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What is sex - 10/4/2008 5:27:27 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Sir and I were having a discussion the other day bought about after my munch. It seems frequantly that people state that BDSM isnt about sex, fair enough so what is sex? I mean is it really just intercourse? I am genuienly interested in other peoples opinions of this especially those who differentiate sex and BDSM

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 5:42:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 5:44:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 5:47:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		Skin to genital contact.  Well I guess I have to include insertable to genital contact as well.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 5:48:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		To me... if I touch your winkie in some manner... with the intent to get you off... that's a sexual action. V/A/Oral sex is sex, to me. 

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 5:54:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact


See I think that this is where I stand too, though I do get the sex verses sexual act argument I think that sex is more than just genital contact.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 5:58:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me it is sexual contact.  I think most gynecologists would agree with that.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:02:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: missturbation

For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.

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For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.


Can i ask if you ever had sex with a slave (penetration)?

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:03:40 AM   
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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:05:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact


So... an erotic conversation is sex?  An erotic novel is sex?  An erotic thought is sex?  Gosh... folks have been getting a lot more than they were aware of.
 
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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:06:26 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact

quote:

sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact

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I wonder if generally, it's more proper for a slave to perform oral sex to a Mistress or be allowed penetration as well? What would be the general practice preferred or allowed? Do many slaves have complete sex with their Mistresses or are they generally only used to serve otherwise?

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:08:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: winoverme


quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.

quote:

For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.


Can i ask if you ever had sex with a slave (penetration)?


Nope. Sir has not requested that of me...........yet lol.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:11:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		The first sexual act i ever experienced was when i was 15, and a boy fondled my earlobes whilst i sat infront of him.                  and it was more sexually stimulating than most of the intercourse i experienced when i was married.

For me (obviously) bdsm is sexual - all of it. Serving my Sir, recieving his attentions with canes, paddles and whips is sexual - and how!!!!
Intercourse  is the culmination of that sexual stimulation  -  or not, depending on my Sirs whim.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:12:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: missturbation

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ORIGINAL: winoverme


quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.

quote:

For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.


Can i ask if you ever had sex with a slave (penetration)?


Nope. Sir has not requested that of me...........yet lol.

quote:

Nope. Sir has not requested that of me...........yet lol.


So you are a female sub/ slave? So you are superior to me...I respect female slaves very much too, even though Pro-Dommes are superior to them...I will always be at the feet of females...And that's a comforting thought...

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:14:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		When i was growing up on Long Island, we had a hand clap rhyme that went something like..."sex, sex, sex, is a law, law, law, when a boy throws a girl on the floor, floor, floor..."*rubs away a tear* Ahh! The innocence of childhood!!!!
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In regards to the OP, i used to think of sex as being any sort of physical sexual contact.  Recently, i'm persuaded (by the powers that be) to think that anything that is done with the intention of causing an erotic response is sexual. So sex can be anything done  within any dynamic that isintended to  make one, or both(or all twenty...lol) partners hot.  The list of sexual acts gets longer by the day....

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:15:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Rover

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact


So... an erotic conversation is sex?  An erotic novel is sex?  An erotic thought is sex?  Gosh... folks have been getting a lot more than they were aware of.
 
John


To me..yes.  IF it gets me off, it's sex. If it gets the other person off, yes, it's sex.

(and for the record, I havent been getting any..LOL)

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:16:45 AM   
missturbation


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ORIGINAL: winoverme


quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

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ORIGINAL: winoverme


quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.

quote:

For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.


Can i ask if you ever had sex with a slave (penetration)?


Nope. Sir has not requested that of me...........yet lol.

quote:

Nope. Sir has not requested that of me...........yet lol.


So you are a female sub/ slave? So you are superior to me...I respect female slaves very much too, even though Pro-Dommes are superior to them...I will always be at the feet of females...And that's a comforting thought...


Yes i'm a female slave lol. I'm not however superior to anyone. Honestly i'm really not comfortable with that.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:17:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: winoverme


quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact

quote:

sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact

_
I wonder if generally, it's more proper for a slave to perform oral sex to a Mistress or be allowed penetration as well? What would be the general practice preferred or allowed? Do many slaves have complete sex with their Mistresses or are they generally only used to serve otherwise?


I have absolutely no clue as to the answer to that


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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:20:59 AM   
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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:30:59 AM   
winoverme


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

When i was growing up on Long Island, we had a hand clap rhyme that went something like..."sex, sex, sex, is a law, law, law, when a boy throws a girl on the floor, floor, floor..."*rubs away a tear* Ahh! The innocence of childhood!!!!
------------------
In regards to the OP, i used to think of sex as being any sort of physical sexual contact.  Recently, i'm persuaded (by the powers that be) to think that anything that is done with the intention of causing an erotic response is sexual. So sex can be anything done  within any dynamic that isintended to  make one, or both(or all twenty...lol) partners hot.  The list of sexual acts gets longer by the day....

quote:

Ahh! The innocence of childhood!!!!


For me, part of the right path to respect a woman is to keep my "little boy" way of thinking. I'm a man, but staying obedient, passive and grateful makes me proud that this path stays totally safe for any woman i encounter...She could mistreat me badly, i would always try to keep my grateful smile, to show her i am aware of my chance to serve her..I really think that future approaches to the behaving of man towards woman should try to teach and train men to lose their agresive instincts, perhaps a little like domestic cats who are pleasing but harmless..For me, the real sexual pleasure belongs to a woman...the stronger sex. If i could be allowed to vote, i'd vote for the possibility for women to have the strong pleasure of keeping virile masculine males to provide them with fantastic orgasms, while keeping boy pets totally under their control...This is my vision of FemDom supremacy...Do some share the same views with me? It's like strong masculine men could be kept in limited number, just to the sake of a healthy sexual life for women, while little pets like me would belong exclusively to serve..Do some like my vision?

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