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RE: In Love - 11/27/2008 10:00:10 PM   
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Funny, I remember the time and place I knew I COULD fall in love with him, and then the time and place and situation where I knew I WAS in love with him. 2 different occasions and within 2 weeks of each other. I was floored that this was happening. I told him and it was all good. wow I never expected to fall in love again. There is a line from Bronx Tale, "you get 3 great loves in life." well he's my 3rd... and I couldn't be happier.

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RE: In Love - 11/28/2008 6:23:22 AM   
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i have fallen in love with my mistress  gawd i love our times together  with all the wonderfull things we have done together over time how could i not fall in love with her ? she is a amazing lady and being with her is the best times of the week for me  i just wish i could get more from her but i take whatever time she gives me and try to be happy with that until next time we are together  i have told her that i love her and she says she loves me too but somehow i think its not the same love if that makes any sense ....oh well without her i would be lost ..too hard to find a good mistress nowadays ..the overniters we do together are the best  just wish i could get more from her  mal

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RE: In Love - 11/28/2008 6:33:40 AM   
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I truly believe i have never really been in love. I do however fall in love with the idea of a person quite easily and it never ends prettily i can tell ya lol.

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RE: In Love - 12/5/2008 1:53:05 PM   
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my Master and i are absolutely in love with eachother. No we did not plan on it. No i did not want to fall i love with him. i did not want to fall in love with anyone. He is the only man i have ever met who has the ability to make me lonely. He is the only man who has ever gotten past my commitment phobia. We weren't expecting it, but we certainly welcomed it.....after he got me through a panic attack the first time i realized i was in love with him.....i almost hyperventillated! LOL. it is the most wonderful feeling in the world!

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RE: In Love - 12/5/2008 5:24:54 PM   
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i do not know when it happened but it happened. the first time i met Him ,He scared me to death. i had never met anyone like Him before. i was new to the lifestyle and just felt drawn to the lifestyle and to my now Master. but when i fell in love i am not sure. it just happened and the great thing is He loves me too

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RE: In Love - 12/7/2008 10:29:54 PM   
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When girl was first in love, it was the strangest sense. Girl felt as though, my mistress at the time, had known her all my life. It was unusual that girl knew what mistress wanted even before she asked. Girl was always right, it did not matter the distance between us, always knew. When we were together, it was not so much a submissive feeling but that girl was like putty. Sometimes girl would make little sense when mistress would ask me something and only mumbling would be the reply. At that time girl was in love with my mistress. It was beautiful. Girl remembers it well as my mistress was also my muse and girl did write a lot. Mistress taught me gaelic and much that was written was done in gaelic. All that was written was given to her when mistress' collar was removed.
When girl falls in love again, as girl believes girl will. Girl will warn my next mistress, if girl is lucky to fall in love again, that there will be those that would want to take away such a beautiful thing. That we will strengthen such bonds so that they may never be broken.
Girl knows when she is in love, when girl becomes touched by her muse.

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RE: In Love - 12/7/2008 11:09:03 PM   
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Sorry to throw in my 2 cents since I am not owned, but I can't submit without love and being in love...in fact love would have to come first...

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RE: In Love - 12/8/2008 12:03:40 AM   
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I think we are designed to fall in love and that over time it will happen - it's a survival instinct. Just look at all of the arranged marriages that eventually turn to love. I also believe that there are different levels of love.

I know that above all - I want the love. The type of deep love that brings music, joy, and spiritual light into your life. The type of love where you would not hesitate to step in front of a bullet for. The type of love that shatters your world and sends you to a pit of darkness if it ends. Nothing can compare to that - not sex, not subspace, not lust, not pleasure.

I also know that love. It nearly killed me and her when it ended (thank God for really good friends) and it's taken me nearly a year to crawl out of the pit. I failed that love. Our dreams and strengths where too far apart and "Happily Ever After" does not always win against the challenges of the real world. I'm wiser now and believe I will be ready next time. I can only pray that she will be also.

For those of you who have it nourish it and keep it growing. Feed it your time and your dreams.
peace and love well

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RE: In Love - 12/8/2008 6:52:36 PM   
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It is amazing how many of us have found love (or it found us) when we weren't looking. i was merely seeking a play partner but it quickly became more than just a game when i realised He had enslaved more than just my body, but my heart as well.  So while the physical experience can be pleasurable in and of itself, the emotional intensity now involved has taken things to a new soaring levels i had once imagined only existed in fairytales. 

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RE: In Love - 12/8/2008 6:55:43 PM   
Aszhrae


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quote:

ORIGINAL: femmetasia

It is amazing how many of us have found love (or it found us) when we weren't looking. i was merely seeking a play partner but it quickly became more than just a game when i realised He had enslaved more than just my body, but my heart as well.  So while the physical experience can be pleasurable in and of itself, the emotional intensity now involved has taken things to a new soaring levels i had once imagined only existed in fairytales. 


If only there was a domme out there that could also do the same with as what happened to you. Such a hold would have me melt from a whisper.

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RE: In Love - 12/8/2008 7:40:05 PM   
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Greetings littleone,
 
It really surprises me to read how many people weren’t looking for love, or didn’t even want to fall in love. Me, I desperately wanted to be able to find a man that I would respect and admire enough to fall head over heels in love with. To fall in love with somebody strong enough to keep me.
 
It’s very hard for me to say when this exactly happened. I’ve been reading Master’s post on the boards for years, admiring him from afar before we ever had any contact at all. Many nights I lay awake dreaming of what it would be like to be owned by such a man.
 
So you could sure say that I was seriously infatuated with him before we ever talked. I only feared that it was not him that I felt all these strong feeling for, but the idea of him that I had in my head.
I mean come on, everybody knows that when something/somebody sounds too good to be true it usually is, especially online.
 
I never believed in online romance, nor do I belief in online collars or ownership. I swore my whole life that I would never ever ever beg a collar online. But it took me nothing but a couple of weeks of talking to him before I was lost forever. I couldn’t fight it anymore, I was desperately in love and I begged his collar which, obviously, I didn’t get…
 
A couple of weeks later we met in person for the very first time. I can honestly say that I booked that transatlantic flight still convinced that no man could really be that perfect in person. I was hoping, but I was preparing myself to be very deeply disappointed…
 
Meeting him was the most wonderful experience of my life. I was so scared and you cannot imagine my relief when he not only turned out to be exactly as I had imagined him to be, but also way more handsome than any of his pictures that I had already been swooning over.
Within a couple of days I settled into a life with Master and Mistress that felt as if it had always been like that. I could barely remember that not a week ago my day to day life had been totally different, and the idea of ever going back to it seemed totally ridiculous.
 
Over time, my love for him only deepens. He is my ocean, and I still haven’t gone to the bottom of it yet…
 
I wish you well,
 
ishy

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RE: In Love - 12/8/2008 7:45:45 PM   
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When C and I met, I made it clear that I did not 'do' relationships, and was not interested in sex... ha... that lasted maybe 6 months? 

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RE: In Love - 12/9/2008 4:06:57 AM   
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I knew from the first day i met my Now Husband/Master that i could easily love him.

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RE: In Love - 12/9/2008 6:43:08 AM   
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When I first saw Lumus' posts (we "met" in P&RS) I thought he was an intriguing, intelligent, funny Man. I believed He was someOne I could love with all my heart but that we would only be friends as neither of us were looking for someone for different reasons. How could I know that I would end up His, collared and happily married? And yes, most intensely and happily in love....

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RE: In Love - 12/9/2008 6:49:04 AM   
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Well...I do very much love Master T.  It was a little strange how we came to be together.  I was on a board with him, he was my child's friend's father.  I couldn't understand what the HELL was wrong with me, but I very much looked forward to our stupid board meetings!  I loved it when his child was around and he was around.  He had been through a few divorces, he was really not ever going to love anyone again.  I was sparated and really didn't want to get involved again because I had gotten burned on that before.  One day I asked him for some help with something and he helped me, I got a call that I needed to go out of town for an emergency and Master T offered to go with me to keep me company (he took the day off of work and everything).  He was very good company the entire trip and took me to dinner once I was finished with my obligation...then when it was time to part ways he gave me a wonderful kiss.  I knew then that I was in serious trouble!  I couldn't think of anyone other than him.  I fell in love with him way too easily (he was a harder sell than I), but I have loved him from that point on and still am in just as much love as before...I had been in relationships before, but never one that I loved to be with the person as much as now and never before have I felt that the love grew stronger everyday. 
It just worked out well, everyone gets along well...we love each other and I love that he loves to be my Master and works out well because I really want to be his slave.  Sorry for the book!

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RE: In Love - 12/9/2008 7:37:57 AM   
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I had just broken off with my former sir. He ended our relationship not because of anything that happened or I did but because I was unhappy about the way he had been treating me and he realized that although he liked me alot, he was not in love with me. I have always been seeking a D's relationship that included love. SO although it was difficult for him he ended that part of our relationship(we are still friends).

I had forced myself back on the personal sites quickly as thats the way I am. Force myself out there even if not ready. I did put on my profiles that my sir had broke off with me and I was hoping to be ready soon. i got an e-mail from a courtly gentleman that went something like this:

"i am sorry to read in your update that things did not work out for you in your previous relationship. however, i do have mixed feelings, i would be kidding myself, if i did not admit to hoping to step in and seeing if i might be your knight in shining armor. you have been in my hotlist for quite a while as i find you quite intriguing, both physically and the attitude you exhibit. we have an incredible amount of things in common and our outlooks on life are wonderfully similar .i am a dominant man who is experienced and has quite a broad selection of items that are guaranteed to keep you in your rightful place. i command respect in a quiet, soft spoken manner and i expect a partner to be strong willed and speak their mind. as a matter of fact the stronger my partner, the more fulfilling the dominance. anyone can control a weak willed personality, but where is the satisfaction for either ? i agree with you that you deserve the best (we all do), and i believe it is in our mutual interest to meet and and see if we can provide "the best" for each other. call it fate, timing, kharma that has made us both available at this time, but you WILL enjoy the journey with me wherever it leads. i look forward to hearing from you soon."

Well, I was not ready, but I was taken aback by the power and sincerity of this gentleman and wondered who he was. I wrote him back and thanked him. he said when I was ready he would love to take me to lunch just to see if he could put a smile on my face. Something told me that I must go. Well I did. It was the 4th of july. 2 and a half weeks after my former sir ended it. I was nervous. My hands were shaking. He saw this and took my hands. 3 hours later we were still talking over lunch and he decided to take me in his convertible down lakeshore drive in chicago to pick up champagne to drink the next time we saw each other. Our first date was 7 hours long. The next one 2 days later was just as long. he wined me, he dined me, he little girled me, but he showed me who was boss and kept me in my rightful place. I am as madly in love with him as he is with me. Saturday we will be celebrating our 3 month anniversary much the same as our first dates. With champagne and a french restaurant sharing fois gras, boullaibase and profiterals. We celebrate our fortune each time we are together.



p.s. he is much more D's than the last who was more of a bondage top. I wanted more mental D's but it isnt easy. I have had to face fears and grow, I have learned how much honesty and openness it take to be in a D's relationship and that I can not get my way and still be ok.


I saw this. Its funny. I broke up with the Dominant I was seeing here. He did not know what he was doing from a safety standpoint. Anyone can have the gear and call themselves a Dominant without being trained in how to keep a sub safe physically.

I never stopped caring about the former Dom. We got together for his birthday and sparks flew. He said if we got back together he would not take me for granted again and would become a bigger part of my life. I broke off with the dominant who was driving me around in corvettes. In the grand scheme of things although he was good to me, he was to much like me in all the worse ways.It was difficult ending it with a nice man but I did not feel safe sceneing with him and I didnt feel like a person to him but rather his fantasy come to life.

So I have been back with Warden for 2 months now. He is my rock and my stability. He doesnt say it but I know he loves me as he has learned to show it in very comforting ways. With every tire purchase for me or snowbrush or oil he puts in my car he says "I am taking care of you." He makes me laugh, he calms me down, he keeps me in check. He doesnt even know what a profiteral is and he drives me around in a Honda Civic, not a corvette. AND that is ok by me.

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RE: In Love - 12/9/2008 10:18:01 PM   
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I fell in love with my Mistress, and never saw it coming because I labored under the mistaken impression that bdsm was inherently love-less. I thought that someone who loved me could never treat me the way I craved, and someone who could - could not love me. Boy was I wrong. Never before have I been so happy to be wrong! Now I know that I require romantic love in the context of a D&S / S&M relationship.   

I did not plan to fall in love, especially since I was coming out of a failing marriage. I said I would never marry again. Instead I got collared. Go figure! Now I cannot imagine submitting in the way that I do to someone I do not love. My love for my Mistress is actually the key to the entire thing for me. Suffice it to say that this has been the greatest, most beneficial discovery in my life.

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RE: In Love - 12/10/2008 4:11:45 AM   
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my Master and i were both looking for love and began writing as pen pals in a vanilla way over a decade ago.  He was in the CG'd and lived far away.  After several years of writing and sending email W/we both felt a connection but because of the distance never said anything about it. Then He got out of the CG'd, and i moved and W/we lost touch for several years.  i came home from work one night and checked my email and out of nowhere there was one from Him that said He didn't know if the address still worked or not but He still  thought of me and wondered how i was.  i instantly wrote back and W/we discovered W/we had been within 30 miles of each other several times over the years without knowing it and decided it was high time W/we stopped being ships that pass in the night.  It wasn't till then that W/we found out W/we were both in the Lifestyle.  A few months later W/we met and it was love at first sight and W/we've been together ever since.  For now W/we still live far apart but meet for a week every few months and plan to get married.  The distance is a killer but after nearly 10 years of letter writing (which W/we still do on a regular basis) and email and all those near misses before W/we finally got together, W/we figure it's destiny.  Time and distance keep U/us apart, and bring U/us together.  O/our happily ever after is getting closer day by day, and every day W/we love each O/other more. 

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RE: In Love - 12/10/2008 6:31:29 AM   
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I met Sir many years ago. We were aquaintences in the vanilla world. Over time we became friends, until one day when He said something to me in quite an offhanded way, that changed how I saw Him. He took me to dinner and I was unsure if it was a friend date. We went out a couple more times, still unsure if they were 'real' dates. We started dating steadily and in a couple of months, I was head over heels for Him. I think it's funny, that everything I always wanted in a man was always there, we just needed to wait until it was time I guess. We bring out the best in each other (most days), and it makes life much more fun. 

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RE: In Love - 12/10/2008 6:34:56 AM   
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greetings littleone

nope, i wasn't looking for love, nor planning to love Dauntless.  He was supposed to be a one night stand!  but, He's just soooo cool and wonderful, and a great lover *winks* that the next thing ya know, i'm in love!  and He loves me back which makes it even better  :)

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