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Humiliation - 9/30/2008 12:45:17 PM   
MineToControl


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Status: offline 		What are YOUR favorite forms of humiliation, or your favorate methods your master has used to humiliate you?

Thank you,

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 12:56:30 PM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		I don't do humiliation. I instantly shut down and have a driving desire to kick the person squarely in the jewels.

But that's just me. Many are totally into it *S*

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:03:28 PM   
aravain


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Status: offline 		If someone tries to humiliate me... I have a tendency to drop-kick them in the face, light fire to their home and all living family (and even some dead ones too), and then cry myself to sleep for a week.

But to be more serious...

I don't like humiliation in the traditional sense. I want a partner (even if it's a play partner) who *respects* me and who I trust. I cannot trust anyone who TRIES to humiliate me, and the act of humiliation, even accidental, shows a near-complete disrespect and disregard for my feelings.

*shrug* Each person is different.

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:08:56 PM   
IvyMorgan


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Status: offline 		I'm curious why you're asking, if it's for suggestions as to what to do with your sub, then you need to get to know them and what makes them tick, because humiliation is very unique to the individual.

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:10:31 PM   
Subductrssss


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Status: offline 		I have to agree with akisha and aravain ~ the instant humiliation comes into play I turn from sweet loving submissive to the bitch from hell.  One time on a group BDSM camping trip, I playfully dragged my Dom under the water in the lake, later that night around the campfire He made me stand with my nose to a tree for 1/2 an hour and then wanted me to go to EACH person there and apologize for my disrespect ~ I did the tree thing with tears flowing freely from humiliation and then turned around told him "FUCK OFF AND DIE" got in my car and went home.

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:10:55 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		No humiliation at all here. It makes me distrust him and poisons the relationship.

If he really believes that I am such a low person, then he cannot truly like me. And if he doesn't believe it then he's an admitted liar.

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:12:21 PM   
MineToControl


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Status: offline 		Did the heading say........."Ask a sub anything?"  I'm asking because a sub I just met is very interested in humilliation.  So as a serious Dom I would like to educate myself more on what types of humiliation other sub's enjoy?

This isn't a trick question....

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:20:17 PM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Hi MTC,
As a submissive who enjoys humiliation, I am going to tell you the non trick answer... Somebody else gave it to you - each s-type is different.  For example, I am pretty open about the fact that making me say what I want is really humiliating for me.  Other people think it is nothing.  Call me names and I yawn.  Ho hum.  I worked in a psych hospital and the things THOSE people could say would make paint peel. 

You see it is about finding the deep fear or the thing that makes them nervous and fidgety.  Each of us is different.  I don't find eating out of someone's hand humiliating.  I find it a caring and sweet thing.  Someone else sees it as humiliating.  It is all in the way each person is wired. 

Get to know the s-type and then push that person's buttons. 

Good luck,
sunshine

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:22:06 PM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

...what types of humiliation other sub's enjoy...


the type that gets His cock all hard and drippy is the type this slave enjoys the most.  so for this slave, it would be all about what types of humiliation do YOU enjoy putting a sub through the most.
 
being used for His pleasure is extremely enjoyable...regardless of the specifics.

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:23:31 PM   
MineToControl


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Status: offline 		Thank you sunshinemiss, I appreciate the open an honest answer. 

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:23:35 PM   
akisha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MineToControl

Did the heading say........."Ask a sub anything?"  I'm asking because a sub I just met is very interested in humilliation.  So as a serious Dom I would like to educate myself more on what types of humiliation other sub's enjoy?

This isn't a trick question....


Then you need to as "HER" what kind of humiliation she is into.

There is a huge range of types of humiliation.

My Master calls me a greedy slut, for some that would be totally humiliating, for me it means he's pleased with me and loves the fact that i want to have sex at any time.

Some subs like to be made to wear certain things or be made to expose themselves to strangers. This for me would be a "screw you" response as i do not involve unsespecting strangers into my kink.

But I have no issues with being topless around others at Masters request as long as the others are aware and consenting. I find being naked in public embarrassing but no humiliating.

No one can really answer your question except the person you should be asking... the sub involved.

< Message edited by akisha -- 9/30/2008 1:25:15 PM >

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:24:34 PM   
Aynne88


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Status: offline 		Yep. What sunshine said. We are all so different, but I love humiliation from Him. Find out what makes her uncomfortable and start with that. or insecure. I have such hangups about my appearance and also asking for what I want and telling him what I am thinking sexually speaking. When he makes me, I can feel myself getting this mixture of hot and red and embarrassed, but then...the good kind of hot.  Be careful though, tread lightly here at first, dangerous territory if you don't know her well.

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 1:35:47 PM   
sfdrew


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Subductrssss

I have to agree with akisha and aravain ~ the instant humiliation comes into play I turn from sweet loving submissive to the bitch from hell.  One time on a group BDSM camping trip, I playfully dragged my Dom under the water in the lake, later that night around the campfire He made me stand with my nose to a tree for 1/2 an hour and then wanted me to go to EACH person there and apologize for my disrespect ~ I did the tree thing with tears flowing freely from humiliation and then turned around told him "FUCK OFF AND DIE" got in my car and went home.


For me that situation would have been great. I love humiliation and it's probably my favorite thing next to feet. I am in agreement that humiliation is different for everybody. Humiliation is only effective if it is actually humiliating for the person who is being humiliated. I find it very humiliating to submit to men and strangers because I have no interest in it on my own. On the few occasions where this has happened it was extremely degrading and humiliating, and I loved it. I find that degradation accompanies a lot of humiliation and that could be what turns some people off.

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 3:36:47 PM   
Daes


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Status: offline 		I don't have a favorite 'form' I mean, it can come in any way, shape or form, and quite frankly, it changes in every experience.

The last one I recall was when Master wanted me to sing "Good Ship Lollipop" while holding this huge 7-8 inch lollipop in front of my roommate, who had moved directly in front of me with his arms crossed and said "I gotta see this."

It was not something I planned on doing to entertain my roommate, so I was getting a little angry. My Master saw that I was getting upset so instead he teased me, hugged me, apologized then told me that I Was going to sing for him before the night was over.

Which I did, albeit with some embarassment.

He made me sing Good Ship Lollipop while he fucked me on my bed >.>;


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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 4:06:41 PM   
MzCalisto


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Status: offline 		As a Domme, I wanted to throw My 2-cents in.  It is true that humiliation might not be for all subs, but for those who enjoy it, it can make a session.  My suggestion it talk to your sub, and discover what she is about.  My sub is a PhD.  I used to tease him about how truly ignorant he really is; that I know he is afraid of others finding out about that he is a fraud.   I would actually make him wear a "dunce" cap and do corner time.  It would send him through the roof (well not literally).
 
I hope You find some answers You are looking for.

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 4:16:10 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MineToControl

What are YOUR favorite forms of humiliation, or your favorate methods your master has used to humiliate you?


Once it becomes a favorite, its no longer humiliating.
From the humiliation play I have taken part of , the whole trick is to get inside someone's head and figure out what will mortify them... but it doesnt work when it becomes routine. It is no longer humiliating if it is expected, nor if it has been endured before and they know the outcome and that it will all be over and done with after.
For male subs humiliation works far differently than female subs.
For some female subs, it can be something as simple as making them go out mismatched or with really insanely bad makeup on. For others no matter what you do it will not be humiliating. The best thing to try is chatwith her about things she would find nightmarish if she had to do them. Offer up one or two of your own, but keep good mental notes. I did this when I had a boy into humiliation and then one evening I pulled out one of the things he found most humiliating to think about and made it happen. Quite successful, for him. Doubt it would have worked for anyone else... but I didnt care if it did or not after all.

my 2 cents
DV


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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 5:15:54 PM   
VivaciousSub


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For some female subs, it can be something as simple as making them go out mismatched or with really insanely bad makeup on.


The mismatched thing wouldn't get me...but the insanely bad makeup would! I am my family and friend's makeup artist and going out with orange foundation, neon yellow eyeshadow and bright red lipstick would really embarrass me. You are way too good at this, DV!


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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 6:30:20 PM   
Zechriel


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Status: offline 		Good evening!
Well, I am like most people on here that call me a name and you better make sure you have a head start. But usually I can still hunt you down! ::laughs:: Humiliation just does not do it for me, it regresses me back to the days when I had no-0- self esteem. And it is something that I cannot let go of once a playtime has ended, Iwill harp over it for days.
However, to make me feel ASHAMED-which is not as bad, Daddy does have his little punishments. I do not cus, no bad words at all so he will make me say bad words. I hate using bad grammar so he will make me write using contractions. Taking pictures undressed or in a weird position-I hate having my pic taken at all!!!-then waiting to see how long it will take him to delete it from his camera. things like that that make me squirm. If you call that humiliation, then yeah Daddy does do that. Hope that helps.

Love,
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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 10:44:55 PM   
Jeptha


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Status: offline 		My take on humiliation is that it is *not* supposed to make my partner feel bad. That isn't the object at all.
The feeling off humiliation should not overshadow and overwhelm the knowledge that she is safe and loved.
It is only with that foreknowledge firmly in place that she would feel safe enough to go there.

What makes it hot is that she realizes, somewhere in the back of her mind, that I'm not really judging her; I'm getting off on it. Even though I conceal that fact, it is still evident to her because she knows me and we've discussed humiliation, I know a little about what her comfort zones are, and I've determined that she has interest in it.

Not just some interest; if she doesn't have a genuine interest, it's not going to work for me, either, because, as I mentioned, it's not really supposed to be a negative thing, although it may wrapped up to appear like one.

This is only my take on it; I don't want to appear as though I'm stating absolutes.
That's how I have used it and enjoyed it in the past.

It is a little tricky to understand and explain, and I'm not sure if I'm explaining it well at all - not feeling very verbally adept tonight!
It's been fun to try and think about, though.

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RE: Humiliation - 9/30/2008 11:30:01 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		Our absolute, all-time fave:
  when I sit on my slaveboy's face and pee right down his throat, with him dutifully swallowing every drop. 

I'd like to take this opportunity to point out that I draw a distinction between humiliation and degradation. I'm not interested in degrading my slaveboy, at all. I humiliate and objectify him for our pleasure. My kind of humiliation is done to lift him up, never to put him down. I do it to let us feel the exquisite beauty and all the sweetness of his  surrender. There is so much beauty, so much nobility in his complete enslavement to me.

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