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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/16/2008 11:19:19 PM   
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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/16/2008 11:33:51 PM   
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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/17/2008 12:26:58 AM   
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Ok I will play along.  hmmm lemme thinkhere.... punishment... One could argue that staying home with a 13 month old is punishment enuff.  You could make him write 1000 times.  " My wife is a dominate bitch"  or "I live with a miserable cunt"  Just some thoughts.  If you want more idea feel free to ask.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/17/2008 12:44:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Ok I will play along.  hmmm lemme thinkhere.... punishment... One could argue that staying home with a 13 month old is punishment enuff.  You could make him write 1000 times.  " My wife is a dominate bitch"  or "I live with a miserable cunt"  Just some thoughts.  If you want more idea feel free to ask.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/17/2008 3:01:29 AM   
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That was before she was born. Now she is 13 months old and I am trying to think of ways to do it more discreetly.


So for over a year, you have been working alot and he has been taking care of the baby, cooking and cleaning and by your own words he is a good house boi. But things aren't perfect so your going to punish him. Sorry but I don't see your problem. I see his, but not yours. Maybe you should work on being less of a perfectionist and show a little gratitude that you have someone willing to stay home and take care of you.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/17/2008 3:15:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Show him how you want it done and make him do it until he gets it right. Otherwise slap a diaper on his ass and shove a pacifier in his mouth and let him walk around like that. If he is going to act like a baby he can look like one.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/17/2008 5:48:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		i guess You could try flushing his head down the toilet, make him sleep on the kitchen floor, ground him from doing some of his best things eg watch tv, wax his hair off, etc.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/17/2008 8:56:18 PM   
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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/17/2008 9:08:11 PM   
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like I said... if you're not creative enough for this.. perhaps rethink?

maybe its just me... creative is one of those things I think helps make a good dominant...




True, but give the Domme some slack... she only asked for ideas. Even Dommes run out of them sometimes... EVEN good Dommes...

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/18/2008 12:10:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tell you what, Ms Perfectionist. Switch roles for two weeks. You do all the baby care, cleaning, shopping etc and see whether everything can be done perfectly.

Because if he's scrubbing the floor with a toothbrush, he isn't taking the baby to Musical Munchkins, or parallel play dates or even outside at all. And that takes precedence over how to dust.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/18/2008 12:15:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		The baby takes 2 naps every day. He could do one job well then. Instead he would try to do everything and half would be sloppy. He is coming around and seeing things my way. Thank everyone else who has posted ideas. I admit I am newer to this. I am sure you all were at one time.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/18/2008 12:19:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have to say, that this is the INTERNET. It is full of sites, which are also in themselves FULL... of erotic stories, for FREE. There is also a ton of free porn out there. For both, you can find any kind of scene that you want; dungeons, cuckold, lesbian, hell even the horrible stuff like animals and children. Why would anyone waste time trying to coax some free 'wank material' as you call it out of an unwilling person on a forum? Why not just google whatever fetish they wanted, and watch/read it for a lot less work?

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/18/2008 1:48:00 PM   
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Has anyone thought that maybe he is not attending to his chores in the way that his perfectionist wife would like because he is doing the more important job of attending to, entertaining and educating a 13 month old child?

How many of those with children could, hand on heart, say that their chores were fully completed all of the time to such exacting standards as the OP seems to exhibit?

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/18/2008 4:19:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: alcamslave

The baby takes 2 naps every day. He could do one job well then. Instead he would try to do everything and half would be sloppy. He is coming around and seeing things my way. Thank everyone else who has posted ideas. I admit I am newer to this. I am sure you all were at one time.


And when does he get to take a shower? Or prepare dinner? Having raised ums, the nap time was when I got to rest, or wash, or other such exciting stuff like chop vegetables. You can't even make a cup of tea if you have an um underfoot as the risk of falling over them with boiling water is too high.

I suggest you start paying attention to his needs which includes down time.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/18/2008 7:55:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I had not really given that any thought. Thank you for bringing that to my attention.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/19/2008 2:04:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		Something else to consider is this: he has time when you are home from work to attend to his chores, and get some down time. I am sure you (if you are ANY kind of a mother) like to spend time with your child. Why can't he do his work during your 'mommy' time? It would make you more capable of relaxing and enjoying your baby, and give him a reasonable time frame for chores. Just don't make him do EVERYTHING in the house. Even in a true slavery situation EVERYTHING is not left up to one slave. And a sub or slave is a treasured commodity to a good Master. Make sure he gets something for himself and feels like a treasure instead of a dirty washrag. Even the best subservients get  worn out and frustrated if they have nothing for themselves.  

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/19/2008 2:46:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are thousands of people working full-time and looking after a home and child/children when they are not working.
Ever heard of one parent families?
They don't all live on benefits. Or have an income from the mother or father of the children. Some don't get any help at all.
Of course you could always throw him out and pay for child care.
Or maybe even talk to him about why he isn't able to do things up to your standard.
Of course he could be depressed. I would be in his situation.
Maybe you could start praising him.
If it isn't consensual then it isn't BDSM it's abuse.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/20/2008 5:54:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lateralist1

There are thousands of people working full-time and looking after a home and child/children when they are not working.
Ever heard of one parent families?
They don't all live on benefits. Or have an income from the mother or father of the children. Some don't get any help at all.
Of course you could always throw him out and pay for child care.
Or maybe even talk to him about why he isn't able to do things up to your standard.
Of course he could be depressed. I would be in his situation.
Maybe you could start praising him.
If it isn't consensual then it isn't BDSM it's abuse.


Amen to this, I struggle to raise 5 kids alone (most of the time, I have a worthless bf who really doesn't do much). There are plenty of subs out there who truly enjoy NSA housework. Why don't you get one to come clean to your standards? It sounds like they would enjoy the constant criticism and abuse from you a lot more than your husband.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/20/2008 12:32:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Single parents don't scrub the corners of the floor with a toothbrush, they wash it when it gets sticky. They vacuum once a week at most, clean bathrooms less than that since the cleaning starts after the ums go to sleep. I used to vacuum only very late at night because one of them was afraid of the vacuum cleaner. So I could only do it when he was sleeping very deeply.

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RE: Help or suggestions training My husband - 11/20/2008 1:31:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: alcamslave

Thank you dangerousangel. I have done things like that in the past and it hasn't had the response I would hope for. I am looking for a really unique idea that won't interfere or hinder him in keeping our daughter.


I have not read any of the other replies past this post but here is my idea.

Make him get off his ass and get a real job to pay for a baby sitter and housecleaning service.

That's what I would do.


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