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In Love - 10/2/2008 1:58:44 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		This is for al the subs/slaves who are in love with their Master/Dom/me/ owner.  When i first met my Master i knew i liked him a lot but i cannnot honestly say that i loved him.  I never planned on falling in love with him.  My heart had a different idea and i fell head over heels in love with him, and still am very much in love with him.  It works for us because he is in love with me also.

How many subs/slaves who are owned are in love with their Dom?  If you are did you want to fall in love or it just happened?

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 2:24:07 PM   
Daes


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Joined: 4/20/2007
From: Diamond Bar, SoCal
Status: offline 		I think it was a process, I was infatuated with him but I wasn't sure if I "loved" him... I had so many worries and fears that I think it got in the way of allowing myself to really Feel.. if that makes sense. We started emailing each other over bondage.com, moved to chat... We didnt actually have a phone call for a while, and we didn't see each other in person until the day after my 22nd bday.

Now it's different. Every time I see him now, I feel like I get more addicted to him. Sometimes I'm just simply amazed at how lucky I am. Its the best feeling in the world, its also terrifying - it's giving someone the power to break you and trusting them not to...

You can't stop love, it just happens, sometimes slowly, sometimes quickly, but it just happens, in an amazing, overwhelming, and sometimes in frightening ways, especially when it catches you off guard when you feel vulnerable and unprepared.

This is such a romantic's thread btw <3

I could easily go into rambling about love and how D/s (for me) solidifies that love.

I also have to say that, I'm very happy who whoever else is also happy and in love ^_^

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 2:32:49 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		I had no plans to be in love again after my husband died. A year later, i met Sir and now 2 years after my husband's death i can say that i am in love again. Though you asked this for owned sub/slaves, i felt like answering too. i am an unowned submissive who is very happy to give her heart to Sir.

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 2:35:38 PM   
peppermint


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quote:

How many subs/slaves who are owned are in love with their Dom?  If you are did you want to fall in love or it just happened?


I am in love with my Dom.  It just happened.  I did not try to fall in love nor did I try to not fall in love.  Want had nothing to do with it. 

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 2:41:31 PM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Seeing as love is purely subjective and undefinable other than being a verb, I do not see how anyone can answer for the future, only in the moment.
 
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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 3:36:41 PM   
servantheart


Posts: 960
Joined: 10/26/2006
From: Houston, TX
Status: offline 		I had no plans whatsoever to fall in love with my Master.  In fact, when we first started chatting online, I told Him that I wasn't even interested in meeting Him in person.  But the more I got to know Him, the more drawn I was to Him and after hearing His voice during our first phone conversation, I knew I wanted to see Him face to face.  I'm so glad I did. 
 


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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 4:11:04 PM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		I admit I fell fast for Her.  I suppose it was all the sex...uality that we were talking about exploring - my being a boygirl and Her really liking that idea...new to BDSM...so many things to try...here let me make the salad...this is a lovely wine...ah holy hell i'm such a dork...holy HELL She's biting my neck...tremble...want/need/desire...spank...and so on....

So that list of events sounds a lot more flip than what I actually feel.  It has been profound and deep, very moving for me, and I feel like I am a teenager again.  I want to do absolutely -everything- with her...it's like there is this golden tether that binds me to Her.  When we see each other, the tether tightens and draws us together and everything else disappears...I don't know what I did to deserve Her, and I can only say Thank You. 


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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 4:27:40 PM   
VivaciousSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

I admit I fell fast for Her.  I suppose it was all the sex...uality that we were talking about exploring - my being a boygirl and Her really liking that idea...new to BDSM...so many things to try...here let me make the salad...this is a lovely wine...ah holy hell i'm such a dork...holy HELL She's biting my neck...tremble...want/need/desire...spank...and so on....

So that list of events sounds a lot more flip than what I actually feel.  It has been profound and deep, very moving for me, and I feel like I am a teenager again.  I want to do absolutely -everything- with her...it's like there is this golden tether that binds me to Her.  When we see each other, the tether tightens and draws us together and everything else disappears...I don't know what I did to deserve Her, and I can only say Thank You. 



Otter, the obvious love that you two have for each other is incredibly moving. I am always delighted to read your posts about the latest adventure, discovery and experiences you've had with your Lady. They leave me feeling like I've gotten lots of hugs and puppies!

I only hope that I am lucky enough to find that in my life


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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 4:34:16 PM   
whiteslavebitch


Posts: 479
Joined: 9/10/2007
Status: offline 		When we first met, I really liked him as a person, as a play partner, and we had this amazing connection. He was supposed to be a one time play partner, as we lived across the country from each other, and I really wasn't looking for any relationship, much less a LDR.

But  like I said, we had this amazing connection. So we kept in contact when I returned home, getting to know each other in chat, e-mails and on the phone. On my second visit to NYC, he helped me out of a bit of a mess when I lost my wallet on my first night there. That was the beginning of me falling in love with him.

I love him more than I ever thought was possible, and the greatest thing is that he loves me back.

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 4:43:48 PM   
OttersSwim


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quote:

ORIGINAL: VivaciousSub

Otter, the obvious love that you two have for each other is incredibly moving. I am always delighted to read your posts about the latest adventure, discovery and experiences you've had with your Lady. They leave me feeling like I've gotten lots of hugs and puppies!

I only hope that I am lucky enough to find that in my life



Aww...you are really wonderful, Thank You!   

I am sending you lots of vibes of LOVE to hopefully come into your life real soon!


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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 5:11:33 PM   
vampchick88


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Status: offline 		    When I met pet face to face I already knew I loved him. We had nine months of phone and emails before we finally met in person, due to school were not able to meet earlier. After I got off the plane and headed to an esclator with my luggage to go look for pet who I knew was waiting for me....thats when I saw him. At first the loveable kiwi hair, then his face. The leather jacket with rubber benieth. When I first seen him in person in my head I wondered "Is that him? Its got to be him, OMG please let that be him! OMG he's gorgeous!" By the time I got to him my face hurt because I was smiling so wide. I ran up to him, wrapped my arms securely around him and gave him one hell of a kiss! One of many I'm proud to say. Over the next five days I got used to pet, being together, feeling eachother out, etc. It was wonderful! I'm so deeply in love with him, he's my One, my Only, my Everything. I can't imagine life without him and whenever I envision my future he's always there.

I also had the wonderful opportunity to visit him again for six weeks. This was a make or breaker, happily everything went so much better than even imagined. I feel so lucky to have him by my side, licking my boots, wearing my collar, and having the time of his life as well. I loved him before I even laid eyes on him in person, by who he is as a person, how he treats me, his endless patience with me, and his love and devotion that he brings to the relationship. I hope for a lifetime filled with him, love, happiness, and of course, rubber!

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 5:22:24 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		When i met my Sir i was very emotionally wary -  my last relationship was abusive, and i so didn't trust men. I was horny as hell - i wanted a relationship of some kind, and  i was willing to try and find a man that wouldn't put me down and hurt me, and could give me what i was looking for.

What i found was a man who wanted a partner, not a competitor, who cared about me and what i wanted, and enjoyed me - all of me! I didn't love him right away - but how could i resist him. He was everything that i ever thought i might want - and more.

Every so often i wonder what it would be like to play with others, but i really don't think i could find any one as wonderful as he is. There is absolutely no danger of me being tempted by anyone else!

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 5:57:17 PM   
KneelforAnne


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Status: offline 		*Feels all warm and gooey*
 
This is a great thread.  
 
*sighs*

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 6:03:15 PM   
DesFIP


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Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		I fell in love first, then bottomed to him, but only allowed the walls down to submit after I had seen him in action in an extremely stressful situation and saw that he really didn't lose control.

But without love, I might have bottomed, but I would never have submitted. I simply wouldn't have trusted that he needed me enough to double check everything instead of doing stuff off the cuff that could have gotten me hurt.

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 6:48:05 PM   
lizcgirl


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Joined: 4/13/2008
Status: offline 		I did NOT want to fall in love. Period. And I made no attempt to hide it from my Master. He thought it was funny because I refused to say the "L" word like it was the worst possible cuss word imaginable. I had been burnt, recently hurt by some one who claimed to be a friend, and I didn't want to be hurt again. But He was persistant and relentless. I remember He told me He knew what He wanted and He was determined to get it. God that scared the crap out of me. I kept falling for Him so I tried to pull back, to push Him away, and it didn't work. Out of the blue we were talking on IM and He said something that just made my heart get all gooey and overflow and without thinking I told Him 'that's one of the reasons I love you'. I couldn't believe I said that and neither could He- He spit His drink all over the place. He came over the next day, pulled me aside (we had company) took me in His arms and told me He loved me. That was it for me. I am so thankful He didn't back down, that He waited patiently and didn't push for more than I was ready to give.  Now I can say without any fear I love Him with all my heart and I've never been happier in my life. There's an amazing freedom in having a love you know you can trust.

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 7:15:03 PM   
WildHoneyPie


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Status: offline 		I was most definitely not looking for love.  I just wanted a little fun side diversion.  Then I met Daddy (here) and we fell for one another like two tons of bricks.  But for the longest time we would never say it, we just knew it. We'd say things like "I REALLY like you" and "yeah? well, i TURBO like you," etc.  He broke the ice by sending me a mixed disc called "Songs in an Olive Hue."  I was really dense, it took me a week to figure out what he was saying, but when I finally did, I told him that I loved him too, that I had for weeks, and it's been six months of pure bliss since.  Despite my density.

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 7:24:56 PM   
Zechriel


Posts: 308
Joined: 11/19/2007
Status: offline 		Good evening!
I needed to be in love, to love my Master AND have him love me. What I never expected was that I would love someone I would normally not have considered even dating. I  mean I saw Daddy and I was like, "No way! He looks like a grandfather, I cannot do this!" But the love just came, and I am glad it did. And I am glad that he can say back that he loves me or thinks about me or misses me. Takes a man, a Master, a Daddy to say that.
  Although we can never live together-he is wayy too picky and clean and set in his ways whereas I am a bit more laid back and stubborn and a fast food junkie-I still love him and miss him when we are away from each other. Loving Daddy/Master even though I cannot live with him. Weird huh? Have a great weekend!
Love,
Zechriel   

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 7:38:58 PM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		I had just broken off with my former sir. He ended our relationship not because of anything that happened or I did but because I was unhappy about the way he had been treating me and he realized that although he liked me alot, he was not in love with me. I have always been seeking a D's relationship that included love. SO although it was difficult for him he ended that part of our relationship(we are still friends).

I had forced myself back on the personal sites quickly as thats the way I am. Force myself out there even if not ready. I did put on my profiles that my sir had broke off with me and I was hoping to be ready soon. i got an e-mail from a courtly gentleman that went something like this:

"i am sorry to read in your update that things did not work out for you in your previous relationship. however, i do have mixed feelings, i would be kidding myself, if i did not admit to hoping to step in and seeing if i might be your knight in shining armor. you have been in my hotlist for quite a while as i find you quite intriguing, both physically and the attitude you exhibit. we have an incredible amount of things in common and our outlooks on life are wonderfully similar .i am a dominant man who is experienced and has quite a broad selection of items that are guaranteed to keep you in your rightful place. i command respect in a quiet, soft spoken manner and i expect a partner to be strong willed and speak their mind. as a matter of fact the stronger my partner, the more fulfilling the dominance. anyone can control a weak willed personality, but where is the satisfaction for either ? i agree with you that you deserve the best (we all do), and i believe it is in our mutual interest to meet and and see if we can provide "the best" for each other. call it fate, timing, kharma that has made us both available at this time, but you WILL enjoy the journey with me wherever it leads. i look forward to hearing from you soon."

Well, I was not ready, but I was taken aback by the power and sincerity of this gentleman and wondered who he was. I wrote him back and thanked him. he said when I was ready he would love to take me to lunch just to see if he could put a smile on my face. Something told me that I must go. Well I did. It was the 4th of july. 2 and a half weeks after my former sir ended it. I was nervous. My hands were shaking. He saw this and took my hands. 3 hours later we were still talking over lunch and he decided to take me in his convertible down lakeshore drive in chicago to pick up champagne to drink the next time we saw each other. Our first date was 7 hours long. The next one 2 days later was just as long. he wined me, he dined me, he little girled me, but he showed me who was boss and kept me in my rightful place. I am as madly in love with him as he is with me. Saturday we will be celebrating our 3 month anniversary much the same as our first dates. With champagne and a french restaurant sharing fois gras, boullaibase and profiterals. We celebrate our fortune each time we are together.



p.s. he is much more D's than the last who was more of a bondage top. I wanted more mental D's but it isnt easy. I have had to face fears and grow, I have learned how much honesty and openness it take to be in a D's relationship and that I can not get my way and still be ok.

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 7:46:03 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: littleone35
How many subs/slaves who are owned are in love with their Dom?  If you are did you want to fall in love or it just happened

I had a profile on CM for many months before He contacted me.  When He did, I wasn't looking for love at all.  I was exploring a bit but not necessarily looking for or wanting a commitment.  The first day we chatted it was amazing!  No mention of sex or BDSm or anything kinky or sexual whatsoever.  We talked about books and music mostly and we enjoyed each other thoroughly.  It was like meeting up again with someone we'd known for years.  It quickly moved to phone conversations and just became more and more involved until we were both head over heels.  Neither of us were searching for "love" but we both sure found it.  It's just grown and grown over time since I moved to Him and we got married.  I'm so glad love found us when we weren't even lookin'................luci

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 7:55:21 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		I am very much in love with my Master.  We met at a very dark time in my life, and He befriended me when I was feeling like I needed someone to just understand me and what I was going through.  From that friendship grew a love for each other, which has been maintained for almost 5 and a half years.  He is the one who showed me what this particular lifestyle was about and how we could make it something that works for us. 

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