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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:34:23 AM   
LadyPact


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This is my vision of FemDom supremacy...Do some share the same views with me? It's like strong masculine men could be kept in limited number, just to the sake of a healthy sexual life for women, while little pets like me would belong exclusively to serve..Do some like my vision?

Can't say I do, and it's a little early in the day for Me for the wanking material.


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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:35:05 AM   
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For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.

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For me personally sex involves penetration. Vaginal sex, anal sex. Anything else including oral sex is just a sexual act.


Can i ask if you ever had sex with a slave (penetration)?


Nope. Sir has not requested that of me...........yet lol.

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Nope. Sir has not requested that of me...........yet lol.


So you are a female sub/ slave? So you are superior to me...I respect female slaves very much too, even though Pro-Dommes are superior to them...I will always be at the feet of females...And that's a comforting thought...


Yes i'm a female slave lol. I'm not however superior to anyone. Honestly i'm really not comfortable with that.

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Yes i'm a female slave lol. I'm not however superior to anyone. Honestly i'm really not comfortable with that.


But i consider you to be superior to me, because from the tips of your toes to the tips of your fingers, you are a woman...

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:35:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

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sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact


So... an erotic conversation is sex?  An erotic novel is sex?  An erotic thought is sex?  Gosh... folks have been getting a lot more than they were aware of.
 
John


To me..yes.  IF it gets me off, it's sex. If it gets the other person off, yes, it's sex.

(and for the record, I havent been getting any..LOL)


Ah, well the "if it gets me off" caveat was missing from the initial definition you provided.  So it's possible for you to have "sex" without the benefit of a partner, as masturbation would fall under your definition. 
 
I take it you have not been masturbating lately (given your statement that you "haven't been getting any").
 
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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:36:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		It seems frequantly that people state that BDSM isnt about sex
 
  I have heard that stated before and we have talked about it too and used that phrase
 
 My interpretation
   "isnt about the sex"  =  isn't about the physical orgazms...
 
and no...I don't define having sex as having an orgazm.  I think you can be sexual w/o orgazm.   But that is how I interpret that phrase when it used in the bdsm context.
 


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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 6:44:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: winoverme


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When i was growing up on Long Island, we had a hand clap rhyme that went something like..."sex, sex, sex, is a law, law, law, when a boy throws a girl on the floor, floor, floor..."*rubs away a tear* Ahh! The innocence of childhood!!!!
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In regards to the OP, i used to think of sex as being any sort of physical sexual contact.  Recently, i'm persuaded (by the powers that be) to think that anything that is done with the intention of causing an erotic response is sexual. So sex can be anything done  within any dynamic that isintended to  make one, or both(or all twenty...lol) partners hot.  The list of sexual acts gets longer by the day....

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Ahh! The innocence of childhood!!!!


For me, part of the right path to respect a woman is to keep my "little boy" way of thinking. I'm a man, but staying obedient, passive and grateful makes me proud that this path stays totally safe for any woman i encounter...She could mistreat me badly, i would always try to keep my grateful smile, to show her i am aware of my chance to serve her..I really think that future approaches to the behaving of man towards woman should try to teach and train men to lose their agresive instincts, perhaps a little like domestic cats who are pleasing but harmless..For me, the real sexual pleasure belongs to a woman...the stronger sex. If i could be allowed to vote, i'd vote for the possibility for women to have the strong pleasure of keeping virile masculine males to provide them with fantastic orgasms, while keeping boy pets totally under their control...This is my vision of FemDom supremacy...Do some share the same views with me? It's like strong masculine men could be kept in limited number, just to the sake of a healthy sexual life for women, while little pets like me would belong exclusively to serve..Do some like my vision?
somehow i feel my post has been besmirched....is this a thread within a thread?
~sullied tulip

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:01:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

sex, to me, is anything that is erotically charged.. whether or not theres penetration....or any overtly sexual contact


I'd go with that rather than the 'penetration' one.

ha i've just deleted a long explanation/follow up to that cos i realised i'm still a bit woozy from last night/this morning and its very much TMI and not the place to relate sex and drug anecdotes!

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:05:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		The (erotic) incorporation of the copulative genitals into any act that is intended to arouse.

Making out can be "sexy", but I don't consider it "sex".

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:05:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Unless you were just really curious as to what the word sex means to people, I think you would be better off to look at the validity of the original statement.  Instead of the statement "BDSM is not about sex", I think the more correct statement would be "it is not about sex for everyone", or "it is not always about sex."  But it is certainly about sex for some people.


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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:07:14 AM   
GreedyTop


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*snicker*

ETA: Thats kinda what I was thinking, LadyPact....
(oops.. left out a couple of letters)


< Message edited by GreedyTop -- 10/4/2008 7:37:33 AM >

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:15:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		BDSM may not be overly about reproduction, but it can't be denied that it's entirely about sex.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:21:02 AM   
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BDSM may not be overly about reproduction, but it can't be denied that it's entirely about sex.


I call bullshit on that one.  I know quite a number of people, IN REAL LIFE, that have a master/slave or dom/sub relationship and it is strictly about SERVICE, there is nothing sexual about it.


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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:21:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Unless you were just really curious as to what the word sex means to people, I think you would be better off to look at the validity of the original statement.  Instead of the statement "BDSM is not about sex", I think the more correct statement would be "it is not about sex for everyone", or "it is not always about sex."  But it is certainly about sex for some people.


Cali



Sorry I thought that it implied that it was some (by the statement especially those tho disassociate the two) however I could have been more clear sorry.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:22:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		We seem to be mixing definitions here. Legally sex would involve direct genital contact. After all, penetration is not required for a man to receive a hand job and I count that as sex, as is a hitachi on the clit - no penetration but definitely sex in my book.

However when we ask whether or not BDSM is sexual, then I think we're switching to emotions. If a masochist orgasms from being whipped, that's sexual even without direct genital contact or penetration. If being humiliated gets a male sub harder than a tree trunk, that's sexual. Et cetera.

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:25:32 AM   
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*smooches Tulip and offers her so color safe bleach*

Thanks...i love you!!!!!!  Only a weal twue fwiend would remember the color safe part !!!!!!

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:39:36 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		LOL Tulip :)  Do you have any idea how much I adore you?

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 7:45:20 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		BDSM makes me horny, whether or not there are sex acts involved.  Sex acts might include any form of penetration, with fingers, objects, or stimulation of the genitals by either party.  So if he is beating me and rubbing me, it is sex.  If he is beating me and I am wrapping my lips around  his cock, it is sex. 
If it is sex, it is sex.
I dont know why people say it is not sex, since for me it has always been sexual.
Unless I am going to someones house to give them a massage as an act of service to them, and a outlet for anxiety for me, any type of play bdsm will always be sex to me.
Massages are never sex.
Cleaning houses, painting, making dinner, driving somewhere to pick up parts for his business, not sex.
Getting naked?  SEX
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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 8:24:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: tweedydaddy

BDSM may not be overly about reproduction, but it can't be denied that it's entirely about sex.


As a personal statement of fact (ie: BDSM is all about sex for you) that's perfectly acceptable.  As an absolute statement of fact (ie: BDSM is all about sex for everyone) it is incomprehensibly false in the extreme (I am being kind).
 
John

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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 8:26:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Rover
As an absolute statement of fact (ie: BDSM is all about sex for everyone) it is incomprehensibly false in the extreme (I am being kind).


LOL.  Yes, you are being kind.  I used the word "bullshit."


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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 8:27:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

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*smooches Tulip and offers her so color safe bleach*

Thanks...i love you!!!!!!  Only a weal twue fwiend would remember the color safe part !!!!!!


two words.. MIchael Jackson... *snickers, ducks, and runs*


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RE: What is sex - 10/4/2008 8:28:23 AM   
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LOL Tulip :)  Do you have any idea how much I adore you?
Did some of the posts in this thread make you think of this song too?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JkaBKJcN_Hg



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