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What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) - 10/14/2008 5:25:05 AM   
stephen1974


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Status: offline 		Greetings,

I see in many ads statements like "fakes and wannabes stay out"... Are there people who pretend to be dominant and are not? Why should they do so?

Maybe someone can enlighten this subject



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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 5:43:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		it's sort of like the bdsm equivalent of people who play guitar hero and call themselves musicians.

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 5:49:05 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		People use the word 'fake' out of frustration more often than not.  It's a phenomenon that has grown in recent years but I really would not put much stock in it.
 
Fake and wannabe is simply a description of a person who doesn't fit the criteria of another for what a domninant or a submissive is.  It can be an emotional outburst response from a person who makes bad judgement calls and needs someone else to blame.  Its a way of demonstrating superiority.  It's a myth.
 
Of course, in any section of society you get people who lie and cheat.  But those aren't really the core of what is meant by fakes and wannabee.  They are simply another persons somebody.
 
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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 6:19:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yup I dont like the word fake, there are actually very few 'fakes' out there, I describe a fake as a man pretending to be a woman or a scam or something along those lines.

Normally as the.darkness says a fake is someone who isnt compatible to what you want. people decide their way is the only way and anyone not fitting that is fake, what it fails to realise is that everyones way is right for them.

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 6:26:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a fake Dom.  I've got no pic on my profile, I don't own a flogger, I'm not known in any local scene, and I've first-met (and then played) with women at my home, and in hotel rooms.  Beware the fake doms.  We're coming to get you.

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 6:36:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I'm a fake Dom.  I've got no pic on my profile, I don't own a flogger, I'm not known in any local scene, and I've first-met (and then played) with women at my home, and in hotel rooms.  Beware the fake doms.  We're coming to get you.


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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 6:39:34 AM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		They could also be talking about that folks that just want to play with themselves while taking to you and then disappear without reason. They normally know enough of the "right" things to say just to get their rocks off and waste your time.

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 6:44:47 AM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		There is also a not so slim section of predatory individuals, both dom and sub.  A lot of things can be meant by it, but at the end of the day capatability and choices are more important that self imposed titles.

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 6:54:49 AM   
RedMagic1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pixidustpet

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I'm a fake Dom.  I've got no pic on my profile, I don't own a flogger, I'm not known in any local scene, and I've first-met (and then played) with women at my home, and in hotel rooms.  Beware the fake doms.  We're coming to get you.


promises promises

kitten

I can't come after you, though, because you're in love and getting married to someone.  Damn.  I hope that doesn't make me "real."  I hate it when I have to start capitalizing pronouns.


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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 8:18:07 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I'm a fake Dom.  I've got no pic on my profile, I don't own a flogger, I'm not known in any local scene, and I've first-met (and then played) with women at my home, and in hotel rooms.  Beware the fake doms.  We're coming to get you.


Oh give me a man that can dominate me in an empty field without a flogger anytime..... Ill be in the corn field waiting for you at 6pm

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 8:21:33 AM   
JustDarkness


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Status: offline 		a real Dom is no real Dom when he was never been called fake.
It ads to his status..his meanness....

more seriously;
I think fake is used to make yourself look better then the other or people using others while promissing a lot of things.
But that happens in the vanilla world too...but that is already said.

< Message edited by JustDarkness -- 10/14/2008 8:23:38 AM >

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 8:27:02 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		I think a lot of this is about someone who is hurting and wants to out the ex. What better way if one is feeling vindictive/revengeful than to point a finger and say that they are a fake.

What works for one may not work for another.

I have been out and about on the scene for perhaps too long and I do know that there are predatory people that wear the wolves clothing to get into a girls knickers but I also know of women that wear the coat of a lamb to get in a mans trousers.

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 8:30:41 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		well fake dom=man pretending to be woman.

but there are subs who do that too.

fake profiles often have model pictures taken from sites....i have seen snorg t's model girls used alot on cm. 


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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 8:34:15 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Fake usually means it does not fit their criteria for a sub, slave, ect.  It can also mean someone pretending to be a different sex.  I knew a guy who pretended to be a lesbian, online, for a few years.  It might also be someone who is masturbating while getting you to talk about sex.
And it might mean that they do not do this 24/7, every waking moment, always sub, or always dom.   I'll take that last catagory over the real true ones any day.
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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 8:35:01 AM   
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quote:

RedMagic1
I can't come after you, though, because you're in love and getting married to someone.  Damn.  I hope that doesn't make me "real."  I hate it when I have to start capitalizing pronouns.


*spits coffee*

Damnit Red! I NEEDED that coffee. I am so struggling to wake up this morning. No more posting on this thread for you so I can sip in peace *laughs*

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 9:06:01 AM   
RedMagic1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: allthatjaz
Oh give me a man that can dominate me in an empty field without a flogger anytime..... Ill be in the corn field waiting for you at 6pm

You have a deal, and I'm not joking around anymore.  Plus, if you go slow, explain what you're doing, and let me try to duplicate the ties on you afterward, I'll rope-bottom to you in any way you wish.


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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 9:27:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		As others have said many use "fake" and "wannabe" directed towards people who are not like them, or do not conform to an accepted practise or dogma

just how people are ... I try not to use those words myself ... though sometimes I fail in that.

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 9:39:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Every dom is fake, every sub is fake
Every switch is fake, every sub is fake
But I'm still searching here

Every single day, and all the words they say
Every game they play, every night the same
I'm still searching here

Oh can't you see
That I'm true and real?
How my poor heart aches
Cos all I get are fakes

Every dom is fake, and every sub is fake
Every maso is fake, every girl is fake
But I'm still searching here

I'm a true dom
And I'm lost without a slave
I dream at night
I want to see her face
I got lots of toys stashed in my place
I feel so old and I long for her embrace
I keep trying baby baby please

Oh can't you see
That I'm true and real?
How my poor heart aches
Cos all I get are fakes

All the subs are fake
And all the slaves are fake
All the guys are fake
All the girls are fake
But I'm still searching here
All the subs are fake
All the slaves are fake
But I'm still searching here

I'm still searching here...



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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 9:46:44 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		this slave has pretended to be dominant in the past...in order to please the other person(s) in the relationship as well as when training dogs.
 
the other person(s) didn't respond well to the faking, it pleased them at the time, but not in the long run...as this slave pretty much sucks at it, but the dogs bought it, hook, line and sinker!

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RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ad... - 10/14/2008 10:14:43 AM   
stephen1974


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OOkkayy

Thats alot of answers. Thanks.

Well the fakes from Nigeria or Romania with model picture I dont even *count* they are just poor scams.

And I agree, it is difficult to find out if the other is what he/she describes. Normally chat helps and if some1s ad sounds "too good to be true" (like 18 year old supermodel seeks extreme 247 right away, any age, any place ), it certainly is not real.


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