stella41b
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I have my own theories.. Like subtee I make my own comments at times, tongue in cheek, song parodies, not essentially to have a go at anyone but basically to introduce some humour and lightness to the boards. Not that it always works out that way. Towards other posters well they all to me fall into one of either two groups, either I know them and like them or I don't know them and like them. There's nobody here I genuinely dislike and therefore at my most negative I am neutral.
Beyond those people I have genuine feelings of friendship for and know, either real time or online, I don't have a list of other posters who are favoured above others and those less favoured. As far as I'm aware, I'm not part of any clique of posters and I have no wish to be.
I don't come here to be liked, or to be popular, I just come here to post and to share with other people. Once I have written my posting and posted it I have no control over how that posting is going to be perceived or how I am going to be perceived.
There are those who feel that people reading responses and such should grow thicker skins as this is a public message board. I disagree. Why? I am all for freedom of personal expression and freedom of speech, and I am aware that this freedom carries with it a certain responsibility. I don't have any disclaimers, because I accept that responsibility entirely and I write my own thoughts and opinions in my own words, and therefore I am responsible for all the words you read in my posting. I am just as responsible for those words when they are posted as I am when I am writing them. If I get something wrong, or post in error, it simply means I am human, but I still remain responsible for those words.
My own impressions are that there is a certain amount of hypocrisy on these boards among certain posters. They have very long memories when it comes to other people, but when it comes to them they tend to suffer a certain amount of mental confusion and amnesia. Indeed, there is an element of not practising what you preach, or even applying some sort of moral principle to other people which they themselves do not live up to.
There are also those (and I count myself among these) who are working on themselves to overcome certain issues, issues which affect them, which could be issues with self-esteem, self-confidence, anger, etc and some attitudes from their issues spill out over into what they are posting. Sometimes they read the OP and get a skewed perspective or read between the lines and read too much into the situation.
There are others who are either unhappy, upset or disappointed with what is going on in their lives, feeling very bitter and they project their feelings of bitterness into their postings and sometimes towards other posters. It's not that these people don't like you so much, it's that they don't like themselves much and it's also important to try and somehow understand this and try not to take offence. They've got just as much right to be here as everyone else, and I just personally wish for them to find some sort of happiness in their lives and get over themselves.
Then there are the others who do genuinely form prejudices against certain other posters either for what they are into, their age, gender, sexual orientation and lifestyle or even because they are perceived as being one of the less favoured posters.
I see this as being no different from anywhere else on the Internet. It's not a community of like-minded people, but a community in which there is a possibility of finding like-minded people. This I feel is an important distinction to make.
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