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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 7:57:41 PM   
faithbunny


Posts: 99
Joined: 10/28/2007
Status: offline 		My relationship went the other way--I fell in love with him and then became his submissive. Perhaps because that was how my first D/s relationship began, I have never had interest in submitting to anyone I don't love. I dated numerous doms during our off period, but only submitted to the two I grew to love.

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RE: In Love - 10/2/2008 8:07:04 PM   
girlygurl


Posts: 6973
Joined: 8/5/2007
From: in the palms of His hands
Status: offline 		Like you OP, I was not looking to love anyone nor fall in love with anyone. I did come to love him and then fell in love with Him. I fought it for many months but finally gave into the fact that I love loving Him. My Sir has made me a better person (although that sounds corny) it's true. I can't imagine loving anyone else as much as I love Him.
I wish you both much happiness and love.

girly

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RE: In Love - 10/3/2008 5:58:24 AM   
subsadie


Posts: 5
Joined: 5/23/2008
Status: offline 		It's funny.  To be honest, we were friends first, then we started a casual "fling" I guess you could call it.  Neither of us had intentions of beginning any sort of relationship outside of friendship and, for me, submission.  We had our own lives and our own baggage to deal with.  But then I began to realize that I missed him when he was not around, I would feel lost if I didn't get to speak with him one day.  I wanted to be near him.  I began to serve him more without him requesting it...you know, laundry/dishes/etc.  I did not want to fall in love.  Love was a word that didn't mean much to me at that point in time.  I wasn't even sure if I wanted to be a girlfriend, or even a full-time submissive.  The more time we spent together, the more I realized that he was everything I have searched for and never found.  He possessed the qualities I had always wanted in a man, and on top of that he gave a really good spanking.  My heart did not listen to my head, and today I can say confidently that I love him and he loves me.  I can say that I am in love and believe again that the word "love" has meaning.

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RE: In Love - 10/3/2008 6:07:19 AM   
ChampagneMojito


Posts: 77
Joined: 4/8/2008
From: UK
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I'm completely in love with my Lady. I never saw it coming to be honest, it was something I never expected. I would say you could tear up what I thought of BDSM and D/s before meeting her and what i believe it to now mean. It has utterly changed, grown and deepened. Oringinally it didnt take long to fall for her, about 3 months in I found myself just driving along when i thought to myself "I think I'm falling in love with this woman". That was a bit scary, but thankfully she felt the same way too.

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I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman. ~Anaïs Nin

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RE: In Love - 10/3/2008 6:26:31 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


Posts: 10926
Joined: 2/5/2007
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		i don't fall in love ...i might fall in lust or get infatuated with a person however love is a tricky, mysterious thing with me. my pet is the direct opposite - he's a strong believer of love at first sight. that's how he knew i was the woman for him 2yrs ago even though we started off as friends. 

about 6 months ago we went from friends to dating ...recently, i decided to take the plunge after a long romantic weekend in Denver with him. while together, i could honestly say he does light up my life and heart with those baby hazels. though taking baby steps allowing our relationship to blossom and grow, we're making plans for the future...

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RE: In Love - 10/3/2008 8:34:44 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


Posts: 2464
Joined: 1/26/2006
From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		A friend convinced me to meet Master and after much reluctance I did. I wasn't really looking for a relationship let alone to fall in love. I did and he did and the rest is history.

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RE: In Love - 10/3/2008 9:04:41 AM   
Dnomyar


Posts: 7933
Joined: 6/27/2005
Status: offline 		 I feel left out here. For me love was a beautiful ornate crystal ball. It lays shattered on the floor now.

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RE: In Love - 10/3/2008 11:54:50 AM   
littleone35


Posts: 2828
Joined: 2/17/2005
Status: offline 		Thank you all for the responses.  I am getting a case of the warm fuzzies.

Matt's littleone

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RE: In Love - 10/4/2008 4:30:12 AM   
lilpetuk


Posts: 37
Joined: 9/10/2008
Status: offline 		I know that for me love is essential, it makes the relationship between Dom and subby deeper, my own lil opinion, hugssssss to all

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RE: In Love - 10/4/2008 4:31:51 AM   
simpleplan2


Posts: 461
Joined: 7/5/2008
Status: offline 		Total hijack - why are submissives called subbies but dominants are not called dommies?  Sorry, but subbie sets my teeth on edge.  Sub, on the other hand, doesn't bother me...go figure.

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RE: In Love - 10/4/2008 5:08:05 AM   
colouredin


Posts: 4279
Joined: 2/2/2007
Status: offline 		Mine is weird the Dom I am with fell for me first, almost (cliche I know) love at first sight, didnt take long for me to follow. I dont think you can decide if you will fall in love or not I also dont think that love is a definable thing. I used to have the romantic notions of what it was but thats changed I dont believe love has to be everlasting it can be simply a moment and for that reason I believe I have been in love with many differant people.

Also I think love is differant with differant people, at the beginning fo the year I was intensly and passionatly in love, it was a dramatic heartbreaking love the love that I feel now is one of content, comfort and safty each has their own place. I think love is just another thing life gives us to help us learn who we are. I dont think that we need to question it or define it just feel it. As soon as we open our minds to the possibility that love isnt a fairy tale we will see love everywhere.

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RE: In Love - 10/4/2008 7:59:00 PM   
califsue


Posts: 593
Joined: 2/2/2008
Status: offline 		For me, it just happened. I didn't want to fall or be in love with him. When he wanted to become exclusive he said 'i want all of you, including your heart'. It happened over time and I am very happy it did and at times amazed at the depth of my love I have for him. He is and was in love with me before I fell for him. We both knew from the first time we met, but I pushed him away and so when we hooked up again this year I knew it would happen.

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RE: In Love - 10/6/2008 1:23:35 AM   
faithfulfemme


Posts: 113
Joined: 5/24/2007
Status: offline 		 
When my 18 year relationship ended in 1999 (hy was having an affair), my ability to love withered away.  i'm now at a place in my life where having respect, honor, and loyalty is much more important to me.  Building a relationship on love, in my opinion, is akin to building a house of cards......

On the 14th of last month i met a dominant and we're presently in conversation through emails, the phone, whatever is handy to talk to each other.....we're in an LDR, and i suppose i'll be getting Skype, or whatever it's called, next...........

And the possiblity of love?  .....i'd really rather build this relationship on a foundation of honor and respect.......having respect is substantiative.

......love is just too fleeting.  

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RE: In Love - 10/6/2008 8:23:12 AM   
kristileigh


Posts: 1078
Joined: 3/23/2008
Status: offline 		i did not plan on falling in love with Master. W/we are though. W/we are now 24/7 and W/we grow closer each day. Master recently had to spend the night in the hospital and it was the most miserable night i have ever spent in O/our bed.
i not only have a Master, but a friend and a lover and confidant.

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RE: In Love - 10/8/2008 1:50:34 PM   
SrchngCpl73112


Posts: 47
Joined: 9/21/2008
Status: offline 		I was not looking for love at all.  I was still in a relationship at the time we met.  A horrible relationship with alot of emotional abuse that had been going on for years.  I had already decided i was going to leave him.  I was planning for it.  I had just recently gotten a promotion and i knew this was my out.  I had felt trapped for many years and i was never really in love with him.  I didnt think i would ever find real love.  Me and 'Daddy' worked together and i had seen him outside quite a few times smoking a cigarette and he had this thing about him that i was drawn to.  I didnt know what it was at the time.  He ended up finally talking to me one day and then emailed me.  It hit me quite off guard that he was flirting with me.  I felt this connection to him that i didnt understand.  We ended up talking on the phone a few times and finally went out one night.  I tried to keep my guard up with him.  He didnt buy any of it.  He could see right thru me.  It was love at first site for him he said.  Now that i look back it was for me too but i had a hard time admitting that to myself.  I didnt really believe there was such a thing.  I left my then husband much sooner than i had planned on.  I couldnt stay with him being in love with someone else.  At this time i had no idea about D/s, BDSM or anything about this lifestyle.  When i would go to his house all of these desires would come out in me that i didnt understand.  I was cooking for him, cleaning, picking up after him.  I had never had the desire to do these things for my ex. 
He had been in the lifestyle for a while and is very much a natural Dom and started introducing me to it little by little.  I have since then realized that i am very much submissive and have been my whole life, i just didnt know it.  I have learned so much about myself thru him and our relationship.  Now we are living together and in a 24/7 D/s relationship and we could not be happier.  It is wonderful to be in love.  Sometimes it hits u so unexpectedly, just out of the blue this wonderful man was given to me.  The first time he told me he owned me i didnt know what to think about that but i knew inside of myself that, yes, he did own me and will forever.  Now i understand the meaning of being owned and of being collared.  I dont think i could have found my true submissive nature without being in love.  I look at my life now and think how lucky i am and i have a wonderful future that i am actually lookign forward to. 

This is a great thread!  I am getting all gooshy inside! 

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RE: In Love - 10/8/2008 4:48:13 PM   
leadership527


Posts: 5026
Joined: 6/2/2008
Status: offline 		For us it was love at first sight.. Then marriage.  Then more than a decade later, the collar.  There is no way at all she could submit in the absence of love.  For myself, I cannot even begin to imagine why I'd go through the hassle of owning a person that I didn't love deeply.  Perhaps forms of D/s with less responsibility attached, but not WIITWD.

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I didn't so much "enslave" Carol as I did "enlove" her. - Me
I want a joyous, loving, respectful relationship where the male is in charge and deserves to be. - DavanKael

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RE: In Love - 11/27/2008 5:04:35 PM   
veryniel


Posts: 13
Joined: 11/26/2008
Status: offline 		I wasn't looking for love either. In fact I was dead-set against it, having recently been hurt. I'm so happy now that Master found me, and it rather pains me that my memories of our first chats are so fuzzy because of how detached I was trying to keep myself. I remember I was trying to stop it from happening and His reply was "You know you're going to fall head over heels for Me. It's already happening isn't it." It still surprises me that He was able to do this to me, but He was right; I couldn't help it. I love Him with everything I am. We currently can't see each other til spring because of distance and school and such time-constraints, and sometimes I do get scared if we can't talk, but my Love and Master consoles me. I told Him after one particular instance when we couldn't talk for a while that I was scared that something would keep Him from me and I wouldn't be able to find Him. He told me simply: "I will always find you." My Love seems to enjoy His ability to turn me into a puddle of goo. ^_^

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RE: In Love - 11/27/2008 6:36:28 PM   
Araven


Posts: 149
Joined: 3/16/2006
Status: offline 		I am madly in love with my Mistress. It just sort of happened, our chemistry, the dynamics.. how we can compliment one another. I'm so thankful (on this day of thanksgiving) that she is in my life :)


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RE: In Love - 11/27/2008 8:07:26 PM   
Seud


Posts: 1
Joined: 10/28/2008
Status: offline 		When i met my Sir, I didn't take us seriously. I didn't expect anything to really happen with us. I bullshited myself and him. Then at one point when I almost lost him I fell to pieces. And I realized I didn't want to find out what it was like to be without him. I think I love him, or something very close. It's scares me and I think it scares him I dunno. I'm kinda a heart on your sleeve gal while I think he's a reserved man.

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RE: In Love - 11/27/2008 8:57:37 PM   
porcelain26


Posts: 181
Joined: 11/16/2007
Status: offline 		Love isn't a strong enough word to describe what I feel for my Owner.

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