***  Thank you so much!  You have no idea how much that made me smile!  Mistress tells me that all the time, but I figure she's just saying it because she has to.  It's like a mother saying her baby is beautiful when, in actuality, the kid is so ugly that it's protected by Greenpeace.
 
For whatever reason, a compliment from a total stranger seems to positively affect you more than a compliment from a loved one.  So thank you again.  I feel I am a very lucky man to be with her, though.


I just had to comment....again :)  Regarding the words I made bold/underlined, a Mistress/or Master doesn't HAVE to do anything. They do it because they WANT to.  From what I've read about you & your Mistress, there is TRUST in this relationship. TRUST her to be telling you the truth about yourself.  She is a beautiful woman and I can only speculate since I don't know her, but I seriously doubt she'd have a "rubberpet" she isn't proud of/lusts after :)  You are such a cutie pie, really you are, I just want to gobble you up!  **With all due respect to your Mistress of course**

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"For whatever reason, a compliment from a total stranger seems to positively affect you more than a compliment from a loved one"


Personally, I value the compliments I receive from my loved one that some stranger.  You don't know me at all and my compliment shouldn't mean more to you that your Mistress's. If my words mean something to you, then do this........Go to her, on your knees, bow before her & apologize for letting a mere stranger's words mean more to you than hers.

**I still want to gobble you up**





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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 5:34:30 AM   
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OP
youre just so cute i kinda wanna hurtcha....but then you'd cry and id need to get you a tissue....

GT-stop laughing your ass off and get to work....hehe
VP-that was soooo bossy....ever make it out to CT?



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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 6:41:25 AM   
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Ha...yep. This is a hilarious thread. It's almost like one writers would make up, but there is a pic and all. Heh.


It's a product of Collarme.com's Random Troll Generator v1.03 that was installed to keep these boards interesting.

I wish they would spawn another version of Bobgkin.



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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 7:24:16 AM   
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OP
youre just so cute i kinda wanna hurtcha....but then you'd cry and id need to get you a tissue....

GT-stop laughing your ass off and get to work....hehe
VP-that was soooo bossy....ever make it out to CT?




"Bossy"?? You think so? I didn't mean it that way..............

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 7:34:58 AM   
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OP
youre just so cute i kinda wanna hurtcha....but then you'd cry and id need to get you a tissue....

GT-stop laughing your ass off and get to work....hehe
VP-that was soooo bossy....ever make it out to CT?




"Bossy"?? You think so? I didn't mean it that way..............


Yes, you did... 

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 7:57:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

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OP
youre just so cute i kinda wanna hurtcha....but then you'd cry and id need to get you a tissue....

GT-stop laughing your ass off and get to work....hehe
VP-that was soooo bossy....ever make it out to CT?




"Bossy"?? You think so? I didn't mean it that way..............


Yes, you did... 


it was even aimed at a boy and i got all twitchy....definitely bossy Ma'am.

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 10:39:01 AM   
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Well, HELL! I hope his Mistress doesn't get pissed at me!

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 12:45:20 PM   
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Awww....shucks!  ***blushes***  Thank you so much!  You have no idea how much that made me smile!  Mistress tells me that all the time, but I figure she's just saying it because she has to.  It's like a mother saying her baby is beautiful when, in actuality, the kid is so ugly that it's protected by Greenpeace.
 
For whatever reason, a compliment from a total stranger seems to positively affect you more than a compliment from a loved one.  So thank you again.  I feel I am a very lucky man to be with her, though.


I just had to comment....again :)  Regarding the words I made bold/underlined, a Mistress/or Master doesn't HAVE to do anything. They do it because they WANT to.  From what I've read about you & your Mistress, there is TRUST in this relationship. TRUST her to be telling you the truth about yourself.  She is a beautiful woman and I can only speculate since I don't know her, but I seriously doubt she'd have a "rubberpet" she isn't proud of/lusts after :)  You are such a cutie pie, really you are, I just want to gobble you up!  **With all due respect to your Mistress of course**

quote:

"For whatever reason, a compliment from a total stranger seems to positively affect you more than a compliment from a loved one"


Personally, I value the compliments I receive from my loved one that some stranger.  You don't know me at all and my compliment shouldn't mean more to you that your Mistress's. If my words mean something to you, then do this........Go to her, on your knees, bow before her & apologize for letting a mere stranger's words mean more to you than hers.

**I still want to gobble you up**



I certainly value Mistress's views and compliments, believe me.  I trust her with everything I have and am.  To see the look in her eyes as she's lusting after me and thinking of all sorts of ways to leave stratched, bruises, and bite marks on me is certainly an ego boost from hell and it leaves NO room for misinterpretation.  In a way, to me, a stranger really doesn't have anything to benefit from giving a compliment to someone, so it can appear more genuine.  A loved one can sound as though they are just trying to make you feel better...make sense?  While it's always a great feeling to feel desired by others, there is obviously no greater feeling than feeling desired be your partner.  Besides, I don't get compliments like yours very often, so when I do, I truly appreciate it.
 
As for being you gobbling me up, the best part about it is I'm bite-sized!   Mistress loves nibbling on me for whatever reason.  She's the boss, so who am I to say anything.  LOL

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 1:43:32 PM   
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Well, HELL! I hope his Mistress doesn't get pissed at me!



Don't worry I'm far from pissed. I'm just glad that others are able to see the looks that pet was graced with.

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 2:40:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

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OP
youre just so cute i kinda wanna hurtcha....but then you'd cry and id need to get you a tissue....

GT-stop laughing your ass off and get to work....hehe
VP-that was soooo bossy....ever make it out to CT?




"Bossy"?? You think so? I didn't mean it that way..............

Here I am!!  I heard someone was calling for me?

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 3:23:09 PM   
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While you are correct about porn being bought mainly by men, the reason they use "average" men is so that the average guy can see himself in that role, which heightens the satisfaction and the chance for future purchases. It's all marketing.


It's also all about who's willing to do it.  A lot of kinky F/m porn is made by prodoms and their associates, friends and willing clients.  I don't imagine that there are many who go out and hire actors. 

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RE: is being good-looking a downside in the bdsm world? - 9/25/2008 4:06:39 PM   
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I tick most of those boxes, and i still cant find anyone.

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