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PeonForHer -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (2/5/2009 4:53:19 PM)

It was a surprise to see this thread brought back up again.  Thank you to those who've contributed in the last few days.  The WidowSpiders did give me pause for thought - but I can't say that I've come to a firmer conclusion. 

Except on one thing.  Crying isn't that difficult for me - as I said, I changed my mind on that because I remembered that I'd done it often enough with certain pieces of music, films, and so forth.  I think that I, and the WSs, somewhat skated past that because we were all focused primarily on that specific kind crying in submissives which is caused by dominants. 

If I were to cry with a dominant, it would be as a result of things happening that had little to do with physical pain and much more to do with emotional pain.  And it would never, ever happen unless I were to trust the dominant completely. 



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (2/5/2009 4:55:45 PM)

I was surprised to see this thread necro'd, too. 

In my world, there is no good crying.  I never set out to make someone cry, and if they start, I tend to freak out.  I know I'm just reacting from my own experience and transferring...  



PeonForHer -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (2/5/2009 5:09:52 PM)

Aw gawd - that reminds me of an incident with a former (nominally) vanilla girlfriend who asked me to 'play the master' one day.  I obviously made a pig's ear of it because she was in tears within minutes.  I, of course, felt awful. 



SurrenderForMe -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (2/7/2009 5:22:10 PM)

Tears that I have induced taste good.  Both physically and emotionally. 

I can't opt in on the mothering aspect.  If I make someone cry, I want more tears, not less.



PeonForHer -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (2/7/2009 6:15:33 PM)

You know, I'm beginning to think it'd be a lot easier if, when I next meet a domina, I just bring a little phial of pepper to flick in my eyes when her back's turned ;-)



LovingMistress45 -> RE: Do Dommes really want to make subs cry? (2/8/2009 4:43:02 PM)

I found this thread very interesting and enjoyed reading the different reponses. I am turned on by tears, it is a tremendous sexual turn on for me. I play mostly with malesubs and I don't find most cry from pain.  I think for most it takes deep level of trust and connection and for some a feeling of helplessness. For me it is an emotional connection that is almost a surreal/spiritual experience. Tears don't make me stop, I will continue until I reach the point of satiation which can take a while as I am a sadist. But once I am done I do have a strong need to comfort and nurture.  Tears are not neccessary in order for me to enjoy a scene and I don't want faked tears. I enjoy whatever is the natural reaction for the sub I am with.  Just last night I played with a female sub and did breast bondage/torture and she laughed frequently though I did leave some nice marks on her, that was just her reacation and I enjoyed it. I didn't need her to fake discomfort or beg me to stop. Her telling me "I like that Ma'am" was quite arousing and her request to be allowed to cum during a very intense point was also arousing for me. Actually, I think I could have more fun with her as obviously she is a pain slut and that is a nice quality for a sadist to find.

Tears from punishment are not arousing to me there are totally different emotions that are occurring for me if I am punishing a sub for displeasing me.



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