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MHOO314 -> Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 6:30:01 AM)
We have recently seen many good posts about expectations, hirt ( honesty, integrity,respect, trust)--we have also seen threads about lists, what to ask, what not to ask, etc. in the middle of the night when the darkness greets the dawn, I thought of things we do not think to ask---food for thought--remember its the little things that break us apart---and few BDSM relationships can have one naked and chained 24/7--so ( I am hoping this will be fun--) here are some thought starters " I want to serve".. Q--Do you know how to make a bed with square corners and the Marine coin toss? Can you clean a toilet? Can you separate My clothes so My whites aren't pink? Have you done litter pans? Have you ever been a secretary? What are your organization skills? Have you worked in a vegetable garden? What is your current diet like? Do you have allergies? Do you know your way around a grocery store, and not looking for cigarettes? Do you currently have any debt or bad debts? What if any is your spiritual orientation? "Use me as You see fit" Q--Can I attach you to a Hummer by your CB for CBT? Can I send you to the Czech Domme camp for a month to get trained? I assume by that statement you aren't opposed to being branded? Ok some of these are tongue in cheek--however, they make a real statement about needs. wants, desires, expectations and the cold smack of reality---I can hardly wait to see within the TOS what our responders have to say--smiles

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 6:38:02 AM)
It's true. The first thing people think of in service is sex. Funny for me- when I first found out about bdsm, it took me a few weeks to realize that I could COMBINE my desire to serve (ie clean/host/organize) with my desire to be controlled (ie the sex and play). It honestly was a revelation to me. I'd had both as part of me, but had seriously not connected one to the other, even after I discovered bdsm. I was quite thrilled once I made that connection- I really COULD have it all. It unfortunately is one of the illusions that newbies have to discard- that being a sub/slave really doesn't much change your day to day life in the world in the long term. It's far more about inner fulfillment. This can be hard for relationships that go from "weekend bdsm vacations" with their partner to "day to day life stuff."

Sartoris32801 -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 6:47:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 .. what to ask, what not to ask, etc. in the middle of the night when the darkness greets the dawn, I thought of things we do not think to ask-- ( I am hoping this will be fun--) here are some thought starters Only thing that comes to mind is Lunesta or Ambien. I wish you well in finding someone who exceeds your expectations. Sartoris

Elegant -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 7:01:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 " I want to serve".. And then there is the flip side: "I want to receive service" Q-- ~Do you have professional management skills? ~Do you know how to clean a litter pan so that when slave is sick you can keep kitty from pooping on the bed? ~Do you know how to act like a gentleman/lady in social situations? ~If I set a formal dinner table if you request it do you know which fork to use? ~Will you be slovenly just because you have a slave? ~If you expect to take control of all finances what experience do you have in money management? ~Can you provide emotional counseling to a slave? ~Can you do it all on your own in case something happens to your slave?

imtempting -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 7:12:02 AM)
I never think of them :)

veronicaofML -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 7:12:54 AM)
ok. and just for giggles--since it is---tongue in cheek..i'll give ya my answers anyway... === Q--Do you know how to make a bed with square corners and the Marine coin toss? --i dont know nuthin 'bout no leatherneck waterlogged bellboy..but in the USAF we did the coin toss...and i lost.....how do i get this taste outta my mouth? oh btw? my bed is round hun-eeee Can you clean a toilet? ---i do it daily here..why? ya wanna come see mine? it just sparkles SO nice...and i luv to see the tidy bowl man ski across the ice in the morn. Can you separate My clothes so My whites aren't pink? ---yes but i do so adore pink lately...oh my.. Have you done litter pans? --is that with lunch or dinner? what size pan do you use? Have you ever been a secretary? ---------no but i simply luv skirts n heels...where do i apply? What are your organization skills? ----usually pretty good once i can find my glasses in the mornin..ouch! oh that was the door.. Have you worked in a vegetable garden? ---------you mean they grow veggies? oh my..here i thought i just went to the store...? What is your current diet like? -------i have a see-food diet...if i see food i eat it. Do you have allergies? --------yes..i'm allergic to smartass dommes that think they have the power when we know slaves do.. Do you know your way around a grocery store, and not looking for cigarettes? ------yes..i like cigars better....... Do you currently have any debt or bad debts? you mean there is good debt? hell i thought anything that costs money is bad What if any is your spiritual orientation? ----i dont know..next time i see a ghost i'll ask him Q--Can I attach you to a Hummer by your CB for CBT? -----hummer?????isnt that when she gets on her knees and she....... Can I send you to the Czech Domme camp for a month to get trained? --czech? i didnt know you were from iowa...hells bells girl....a lotta folks i know is bohemie I assume by that statement you aren't opposed to being branded? branded? ya mean just like them thar cows i seen on rawhide? ohhhhh clint eastwood is SOOO cute, isn't he? ==================== ok...i had my fun...happy holidays to You n Yours from me n mine.....

MHOO314 -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 7:25:51 AM)
ROTFL---ohhh v, I am in stitches, you are a dear, but Im sure there must be some questions you think should be asked---hmm a round bed eh??

fldrkhorse -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 7:49:24 AM)
Ahh, Lady M you are wise beyond your years. How can anyone offer X when they don't know what X is? As we see from the chat room posts all have different definitions, interpretations, and expectations. To use service as an example, "can you clean a toilet?" To gay men, service means oral. Please, please, please (sorry having a James Brown flashback) never offer anything you're not prepared to give. One guy told me I could do anything I wanted to him. To teach him a lesson I told him I'd tie him to the bed and set the house on fire. Serve and use are two overly used words with little to no meaning.

MHOO314 -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 7:55:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sartoris32801 Only thing that comes to mind is Lunesta or Ambien. I wish you well in finding someone who exceeds your expectations. Sartoris Thank you, in fact I recently have---he rocks, he rocks My world, and I am about to shake, rattle and roll his!

OscarHargraves -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 8:12:11 AM)
I had an answer all mapped out but I forgot it while I was laughing my ass off at Veroncia's answers!

maleslave1 -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 8:19:12 AM)
very good LIke most poeple I not good at all things but wish to try.yes I wish to serve. but I do have debts .which Iam paying off.paper work sucks ...I have be able to chat with my kids and see them.Iam divorced. she left me ..all iam saying is get to knowme and as we grow wecan see .How being your slave can/may please you.all I know I had a domme some time ago...Ilove toplease and serve her.but Igot transfered to states side....love john carlson

veronicaofML -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 8:23:50 AM)
but Im sure there must be some questions you think should be asked-- --------- oh i would venture a guess there are indeed SOME good questions. yes'M. in my eyes only...(ohh just like a top secret spy..for my eyes only...oh wait..they did that for james bond..(pouting) --- um...as a "domestics" only slave? oh kay..do i have-to-be serious? i was having SUCH fun being a smartass... questions;;;; "give me, your idea of-a-day in the real world of being a house slave." "what are your short term and long term goals?" "what do you expect or think, will happen, between sunday and saturday every week, for 52 weeks?" "do you understand and fully realize you are to be here for-the-Domme and not for-yourself? remember, being a full time slave means to please the Domme, not the Domme pleasing you." "how do you feel about going out early morning and shoveling snow, so She can get to work, and THEN get yourself off to work? remember you have-to get Her ready before you get yourself ready." "make sure She has Her purse, keys, shoes, an outfit ready to wear, make Her a lunch to take in case She does not wish to buy lunch 365 days..." "make sure the pets are fed, and have been-out to do their duty, making sure Her clothes are all cleaned, and put away properly, every day, every week." "making sure evening meals are prepared ahead of time, so you can get it ready for Her to eat, when She gets home, and you are there to serve Her, and do dishes, and get Her bed ready for Her, and then get your bed ready." "remember you have a bedtime curfew." "slaves do not stay up all night on the internet" ========== are these enough for starters Ma'am?????????? veronica slave of Ms Laura....Owned and Operated real time,..24/7/365...

MHOO314 -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 8:34:04 AM)
veronica----Very Very well done, major major thought starters---bravo! now you can go back to being a smart ass---smiles

MHOO314 -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 8:38:33 AM)
I hope this isn't a petition--but more your thoughts on the subject---welcome to the collarme boards --Happy Holidays and good luck in your quest...

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 1:08:45 PM)
These are a regular part of our exploration process: quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 " I want to serve".. Q-- Can you clean a toilet? Can you separate My clothes so My whites aren't pink? What are your organization skills? Have you worked in a vegetable garden? What is your current diet like? Do you have allergies? Do you know your way around a grocery store, and not looking for cigarettes? Do you currently have any debt or bad debts? What if any is your spiritual orientation? "Use me as You see fit" Q--I assume by that statement you aren't opposed to being branded? Ok some of these are tongue in cheek--however, they make a real statement about needs. wants, desires, expectations and the cold smack of reality---I can hardly wait to see within the TOS what our responders have to say--smiles We also ask things like: Have you taken care of a living will? What are your preferences for your body if you die? What are your preferences if you are unable to tell the doctors about whether you want life support? (If they have unmentionables) Have you arranged a will to assure that your "unmentionable" is taken care of if something happens to you? (If they have unmentionables) Who do you want your unmentionable to go to if you are in an accident? (If they live separately) Do you have homeowner's insurance and have you been keeping it current? (If they have a car) What are the limits on your automobile policy, is it current, and is it sufficient to cover damages and medical expenses if you are in an accident? (If they have a driver's license) Do you have any tickets, are they moving violations, and how many/how recently have you been ticketed? What are your current practices in regards to things like drinking and driving? Have you ever shoplifted or stolen from your job? Ok... this is only a partial list... but most of these come up or are answered one way or another during our early weeks/months together (usually before the consideration collar, and always before the House collar.) We are also willing to answer these (and other necessary but unusual questions that have come up) for our servants. Lady Zephyr

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 1:19:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Elegant quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 " I want to serve".. And then there is the flip side: Which is -often forgotten- and in case anyone is interested, here are my answers to the "flip side". quote: Q-- ~Do you have professional management skills? Yes. I've owned and managed my own company, managed a holistic healthcare office, managed a computer customer technical support team, and managed servants in a household. quote: ~Do you know how to clean a litter pan so that when slave is sick you can keep kitty from pooping on the bed? Yes, I know how to, but you will not find a cat in our household, as multiple members are severely allergic. quote: ~Do you know how to act like a lady in social situations? Absolutely quote: ~If I set a formal dinner table if you request it do you know which fork to use? Yes, including the full service with demitasse. quote: ~Will you be slovenly just because you have a slave? No, but I may be less diligent in picking up than I am when I know that there is nobody responsible for it but me. Having a servant is a benefit, and if I am not to be able to -use- that benefit to take the pressure off me to make sure that my clothing is hung up and the bed made each morning, then why have a servant? quote: ~If you expect to take control of all finances what experience do you have in money management? Yes, and in debt control, and personal saving/investing, though not professionally. However, I have run businesses and households for over 2 decades without having bounced a check or exceeded a credit limit. quote: ~Can you provide emotional counseling to a slave? I am a pastoral counselor by training and calling. quote: ~Can you do it all on your own in case something happens to your slave? I've been doing it on my own or with my mate on -our- own since I was 15. If I can't do it now, it isn't worth doing or won't be an issue in our house. Lady Zephyr

MHOO314 -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 1:49:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing We also ask things like: Have you taken care of a living will? What are your preferences for your body if you die? What are your preferences if you are unable to tell the doctors about whether you want life support? (If they have unmentionables) Have you arranged a will to assure that your "unmentionable" is taken care of if something happens to you? (If they have unmentionables) Who do you want your unmentionable to go to if you are in an accident? (If they live separately) Do you have homeowner's insurance and have you been keeping it current? (If they have a car) What are the limits on your automobile policy, is it current, and is it sufficient to cover damages and medical expenses if you are in an accident? (If they have a driver's license) Do you have any tickets, are they moving violations, and how many/how recently have you been ticketed? What are your current practices in regards to things like drinking and driving? Have you ever shoplifted or stolen from your job? Ok... this is only a partial list... but most of these come up or are answered one way or another during our early weeks/months together (usually before the consideration collar, and always before the House collar.) We are also willing to answer these (and other necessary but unusual questions that have come up) for our servants. Lady Zephyr Calling all submissives. slaves and Dominants----these are very important responses posted here--- I am so pleased that so many rallied to respond! I cannot wait to read more---

veronicaofML -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 1:54:34 PM)
LadiesBladewing; =============== HIGHLY impressive.......... now THERE is a Gal after my own heart.......someone that knows just exactly what the score is and never missed a game. not ALL L/ladies "I" have met in life, are THAT good!!!!!!! very impressive. nice to see........ thank You,.......... and MY Ms is as skilled.

veronicaofML -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 1:56:38 PM)
Thank you, in fact I recently have---he rocks, he rocks My world, and I am about to shake, rattle and roll his! < Message edited by MHOO314 -- 12/7/2005 9:56:39 AM > ========= awwwwwwwwww SO nice. i am happy for You... happiest holiday wishes to You.

sub4hire -> RE: Ever think about these questions? (12/7/2005 2:17:49 PM)
quote: " I want to serve".. Q--Do you know how to make a bed with square corners and the Marine coin toss? Can you clean a toilet? Can you separate My clothes so My whites aren't pink? Have you done litter pans? Have you ever been a secretary? What are your organization skills? Have you worked in a vegetable garden? What is your current diet like? Do you have allergies? Do you know your way around a grocery store, and not looking for cigarettes? Do you currently have any debt or bad debts? What if any is your spiritual orientation? My answers would all be yes to all yes or no questions. Of course I'd have to elaborate a bit on the spiritual question and the debt question. I've never once uttered the words "use me as you see fit" I've seen the bad side of the lifestyle and I've seen crazy people as well. You really don't want to use those words if you have any sort of common sense about you. These questions are the main reason why communication is so paramount. Though few seem to get that and heed it.

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