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Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/27/2008 8:15:49 PM

badlilthang

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Mistresses, female submissives and female slaves will meet this period of life - my question is:

How does a Mistress deal this if it is her - and will she prefer to deal it alone - -how will they deal with her slave/submissive and how does a female slave/submissive deal with it. You know the heatflashes and other fun things.

How aout a Master/Dom - how will He deal with the moodswings - heatflashes and other things their submissive or slave might go through?

would be interesting to hear.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/27/2008 8:45:35 PM

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there was a brilliant thread on this topic a month or two ago, cant remember what it was called or even if it was about the menopause actually or just about women generally and their hormones.

i seem to remember it being really good. ill go see if i can find it. hugs and how are you. x

edited to add: its 'age and bdsm' -

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/27/2008 9:23:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: badlilthang

Mistresses, female submissives and female slaves will meet this period of life - my question is:

How does a Mistress deal this if it is her - and will she prefer to deal it alone - -how will they deal with her slave/submissive and how does a female slave/submissive deal with it. You know the heatflashes and other fun things.

Just because one is in menopause does not mean that there are hot flashes or anything that needs to be dealt with. For those who do have hot flashes....no one can make them go away although hormone replacement therapy can help some. I do not know of any way for her to share her hot flashes with another. Being sympathetic will help...best to not make fun of her about the flashes. A woman who gets hot flashes deals with them because she has no choice....rather like a belly ache...wait for awhile and it should go away. They are not constant 24/7.

How aout a Master/Dom - how will He deal with the moodswings - heatflashes and other things their submissive or slave might go through?

As said above...a Dom will not share those hot flashes IF they occur. How he deals with the mood of his submissive is very personal...and each Dom will deal with his submissive AND menopause in his own way.

would be interesting to hear.

I'm really not sure what you are asking. Menopause is a period of life. Actually...hot flashes are not as common during menopause as they are in perimenopause...the years just before menopause. Some women have no symptoms at all. Others have hot flashes which are annoying, but they do not stop a person for doing those activities they normally do. The night sweats can disturb sleep. Sympathy from a partner is nice during that time, however not required. I had no sympathy from my then partner and got through it just fine. It is a normal part of life...not something wierd or strange...just normal.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/27/2008 9:33:12 PM

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what now??? we get older....and wet the bed....in a dif way...

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/27/2008 9:35:59 PM

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ooohhh...so that's why i wet the bed? thanks faery!

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/27/2008 9:47:14 PM

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This is something I have come to know well... damn it! For ten years... hot flashes! First two years they were so bad I almost passed out and they came every couple of minutes. I learned to be nudist even in winter. Yes... I was the crazy broad with my head hanging out the car window at three below. Then they weren't so bad as to make me pass out... but hot enough to make life hell. Sleeping... well... how do you sleep when you are constantly hot and pushing covers off and then cold because you went from 98 to 120 in three seconds?

I never had the mood swings. My temperment was the same... unless in the moment and then it just meant... don't touch me, but be ready to catch me. I didn't want to be touched because I hated being ukky sweaty. I had never sweat before because of a medical problem and I guess I got over that! But I could never get over being ukky. So I took a lot of showers! Thank the powers that be... they are slowing down now... but if it continues... my mood may change. For some they say there is less sexual desire and you don't get as wet... I don't find that to be the case.

As for advice... in some.. run the f away! For other's... just another day of summer every couple of minutes. I suggest having a personal fan close... and a blanket for in-between them and a hand held fan for your purse. I also use a spray bottle of water. Also... buy lots of cool clothes... because you will not want anything on and get ready to put them on and then off every couple of minutes. Oh... and get used to people laughing, watching you do it all.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/27/2008 10:01:45 PM

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hmmm, lockit, thanks youve sold it to me, i cant wait!

- all i can think about is that id miss my periods. no, i really would, i love having my period it makes me feel everything is right in my world... wierd huh?

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/27/2008 10:05:40 PM

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quote:

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hmmm, lockit, thanks youve sold it to me, i cant wait!

- all i can think about is that id miss my periods. no, i really would, i love having my period it makes me feel everything is right in my world... wierd huh?

I don't think it's weird. It's exactly the same for me: a period means the clock is working. I've cherished them ever since I first had them. I am NOT looking forwards to them disappearing. Being a woman is wonderful but at times, I wish it didn't entail quite so much change. Now, in this conversation about cycles... that is strange.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/27/2008 11:00:42 PM

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As others have pretty much indicated, menopause may or may not cause a female issues enough to bother with.

Some, during both peri and full menopause, get little to no symptoms.

Some lose their freaking minds.

Most are somewhere in between.

My mom was one of those that became unbearable to live with (thankfully, I'd moved out before that... only sister and dad had to get it!) and had horrible physical symptoms.

Me, perimenopause so far has been a bit annoying but that's all. Hot flashes, mostly.

How do I deal with perimenopause so far? Doesn't affect my interactions with my domestic, my spouse or anyone else, so far. At most it's made me stand in Walmart looking at the frozen foods with the door open longer than folks generally do a couple of times.

As with anything, really folks just have to handle what life gives them.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 1:52:47 AM

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My lil one has been dealing with the hot flashes and mood swings since before I ever met her. Sometimes the hot flashes are so bad she almost passes out. I have ice packs and frozen water bottles on hand when she comes over. We just never know when one is going to hit. Her moods can be tough to deal with. Sometimes I forgive the bad behaviour and sometimes I don't. Due to health reasons she was taken off the hormone pills. The hot flashes come more often now and we just get through them. Luckly we have not had to deal with one during a scene. The mood swings are worse and sometimes I have to just walk away for a few minutes because I know it is beyond her control. But I love her and we just deal with it. I am sure when and if it hits me she will deal with it and know what I am going through. I can only hope I am one of those women that has little to no effects from it.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 2:32:55 AM

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At least female organs work in with age. I imagine taking a pill to get off being quite the emotional hertel.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 4:07:21 AM

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Good morning hon.

Are the hot flashes bugging you again?

How do men, dom or sub deal with their significant other going through menopause?

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 4:15:11 AM

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My Mother used to call them Power Surges and advise all to keep out of the way or be shocked. Now I have a fridge magnet that says, "Women don't have hot flushes, they have Power Surges". Have taken one of them into every work environment that I have ever been in since I found them. At least it brings a smile to all faces, male and female alike.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 4:20:48 AM

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I guess I've been pretty lucky. I don't have and never have had horrible symptoms. Oh, I'd get a hot flahs now and then that lasted maybe 30 seconds. The worst thing that happened is I'd yell "Hot Hot Hot" and throw all the blankies off me.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 5:21:53 AM

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I am finally fully menopausal, meaning six months without a period. The last two years I had almost no libido. This was quite annoying to both of us. I went from being very high sex drive to none. As one of his favorite things is forced orgasm, he wasn't too pleased either. Thankfully it is coming back now.

Soy every day helps enormously with hot flashes and night sweats. I also kept a bath sheet next to the bed so when I would wake up having sweated the sheets through, I could just spread out the big dry towel and lie down without having to remake the bed at 3:00AM.

Once the night sweats stopped, so did most of the mood swings. Sleep deprivation will cause anyone mood difficulties.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 5:22:00 AM

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Well I am (hopefully) far from the age menopause will hit (due to a health issue theres a pretty good chance i can have "early menopause" but I can't imgaine what it will be like for me. I have hot flashes all the time now, so I hope they don't get worse or more frequent when I hit. As for the mood swings, I'm thinking I will have to lock myself up in a tower all alone. Due to hormonal imbalances my mood swings have always been bad, even before puberty. They can be pretty bad, I can go from happy go lucky to extremely pissed off to totally depressed in about two seconds at times.

My Sir, sometimes lets it slide and walks away but others he can't and I understand that. If he always let it slide, I could just blame my hormones and then I would never get in trouble. What fun would that be? When my depression hits, or a day we are supposed to spend together starts out as a bad day, He is there for me, and understanding, tries to get me out and about, because excerise is the one of the best things for depression. Sometimes it turns into a good day, other times not but I am always careful not to rude, or snappy to him.

Its an ordeal for both us, but we work around it as best we can.

And a ps to anyone not menopausal with hormonal imbalance, and is willing to be on birth control try the depo shot. Its worked wonders for me, of course everyone is different, but without the depo shot I would a very lost little girl.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 6:09:53 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: badlilthang

Mistresses, female submissives and female slaves will meet this period of life - my question is:

How does a Mistress deal this if it is her - and will she prefer to deal it alone - -how will they deal with her slave/submissive and how does a female slave/submissive deal with it. You know the heatflashes and other fun things.

How aout a Master/Dom - how will He deal with the moodswings - heatflashes and other things their submissive or slave might go through?

thang,

Having had to deal with the circumstance more than a few times I can say that it is the time to retire the :D: attitude till it has passed,

CP

would be interesting to hear.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 6:13:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

My mom was one of those that became unbearable to live with (thankfully, I'd moved out before that... only sister and dad had to get it!) and had horrible physical symptoms.

I guess I'll have to give My mother the same excuse.. she was a bitch on wheels most of My life, lol. But then again she did go to fully menopausal at 39 (ugh).
I'm going through some issues that may cause Me to have a hysterectomy so this topic is a lot closer to My situation than many others.
I usually have ice(water) near Me at all times so I don't really feel flashes..within the last year they would hit Me at night, but since I sleep with a fleece blanket year round, it was easy to cool down by removing it.
I haven't had night sweats in a while though..*shrugs*

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 7:06:39 AM

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Sometimes in life situations you have to look for those "silver linings"......After being diagnosed with ovarian cancer, undergoing a complete hysterectomy and doing chemo...i missed the whole menopause thing.
No night sweats, erratic periods, or mood swings....but i do sympathize with those who have and are going thru it.

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RE: Oh joy -menopause - what now? - 9/28/2008 8:14:56 AM

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The whole of the menopausal years, from start to finish, are as individualistic as each woman is. 4 women in my family and each with a different unique experience. Altho I have probably had it easier physically than the others, Breast Cancer and Stevens Johnson Syndrome caused issues with my sisters. Having 5 children and no muscle tone caused other issues for mom like a prolapsed bladder and uterus. Cervical Cancer lunched me into a different direction.

No one can take the symptoms away, no one can empathize with the experience, only sympathize.

I do know tho ~ allowing one to experience the inescapable situation in life in their own way and support them as they ask is a small part of helping. Reacting to the not so nice emotional outbursts is not helpful. Understanding, encouragement that it will end, listening is really important. I wished not to speak of it, I didn't.

My sister who suffers the most at this point has asked me advice in regards to medical issues in relation to her SJS and having surgery, ie hysterectomy.

If a woman makes this inescapable period in life a burden, it will be.

Making this period a time of transformation a time to laugh at ones self and all its symptoms will make it easier. Even when walking in public and a large clot starts flowing down one's inner thigh......

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