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Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 12:17:41 PM   
heyjohn56


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Status: offline 		Hello again. I'm SirLucas on CM. I posted a while ago asking about favorite assignments and tasks, and I got a lot of wonderful answers. I mixed them with some of the ideas I had and have already had My prospective slave perform them.

Now I'd like to ask about some of your favorite punishments. Of course you know I don't mean the ones that may have actually felt good. I mean the ones that were most effective. The ones you really learned and grew from.

Thanks in advance for all input. Peace and happiness to all.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 12:19:42 PM   
laura2161


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Status: offline 		Favorite punishment?

If its punishment then there should be no favorite, just dreaded.



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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 12:22:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		My favorite punishment is none at all.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 12:47:57 PM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		Yea, I gotta agree here, there should be no -favorite- punishment for a sub/slave.  We quail at punishment - it's a bad thing.

Maybe rethink your question...do you want to punish them, or engage in sensation play?  If it is the latter, you will get lots of answers.


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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 12:53:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		 Fourthing the general sentiment - "favorite" and "punishment" are words that just don't belong together in my mind. Any masochistic enjoyment I could get out of some punishments is derailed by the fact that I've disappointed whoever I'm serving.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 1:05:25 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: heyjohn56
Now I'd like to ask about some of your favorite punishments. Of course you know I don't mean the ones that may have actually felt good. I mean the ones that were most effective. The ones you really learned and grew from.


i do not have a "favorite punishment" as that would imply like i liked disobeying and being punished.  But the most effective punishment, for me, is my own sense of letting Him down.  We have been together for several years and in that time He has not had to punish me.  He knows that feeling like i have let Him down causes me more pain than anything else.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 1:06:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Okay guys, let's not get caught up in his usage of the word "favorite" in the same sentence with "punishment". That's a red herring. He goes on to qualify what he says with "the ones that were the most effective".

The most effective punishment for me isn't physical, as I am a masochist. It's seeing the look of disappointment on Sir's face and then hearing that I've disappointed Him. Some subs do best with physical punishment or a blend of physical punishment with the psychological aspects, but for lots of us all it takes is that awful quiet voice letting us know that our behavior has been found displeasing.


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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 1:13:48 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		I don't need an in depth "Rub her nose in the rug" punishment. I'm not a dog, or a child. A look, or 'no' from him is sufficient enough for me to cut out the crap. 

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 1:15:44 PM   
Igot99Problems


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ORIGINAL: VivaciousSub

Okay guys, let's not get caught up in his usage of the word "favorite" in the same sentence with "punishment". That's a red herring. He goes on to qualify what he says with "the ones that were the most effective".

The most effective punishment for me isn't physical, as I am a masochist. It's seeing the look of disappointment on Sir's face and then hearing that I've disappointed Him. Some subs do best with physical punishment or a blend of physical punishment with the psychological aspects, but for lots of us all it takes is that awful quiet voice letting us know that our behavior has been found displeasing.



I've always invested in divine retribution, or the punishment fitting the crime.  Unfortunately, in the kink world too often the punishments just feed into the desires of the sub.  Particularity physical punishments.  Connecting with a sub mentally, and letting your displeasure with them eat away at the back of their mind for days seems far more fitting.  Though I will admit this is dangerous as, for whatever reason, alot of subs I've come across has emotional dependences and punishing them mentally can lead to wild spires into depression.  No, I prefer a pained look, a charming smile, and teasing to the point of agony then walking away.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 1:24:26 PM   
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We have been together for several years and in that time He has not had to punish me.  He knows that feeling like i have let Him down causes me more pain than anything else.


If - well, actually, when, but it is a rare occaision - Master does not punish me when I feel like this, that is worse than anything He could possibly do. And he knows that. so, the only time he does not punish me, when he knows I need it, is when what I did really is bad enough to warrent that - to justify leaving me feeling like that.
If he did that to me over a bunch of the little, stupid shit of everyday life, it would begin to erode my trust in him.
I trust him to punish me when he knows I need it.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 2:42:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littleone35

My favorite punishment is none at all.



Mine too! 

Been over a year now....and counting....and praying

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 2:47:44 PM   
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For me, the "worst" punishment is mental. I think that a lot of submissives/slaves are natural people-pleasers, and their first priority is to please and be pleasing to their Doms. For a Dom to tell me that I failed at a task, disappointed him, etc., would be the most effective way of getting me to alter my behavior. In a nutshell: guilt, guilt, guilt. One sub posted that the worst punishment she had ever received was simply being ignored. Talk about effective! Ugh!!

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 2:50:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hell, i do enough of that to myself (in feeling like i've disappointed Him).  There has been only one occasion where He deemed it necessary to punish me.  Needless to say, the behaviour has not been repeated.  Like others have said, "favorite" and "punishment" don't belong in the same sentence.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 3:13:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		If punishment is done correctly it should not be a favorite thing.




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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 3:13:15 PM   
DesFIP


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I don't learn from negative reinforcement. I learn from clear effective communication where there is no threat of punishment if I can't learn immediately. If I know that any mistake will result in punishment, then I quit trying because I know I am human and I will make mistakes. I need a safe environment with the ability to make mistakes in order to keep learning and improving. Of course it's a lot easier to punish someone than to take the time and trouble, as well as have the ability, to figure out what they need to succeed.

If Thomas Edison had been punished for making mistakes, he would never have figured out how to make a working lightbulb. You do know he failed over a thousand times before he got it right?

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 3:47:13 PM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		What DesFIP said...

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 4:06:20 PM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		I'm not punished for making mistakes. If I know that mistakes will result in punishment, I try like hell, but my trying is so fraught with nerves and fear that punishment is inevitable, ontop of which, I am unwilling to experiment with various possiblities, which is generally necessary in finding an answer.
I am punished to put a stop to the me beating up on me.
Punishment is generally lighter than play. There is one implement that is saved for punishment only. He has done other things as punishment, but he never uses THAT unless it is punishment. Other rituals also allow me to KNOW the difference - otherwise it would seriously interfere with play. Most of all, that He has promised that He will always make sure that I KNOW.
the most important part of punishment are the words at the end, 'You are forgiven'. and it's over. If he is not ready to let it go, He is not ready to punish me.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 5:13:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: leadership527

What DesFIP said...


You know, we might as well just start a mutual admiration society here. lol

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 7:15:49 PM   
hopelesslyInvo


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Status: offline 		not only would i not take kindly to being punished, but i would be quite intolerant to anyone who thinks they are qualified or 'in right' to do so.

this is simply the most unintelligent way to resolve anything in a relationship so far as i'm concerned.  it is complete stupidity if i'm 'punished' over something that i have no control over.  if i don't meet up to someone's standards, the motivation to be better will come naturally by their disappointment in me rather than my being mistreated.  this of course has nothing to do with 'roleplay' punishment, or the people who enjoy certain activities, it simply has to do with 'why' you do something rather than 'what' you're doing.

the only form of punishment i will ever consider humane or rightful is seperation, if someone has truly wronged another in a relationship and needs to feel the recoil of their actions, the only punishment i'll ever support is to send them away or leaving them to themselves.  being cut off from someone you love is probably the worst thing [punishment] you can do to someone, without deserving 'punishment' yourself.

in my personal view though, i don't look at separation as punishment, i look at time together as reward.

< Message edited by hopelesslyInvo -- 10/5/2008 7:22:19 PM >

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/5/2008 7:21:36 PM   
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I do not like punshments....If you like them, then whats the point? 

I love spankings, but for me those are not punishments..*giggles*

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