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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/8/2008 7:07:56 PM

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/8/2008 7:27:54 PM

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For me, it's not chocolate since I donot regularly eat sweets and have no desire to. It's how much bottled water, crystal light, and yogurt and sourcream and crackers and cans of my fav soup you've left me with.

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Actually, come to think about it, it all depends on how much chocolate is in the house.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/8/2008 7:56:29 PM

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I am Master's slave and I am alone most of the time...especially since he is currently dealing with an ill father. However, after reading your profile I guess I can understand your concern since you are not home to perform your duties as detailed in your profile which includes daily inspections in the morning and evening once you return home. You could give her a task to send you an email or journal about her doing the things required although you aren't home to do your inspection.

Just because one is a slave does not mean they can't be alone, think for themselves or all the other things one normally did/do before they acquired a Master.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/8/2008 8:00:47 PM

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My last Master and I had a long distance relationship for most of the time we were together. It got worse as he was deployed over seas. I say, just do things to keep your relationship going, by emailing, texting etc.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/8/2008 8:39:04 PM

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OMG??? Never ever leave them alone! Crap you come home things are chewed up and they peed every damn place!

Give them a good amount of tasks to perform for Master while away. Household stuff, cleaning, painting, roof repair. As well as training tasks to work on and other things for the slaves self-improvement.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/8/2008 9:34:28 PM

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I just began traveling quite a bit for work. I am sometimes gone for 2 weeks (rarely 3 weeks, but it's possible). Am I still a viable Master for 24/7 TPE. What do I do with my current slave?

This isn't an issue unique to power exchange relationships. Some people (of any lifestyle orientation) can handle their partner traveling, and some cannot. Finding one that can will make your life infinitely less annoying.

John

If the tpe relationship is of a certain type and had a degree of micro management , I could see how the slave may have issues if the slave was left alone for longer periods without their Masters presence heard and felt.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/8/2008 11:32:38 PM

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Stasis pod. Definitely.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/8/2008 11:50:14 PM

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I just began traveling quite a bit for work. I am sometimes gone for 2 weeks (rarely 3 weeks, but it's possible). Am I still a viable Master for 24/7 TPE. What do I do with my current slave?

A few of the things that help me out when Himself is traveling (which is often for 2 weeks but has been as long as a few months with infrequent weekends at home).

Rituals - setting some in place can help her feel connected to your dominance.

Journaling - writing down her thoughts in a blog which you can access will allow her to vent as needed, whether it's venting about missing you or what a pain it is to take the dog out when it's snowing and minus 30 degrees outside or just if she's not feeling good when she's on the rag.

Menus & exercise program - Write up a menu together before you have to leave so that she's eating what you want her to and you're are still in control and can maintain a healthy diet for her whether you're there or not.

If you both have lap tops, get Skype or some other web based program for each of you so that you can 'talk' (or, you know, whatever

) for free face to face. There are all sorts of gadgets that you can plug in so that you have an instant hot spot.

Give her a 'to do' list before you go with frequent excursions out of the house at specific times on specific days. Make some of those activities 'fun', like taking in a show or going to the library and other can be more chore based.. dry cleaners or shopping and things along those lines.

If she knows she is a priority for you, even when you're not in direct contact with her or for longer based times, that's going to go far in instilling a sense of security in you, your dominance and her place in your life.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/8/2008 11:54:25 PM

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How long have you been feeling this insecure?

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 3:37:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

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ORIGINAL: HouseDom

I just began traveling quite a bit for work. I am sometimes gone for 2 weeks (rarely 3 weeks, but it's possible). Am I still a viable Master for 24/7 TPE. What do I do with my current slave?

This isn't an issue unique to power exchange relationships. Some people (of any lifestyle orientation) can handle their partner traveling, and some cannot. Finding one that can will make your life infinitely less annoying.

John

If the tpe relationship is of a certain type and had a degree of micro management , I could see how the slave may have issues if the slave was left alone for longer periods without their Masters presence heard and felt.

C-D

Even that relationship dynamic can, and does, exist in other lifestyles. It's not unique to BDSM.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 4:31:23 AM

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Even that relationship dynamic can, and does, exist in other lifestyles. It's not unique to BDSM.

John

And apparently just as fun to ridicule.

To the OP, setting out instructions, staying in regular contact, and pretty much everything Celeste mentioned above should help in adjusting to the change of routine for her. We have no idea what your dynamic is, or what her history is. For all we know she could be in a fragile period of her life and dealing with insecurities a lot of us aren't burdened with. Or perhaps you both are so close in your relationship that you both hate to be without the other's company. Or maybe it's the healthiest relationship on the planet and you're just hoping to keep it that way, with your new schedule. In any case, kudos to you for considering her needs, rather than shrugging her off and telling her to deal.

And kudos to Rover for understanding there are ways different than the norm or status quo, and they don't always have to be mocked or criticized.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 5:39:13 AM

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Well, slaves are human so they have human emotions and as long as they know where You are, what You're upto and roughly when You'll be back, You could leave them alone quite happily for some considerable time. As long as You contact them as/when You can, they should be fine.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 6:11:58 AM

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As a more service sub myself, I think a list of chores/repairs that need doing? If you want to check up on her, what about hiding little things where she would need to go? Like, if you stick a little note on the toilet brush, and tell her to clean the toilet, and she hasn't seen the note when she tells you on the phone she did all the chores... you get the idea. There are ways to check in.

Trust her. If you can't trust her alone for a week, how can you trust her with you for a week? Seriously. Give her the chance to prove how much she wants to be yours.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 10:11:54 AM

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I just began traveling quite a bit for work. I am sometimes gone for 2 weeks (rarely 3 weeks, but it's possible). Am I still a viable Master for 24/7 TPE. What do I do with my current slave?

I have a slightly off topic question. I peeked at your profile after reading some of the other responses that mentioned things in your profile. (yup i'm curious that way)

You state at the end that doctor visits will only be done once she submitts a written request and then only at your approval....

So my question is what if something happens while you are gone for your two or three weeks? Will she be diciplined for going to the ER if she feels the need with out submitting the request in writing?

I'm not being snarky i'm honestly curious about some of the things in your profile.

There were a few things that stumped me but if i listed them all it would take to long.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 11:12:26 AM

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I only deal with solidly carry-on size slaves. I just don't want to share my per diem with her. :)

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 11:21:38 AM

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I just began traveling quite a bit for work. I am sometimes gone for 2 weeks (rarely 3 weeks, but it's possible). Am I still a viable Master for 24/7 TPE. What do I do with my current slave?

You wrote this as a requirement.....
The slave must be diligent, hard-working, trustworthy, and able to act and sustain itself independently for up to 2 weeks. The slave will be seen and rarely heard.
But you dont have this type of slave?

I quess when this happens

you will realize you didnt meet your own requirement and them come here for "advice?"

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 12:05:20 PM

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Dude its a person not a dog.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 12:32:14 PM

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I just read the op's profile. He doesn't want a slave, he wants a pet fish. Hell, even a cat requires more interaction and needs met than this guy is willing to provide.

"The slave will rarely be heard from". Well, there goes any interactions while he's away since he doesn't want to hear from her. Of course it also brings up fun stuff like him getting home to a flooded house. "Why didn't you call a plumber or call and tell me we needed one?", zero response since she isn't to be heard from.

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 12:47:55 PM

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Just make sure to keep her well stocked on medication, or you might come home to a switch or a Dom! (sorry, couldn't resist.)

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RE: How long can you leave a slave alone? - 10/9/2008 1:55:45 PM

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I was thinking a robot might work out, something like "Cherry 2000".

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