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FRSguy -> RE: Is BDSM Still CooL? (10/8/2008 11:49:02 AM)
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Cool question but nearly impossible to answer. I think I would have to ask was it ever cool to begin with. The answer to that could quit possibly be NO and I think you are probably confusing it with the up and down popularity of people who are more into the clothing than anything else. You can find plenty of examples on regular T.V. of vanillas wearing collars with rings for attachments and as far as I know a lot of the clothing in BDSM is borrowed from various fashions throughout history for the most part. This creates a problem if you view historical art and photographs or in any type of media in that the style of clothing although fetish today was not at the time.
Sex is something that was at one point very different from culture to culture depending on what was popular at the time often based on stories and such that had some kind of shock effect on the public like in ancient Rome big cocks were a sign of ignorance and mental disorders and that’s why a lot of painting that depict naked men have small dicks and Romans spouses didn’t kiss because it was considered a childish act done between mothers and there young not between adults. An example of a modern day event that changed sexuality for a lot of Americans would be the Clinton / Lewinsky (not sure of spelling) event, blowjobs are fashionable now and woman read articles how to blow and put fingers in mens asses where only a few decades ago they could have been jailed. Today a lot of cultures are finding a middle ground due to the Internet, which allows public gathering of subcultures that in the past was unable to find one another.
I haven’t really seen any evidence that would suggest that the number of people that identify with BDSM has actually changed any however there is a lot to suggest that much more people play around with it more which is most likely due to the media. The reason the media is getting so involved is because well… they are running out of things to shock there audience and BDSM raises a huge question mark. The general public has no idea what a scene is and that a great deal of it is fake in the sense that it is controlled based on the responses of the submissive. They have no idea that Doms train and learn it as a craft as it were. To them, in horror mode, they expect that the subs flesh will be ripped open at any second and when they don’t see it happen they are relived but its the tension that it could happen. Because of laws and the lack of organization and a book that people would agree on its kind of hard to truly show what its all about because its all kind of based on or made for people that have a degree of understanding.
There are huge road blocks standing in the way of figuring out what people truly did in history because much of it was suppressed. So now after all that horseshit let me try to answer your question. NO, it is not popular now, its not considered cool. You may vary well be seen as a monster to people outside this subculture because they don’t understand what it is that we do and why. Vanillas continuously group together BDSM with a wide range of other subcultures and they put it all in a basket that also contains people that rape, murder, molest, and suppress woman rights. But, look on the bright side, you can wear all kinds of kinky shit that is cool that is also associated with BDSM and not necessarily be associated with it and is a form of self empowerment for many young people. Its kind of like saying … I fuck and I do it the way I want to which has kind of in a way been a very powerful driving force in kink for the last 150 years or so.
One thing just as a side note because I love this…LOL.In colonial America it was illegal for a wife to not have sex with her husband and vice versa. Woman who’s husbands proved that there wives were not having sex frequently enough were stripped naked, had a sign placed around there neck and placed in stocks for the day in the town square where people in the village would through rotten food at them, spit on them and call them names. In the state of Maine, not having sex is legal grounds for a divorce. Stress causing interference with a woman’s ability to perform sexually for her husband is lawsuit material which to this day is very frequent.
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