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TexasMaam -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/18/2008 3:50:21 PM)

1. Yes.
2. Because it makes Me hot.
3. I only coddle and caress him afterwards because he needs/wants it; that's My job.  It makes him happy, I love him, I want him to be happy, ergo I take care of him afterward.

TM



PeonForHer -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/20/2008 11:35:13 AM)

You came perilously close to admitting you have a caring instinct there, TM . . .

Close enough to make me feel glad I asked the original question, in fact.

[;)]



lateralist1 -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/20/2008 2:23:03 PM)

Depends on the sub.
As I shall only ever have one more if any then I will not know unless I find him and that seems more and more unlikely.
Have I wanted to make my past subs/slaves  cry?
Yes I have. Why is always dependent on who and what situation.



StrictnSaucy -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/20/2008 4:55:23 PM)

I dont get pleasure from making my boy cry at all.  He has done a couple of times though. Not because of any punishment I inflicted - hes done it because he has let me down - I never felt pleasure seeing his tears - but they were a reasurance that he was sorry.  Thankfully its only happened twice in 5 years.



MasterVirago -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/21/2008 12:38:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: UmbraDomina

I am a sadistic bitch...... I make boys cry..... it makes me hot and bothered to see them sobbing and begging.......so yes I really do want to make subs cry.


I agree. I only play with women, but it gets me hot as hell when they cry. It's that I know what I'm doing is hurting them but they will take because I want them too.

But I've always been like that, well before I knew it had a name. Apparently I'm a Dacryphiliac!



PeonForHer -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/21/2008 1:44:35 PM)

Thanks for that, MV.  "Learn a new word every day", as my primary school English teacher told me many years ago.  My homework for today is now done!



MmeDeValmont -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/21/2008 5:34:57 PM)

My hope is not to make someone cry. I wish to make them spacey as hell though, and if that brings out the emotion of crying, that's fantabulous. But purposely making someone cry? Only if they wish for that as a release of stress, etc. 



azropedntied -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/21/2008 6:00:46 PM)

seems the only thing  that can make me cry is an onion or pollen .. Dear ole dad  tought me Never cry , and to this day its a rare ,VERY rare  thing to occur .This is a very good discussion , love the views posted . 



HunterS -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/22/2008 3:48:45 PM)

Lynnxz:
OK...I have to ask.  Maybe it is because of my age.  WTF is "tacklefuck"? 
I even perved your profile looking for a clue...no luck.
H.



MistressSassy66 -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/23/2008 12:01:14 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

If so, why?  What does it make you feel?   I read once (I think it was in Nancy Friday's Women on Top ) that it made a Domme feel somewhat 'motherly' because she then had the opportunity of "comforting" him.  I didn't imagine that that would be the usual rationale, but I could be wrong . . .

Also, I've read recently that there's evidence that men cry a lot less than women but that this may have little to do with social conditioning.  Apparently, we just don't have the level of hormones in us to make crying more than a rare event.  I haven't cried for years and I bet many men would say the same. 




I never thought I would want to make someone cry.Now that
slave janet(tg) lives here,I do like to see her cry.Its like the
point I'm making is getting to the core of the behavior.The
pain is associated with what she did wrong,hopefully the
punishment is a subtle reminder.Not all punishments are
what I call severe(crying involved),some are just gentle
reminders.

It does sort of resemble a Mothering thing,I do
comfort her and tell her she did a good job taking
her punishment,to which she replies"Thank You Ma'am".

Without sounding creepy,its more than Mothering,at least here it is.
Its an initmate moment,not cuddling per se,but there is "soft" contact.
That means to U/us having her head against My outer thigh,I stroke
her hair,maybe a kiss on the top of the head.Soft tone of voice,soft
words that enforce the bond between Mistress and slave.

Having talked about it,the guy in her can interfere with
behavior and the reactions to punishments.I cant speak
for janet as to why she acts that way.I can say its something
being worked on.



PeonForHer -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/23/2008 4:00:34 PM)

I think that's roughly the view put on it by Nancy Friday in her book, Mistress S.  Not quite mothering, but an intimate moment.  Whatever, both parties very happy.  It sounds . . . . . . good.



MistressSassy66 -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/23/2008 5:18:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I think that's roughly the view put on it by Nancy Friday in her book, Mistress S.  Not quite mothering, but an intimate moment.  Whatever, both parties very happy.  It sounds . . . . . . good.



Yes the paddle does sound good on a bare buttom...[;)]



LadyKathryn -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/25/2008 3:52:34 AM)

Not me personally (the idea is completely against my beliefs as a Domme), but, each to their own.

- Kathryn



mummyman321 -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/27/2008 9:11:11 PM)

To Cry or Not To Cry? Intresting question. Pain can bring a man to tears but can the Domme bring a man to tears? I have a very high tolerance for pain so pain will not bring me to tears. But a talented Domme can.

I have over 15 years of experience in the lifestyle and it took sometime to reach the level of tears. For me its not he pain, but being brought to a point where I can no longer tell the difference between pleasure and pain. My body is exhausted. My mind is reeling. Then it suddenly hits, its my sub space but very few Dommes have ever brought me here. But for the Domme and sub who reach this point its truly a feeling that is indescribable.



PeonForHer -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/28/2008 5:07:24 AM)

I have over 15 years of experience in the lifestyle and it took sometime to reach the level of tears. For me its not he pain, but being brought to a point where I can no longer tell the difference between pleasure and pain. My body is exhausted. My mind is reeling. Then it suddenly hits, its my sub space but very few Dommes have ever brought me here. But for the Domme and sub who reach this point its truly a feeling that is indescribable.

Yes.  I can believe that.  Thanks for expressing that so well, Mummyman.



MsStarlett -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/28/2008 5:16:17 AM)

Had to go back to see if I had mentioned this or not...

I've never made a sub cry over punishment / pain during a session.  Cry out - yes.  Beg me to stop - yes... but no tears. 

I only get tears from the boys when they realize that they have done something wrong or they have disappointed me.  Frequently, when I leave / dismiss them.



PeonForHer -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/28/2008 6:23:26 AM)

I only get tears from the boys when they realize that they have done something wrong or they have disappointed me.  Frequently, when I leave / dismiss them.

Oh no . . . that's sad.  I keep hearing of that.  I don't think I normally cry at break ups - I get depressed instead.



sensualslave28 -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/29/2008 3:44:43 PM)

i must say i havent yet been made to cry in a session though i have been deeply gone in subspace many times 



PeonForHer -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/29/2008 5:19:00 PM)

Oh lord, that sounds good, SS. 

I think, though I don't know, that if I ended up crying in a session, it would be a most blissful thing for me. 

Jeez, I can't read my original question without blushing.  Seems like I was a different person when I wrote that, now.



tweedydaddy -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (10/29/2008 5:37:00 PM)

Domme and Dom here, both detest seeing people cry. You should walk through our village every time England lose and the streets are full of big hairy babies all weeping openly and demanding sympathy drinks.
Personally I cry like a baby every time I watch the end of the David tennant version of casanova, or when I watch Breakfast at Tiiffanys, and I am a macho enough bloke.



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