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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/27/2008 9:25:07 AM

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The punishment with lasting imaginable affects would be the look of disapproval from a Dominants face. When or if communication has ceased or diminished for a time being for a submissive to ponder and think about there mistake is great punishment because of the separation the mistake creates between the the Dominant and sub. Vivacioussub well said also.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 10/27/2008 12:12:26 PM

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Greetings.
I'm presently out of a relationship, so I believe I'll answer this question from the last one I was in.

I get where some people here were saying "I don't need punishments - that's not what I'm about". But, from the Top's side, perhaps they feel like a physical punishment is necessary in order to keep the roles straight mentally. I can understand this - physical punishment was a part of my last relationship.

So - to answer the question: My least favorite punishement was a dildo inserted at an angle that wasn't comfortable for me (laying flat on my stomach) - then held there for so many seconds or minutes. This was the "nuclear" option for her - and it's true, I did a lot so I wouldn't suffer that.

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Discipline, etc. - 10/27/2008 5:42:08 PM

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There was one submissive of mine who was so very petrified of being diapered, that all I needed to was to show her a diaper. She would instantly become very quiet and compliant.

It's not that I am into infantilism, but what works, works. I once got a safeword from a masochist without physically touching her.

Think strained peas. The scene I call "Baby's revenge."

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 11/30/2009 2:29:26 PM

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I see that most of the discusson on punishment from subs is that their sense of disappointment by their Master is enough by itself. Fair enough. Even in real life that serves as the most effective form of control. But there are times that no matter how hard they try, a sub/slave can't do it, or not do it, as the case may be, and therefore they need more than just facing the disappontment of their Master. Others need the threat at least, if not the actual punishment, to maintain a certain course.

Example, I have helped several subs stick to personal weight loss programs through reward and punishment. They all felt that they need strict accountability and repercussions if they were to succeed. Were they also seeking punishment for pleasure of some form. No doubt some were, but I have found that the same thing done as "punishment" versus done for pleasure can be affected by the mind set of why it is being done.

One sub, for example, loved to be spanked, and spanked hard. However, when I put her in the "other room" for punishment, the same spanking had a totally different impact (no pun intended) because of her mind set.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 11/30/2009 4:15:32 PM

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But there are times that no matter how hard they try, a sub/slave can't do it, or not do it, as the case may be, and therefore they need more than just facing the disappontment of their Master.

Punishing someone for something they are UNABLE to do is abuse, in my opinion. Giving someone encouragement or incentive to try harder is a whole 'nother ball of wax.

If someone is failing you so frequently that you have run out of punishments and have to come up with new ones, then perhaps it time to re-evaluate why failure is so frequent an occurrence.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 11/30/2009 4:19:04 PM

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Fourthing the general sentiment - "favorite" and "punishment" are words that just don't belong together in my mind. Any masochistic enjoyment I could get out of some punishments is derailed by the fact that I've disappointed whoever I'm serving.

my feelings exactly. Well put :)

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 11/30/2009 6:41:48 PM

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if it is to actually correct a behavior....expressing disappointment or displeasure is surefire. Ignoring or treating me with indifference is also extremely effective. If it's a physical punishment you're looking for, I don't have an answer because those almost always elicit some sort of arousal from me which only leads to further disobedience LOL.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 12/1/2009 1:56:22 AM

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Favorite punishment?

If its punishment then there should be no favorite, just dreaded.

same here

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 12/1/2009 3:51:43 AM

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Being the masochist that I am, the punishments I have recieved have been physical. He knows I like pain, but He also knows what kind of pain I like. He knows I hate the cane and single tail. So when He punishes me He will use those and I have to count the strokes. One time He had me tell Him how many strokes He thought were deserved for my infraction. That was hard because obviously with those tools of torture (as I call them) I wanted the count to be low, but I also didn't want Him to think I was trying to get out of it. So, I chose a number I thought was prudent and He added ten extra. But what I didn't realize was that when I thought He would only be using one thing (ex. cane) He used both and the strokes were for each tool, not used half and half.

To say the least, I didn't do whatever it was I did again.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 12/1/2009 9:27:24 AM

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I see that most of the discusson on punishment from subs is that their sense of disappointment by their Master is enough by itself. Fair enough. Even in real life that serves as the most effective form of control. But there are times that no matter how hard they try, a sub/slave can't do it, or not do it, as the case may be, and therefore they need more than just facing the disappontment of their Master. Others need the threat at least, if not the actual punishment, to maintain a certain course.

Example, I have helped several subs stick to personal weight loss programs through reward and punishment. They all felt that they need strict accountability and repercussions if they were to succeed. Were they also seeking punishment for pleasure of some form. No doubt some were, but I have found that the same thing done as "punishment" versus done for pleasure can be affected by the mind set of why it is being done.

One sub, for example, loved to be spanked, and spanked hard. However, when I put her in the "other room" for punishment, the same spanking had a totally different impact (no pun intended) because of her mind set.

Why did you reply to a thread that was OVER a year old?

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 12/2/2009 12:33:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: OTK4uINLA

I see that most of the discusson on punishment from subs is that their sense of disappointment by their Master is enough by itself. Fair enough. Even in real life that serves as the most effective form of control. But there are times that no matter how hard they try, a sub/slave can't do it, or not do it, as the case may be, and therefore they need more than just facing the disappontment of their Master. Others need the threat at least, if not the actual punishment, to maintain a certain course.

Example, I have helped several subs stick to personal weight loss programs through reward and punishment. They all felt that they need strict accountability and repercussions if they were to succeed. Were they also seeking punishment for pleasure of some form. No doubt some were, but I have found that the same thing done as "punishment" versus done for pleasure can be affected by the mind set of why it is being done.

One sub, for example, loved to be spanked, and spanked hard. However, when I put her in the "other room" for punishment, the same spanking had a totally different impact (no pun intended) because of her mind set.

Why did you reply to a thread that was OVER a year old?

i assume its because someone has found this topic and wants to get some ideas from it without typing it out again - its the only reason i can come up with for bumping a thread up. but this question always gets the 'if its fun it aint punishment' and so maybe they wanted to avoid the infammy of looking like a twit for asking it and getting the inevitable results.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 12/3/2009 1:46:34 PM

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"I don't learn from negative reinforcement."

i might get this sentence as a tramp stamp tattoo.

Effective punishments of the past included withdrawal of Dom presence or attention in some specific form with the clear declaration that it was meant to be un-fun & unpleasant.

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RE: Favorite punishments! - 12/4/2009 3:16:02 AM

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worst punishments for me have been lack of contact with the Dom, and another that comes to my mind oh so quicly was having my hands fasted around a tree, and being caned bare ass in the woods....i was hurt with that one in so many ways.

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