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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/12/2008 4:29:26 AM

tweedydaddy

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Happiness come from seeking to achieve goals, not necessarily in achieving them.
The chase is always better than the catch and the catch can be an anti climax.
Anything in excess is boring.

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/12/2008 7:57:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: tweedydaddy
Happiness come from seeking to achieve goals, not necessarily in achieving them.
The chase is always better than the catch and the catch can be an anti climax.
Anything in excess is boring.

A different perspective...

Achieving our individual life goals has made us collectively giddy. The chase was littered with false starts and people who used us to fulfill a 'did it-done it' fantasy. Those dead end experiences jaded us to the point that it was almost impossible to believe that a perfectly compatible partner actually existed. The common belief that there is not a 'one'; an ideal love, an ideal partner was evident. As individuals we were approaching a time in our life when it was becoming a pragmatic fact; until we met and it became a pragmatic fallacy. From our first moment together we've been living through a never ending, always building climax. The raw, hedonistic, excesses of our intercourse; physical, emotional, and mental; are as if we are living in a reality show with scenarios combining sessions taken from action movies, love stories, and of course the porn industry. And the best part - its happening 24/7.

....just sayin'.

< Message edited by Mercnbeth -- 10/12/2008 8:46:15 AM >

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/12/2008 7:18:56 PM

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We live together now, so I suppose we are "24/7" , whatever that means

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/12/2008 9:39:35 PM

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In reply to the topic's question:

No. Hell no.

In reply to the post's question:

A 24/7 BDSM lifestyle, to me, implies a constant dynamic of subservience, dominance, and general inequality.

That's not what I'm looking for.

I'm looking for a *partner* and not someone who's better than me (that would be silly) or who's willing to 'date down' to something/one not on the same level as himself. I'm looking for someone who is, effectively, completely an equal.

I'm not property, I'm not a slave, and no, I won't clean your kitchen because you didn't say please, or give me any incentive.

My BDSM is my kink, and is related directly, *for me*, to sexual activity.

There is a distinct lack of this when it comes to pain, or sensation, but that's a seperate issue. I mean, I don't want to be whipped/flogged/spanked/whatever every second of every day either, despite being a masochist however I do enjoy non-sexual masochism, receiving pain for the purpose of receiving pain/pleasure.

i pretty much agree with the response above (and was just too damned lazy to type it myself :).

24/7 to me is either complete ownership or at least submission at all times.

i would like a live in relationship with my Dom/Master, but as i'm only sexually submissive i wouldnt see that as being a 24/7 dynamic...unless of course we were having sex 24/7.....mmmmm :)

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/14/2008 12:35:55 PM

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"Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? "
Hmmmmm.....only for the past 40+ years.
: - )
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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/14/2008 1:25:54 PM

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This is just my take on it, but when I think of your question, I'm thinking about it in terms of the relationship where you have a consistent D/s dynamic, He is Always my Sir, no matter where he is or whether or not he is with me. However, I've never really defined the relationship as 24/7 because a Relationship is usually 24/7, it doesnt just "stop and go". If you are with someone, you are with someone. Whenever I think of 24/7, I'm thinking of 24/7 TPE and That is another topic entirely. So to me, in that aspect, saying you have a 24/7 relationship doesn't always make sense, to me it sounds redundant. The relationship simply IS, and it is the way it is, however it is, until you end it.

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/14/2008 5:28:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

So what do you see 24/7 in your life?

The dynamic is there 24/7 , but for those with the illusion that you get to do nothing but scene and play 24/7 .. it just dont work out, at least not for me ... there are things in life that we all must do to live.. the bills have to be paid.. the ummm's have to be fed and taken care of... the same as any other life that involves 2 people... with that being said.. we both know who we are , I am the dominant she is the submissive and that is some thing that stays 24/7

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/14/2008 8:15:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

A different perspective...

Achieving our individual life goals has made us collectively giddy. The chase was littered with false starts and people who used us to fulfill a 'did it-done it' fantasy. Those dead end experiences jaded us to the point that it was almost impossible to believe that a perfectly compatible partner actually existed. The common belief that there is not a 'one'; an ideal love, an ideal partner was evident. As individuals we were approaching a time in our life when it was becoming a pragmatic fact; until we met and it became a pragmatic fallacy. From our first moment together we've been living through a never ending, always building climax. The raw, hedonistic, excesses of our intercourse; physical, emotional, and mental; are as if we are living in a reality show with scenarios combining sessions taken from action movies, love stories, and of course the porn industry. And the best part - its happening 24/7.

....just sayin'.