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RE: Erotic humiliation - 12/13/2005 6:09:08 PM

passingglance

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Humiliation can be quite enjoyable...

Personally, I'm a fan of degrading namecalling and crossdressing.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 12/14/2005 4:59:42 AM

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quote:

It is a very strong punishment or negative reinforcer.

Aversive...it is an aversive. It is really bothering me I used the term negative reinforcer incorrectly and can not edit it. Gawd, I am such a geek.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 12/14/2005 5:38:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sensualips

quote:

It is a very strong punishment or negative reinforcer.

Aversive...it is an aversive. It is really bothering me I used the term negative reinforcer incorrectly and can not edit it. Gawd, I am such a geek.

I am at a loss as to how your mind works.....
You find this erotically humiliating?

Try this on, then; it ain't not right!

Did the world move for you too?

LOL,
Ron

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 12/14/2005 11:32:26 AM

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I wish I could tell you why I enjoy it...could it be my physical reactions? (my face flushes, nipples tighten up, body shakes...and well...some things already mentioned)...or emotional?...My lust/confusion when he goes from calling me 'princess' to his little (insert word) slut?...and making me beg to do what he does?...and making me beg for him to do it more...especially if he knows it is not something that I like?
Or...the pleasure/fear of actually beginning to like the thing I hated before?
Making me beg him to let me be his '____ toy'....
To beg him to own me...in any way he wants....
His satisfaction with me when I do...and the way he keeps me off-balance by, going from 'princess to slut to princess' again....confusing me...mingling pain with pleasure, always...
His chivalry, and kindness outside of this...
All of this, is a huge turn-on...(for me)

Christina

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 12/14/2005 4:43:14 PM

kyraofMists

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LuckyAlbatross,

I really enjoyed your post on erotic humiliation. You appear to have a very good understanding of who you are and it is very apparant in your writing.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 12/15/2005 1:59:31 AM

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i think it is because being addressed as a anything other than what you think of yourself is a turn-on. Humilation is being knocked off your pedistal that you have been placed up on by others around you or sometimes by yourself. Definately a big turn on when done right and it leaves you floored. :)

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 12/15/2005 9:15:33 PM

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I love being Humilated by my wife. It shows acceptance of her ownership of me. It also shows her to what extend my loyality goes. It entertains her and that is satisfying to me. She has made me crawl in circles for her on the floor in front of her. She jests with me, prods me, calls me sissy, and the like, But I hear the Love in her voice and I am proud to belittle myself before her. It is my badge of sissyness. I deserve the jaunts. But, She Loves her property!

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 12/16/2005 8:00:31 AM

krikket

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i agree..it's difficult to explain why i get so hot, or even what has to be said to get me that way. i've experienced a dom telling me one thing that i don't "enjoy" yet if someone else says the same thing i'm off and running..lol. If it goes too far, however, so that i start feeling like junk then it's not only a turn off, but a turn down...

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 1/3/2006 6:28:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: snowgirlsub

From time to time, I like being humiliated. But I can’t explain why.

So I wanted to hear from other subs. If you enjoy being humiliated, please tell me why. What does it do for you?

Thanks,
Snow

During play I have been called a slut, a whore, a hole. I enjoy it actually, it is quite the erotic turn on.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 1/3/2006 8:45:40 PM

Petruchio

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Some time ago, I worked in an office with a stunning blonde who was obviously spolt. Others virtually kowtowed to her. I was polite, but kept to myself.

She come into my computer room and made some demand. As she turned away, I responded with humor, "You're really a bitch, you know."

She turned back and looked at me for the first time, and said, "You really think so?"

It was one of those suspended moments, where the right or wrong word would make the difference. I just said softly, "Bitch."

A little later she returned and said she couldn't believe I'd said that. I shrugged and said, "I'm busy at the moment, but when you return, scrub some of that tacky makeup off your face."

I turned away, but not before I saw her double-take.

One morning I wrinkled my nose and said, "Did you bathe today?" (The truth is, my sense of smell isn't very good.)

She turned red and I didn't see her for hours. She told me later she'd actually gone all the way home and bathed again.

Another time I said, "You probably are waiting to ask me out, but it probably won't work because I like pretty breasts."

If you knew me, I am a kind, gentle, and supportive dom, but I was able to sense what would work for her and what wouldn't. We did have an affair, but it's not in my nature to humiliate 100% of the time, and in fact the only honest criticism was that she wasn't a good lover.

I have had 'affectionate' nicknames for girlfriends which sounded like anything but to outsiders. Dr.Phil the other day had a couple who affectionately called each other 'craphead', and I understood that perfectly.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 1/3/2006 9:37:44 PM

foxglove716

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being humiliated is a delicious feeling, isnt it? Like some masochists would call themselves sensationsluts, I am a mentalsensationslut, and I like to feel it all. Love, hate, pride, humility, perfection, degredation. I love to be knocked off my pedestal sometimes, but only with someone I know will help me back up.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 1/3/2006 10:11:14 PM

Petruchio

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quote:

being humiliated is a delicious feeling, isnt it? Like some masochists would call themselves sensationsluts, I am a mentalsensationslut, and I like to feel it all. Love, hate, pride, humility, perfection, degredation. I love to be knocked off my pedestal sometimes, but only with someone I know will help me back up.

foxglove, you helped my comprehension. I've been told how understanding I am, but in truth, as a dom, I only understand a sub like a fox understands a rabbit. I can never be a rabbit.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 1/10/2006 12:37:42 PM

PetCucky

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I always loved it when my ex wife would humiliate me, particularly in front of her two sisters. She would have them make fun of my small cock, masturbate in front of them, they would all pee on me. I was in sub heaven! *blush*

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 1/10/2006 1:10:32 PM

kessia

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Humiliation to me is about reduction. Being reduced to a moment, unable to even contemplate the next. Being reduced to a thing, there only to be used. Nice feeling, that.

It is also about being known. “nasty slut” to me is not humiliation, because it can be true. It is only when someone sees me, sees the things that worry me, that they can get their fingernails in enough to really tear away my sense of self. It leaves me open to my core and that is a powerful thing on both sides of the power equation, I think.

kess

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 5/28/2007 7:46:00 PM

vascott

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I'm more into the exhibitionist side of humiliation. Like LuckyAlbratross, I love the attention I get from forced nudity and the thrill of having no choice in letting whoever is involved see my rather obvious arousal.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 5/28/2007 8:01:33 PM

Elorin

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Humiliation for me has many levels. Admitting to some of my "naughty" desires can be humiliating, but even more, having him strip me of my walls, protections, boundaries and force me to admit to things that are normally shaming - and having him love me for those things - is very affirming. When he makes me beg to be fucked up the ass, beg until I am crying, beg him to fuck me up the ass because I'm a filthy little whore - and then he does it, and growls how much he loves what a dirty little whore I am - it is like he is telling me that he loves ALL of me. Not just the clean, presentable, graceful parts, but the crude, rude, dirty, filthy little whore parts too.

When I am told that I am worthless, and I am pissed upon, I feel free to BE the part of me that is worthless. And yes, there are parts of me that ARE worthless, that ARE good for nothing but cock sucking. And he makes me admit to being all of that...and then still wants me.

Humiliation is the freedom to stop pretending, stop hiding certain portions of myself, and simply be who I am. The most utterly, base, sexual, filthy portions of who I am. And I am not afraid that he will be disgusted, revolted, or turn away from me. He takes away my ability to hide parts of myself and still wants me.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 5/29/2007 4:56:11 AM

WillowRain

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ORIGINAL: kessia

Humiliation to me is about reduction. Being reduced to a moment, unable to even contemplate the next. Being reduced to a thing, there only to be used. Nice feeling, that.

It is also about being known. “nasty slut” to me is not humiliation, because it can be true. It is only when someone sees me, sees the things that worry me, that they can get their fingernails in enough to really tear away my sense of self. It leaves me open to my core and that is a powerful thing on both sides of the power equation, I think.

kess

Oh, I really agree with you. For me, it really has heat when the focus is on target. The whole combination of being known, those private embarrasing truths being exposed, and then lavished with praise and acceptance. EXTREMELY hot. I don't find humiliation that involves regection positive. I'd hate something along the lines of, "You blankety, blankety blank, you disgust me, how could I have let you into my bed, crawl bitch." Not good. However, "You blankety, blankety blank, you're just what I want you nasty little c***, get in my bed, crawl bitch.* Yum. There is.. such a differance for me, worlds of differance between, this is who you are, I see it, claim it, want it, and love it, and this is who you are, and who you are displeases me.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 5/29/2007 7:09:17 AM

sublimelysensual

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A couple of people have touched on this, I think, but for me it's all about being told I am things that are completely opposite of what I think of myself as..it's as though I'm being given permission to be that thing. Classic example..I was a virgin until I was 21, and can still be very inhibited so far as initiating sex, and talking about some sexual things makes me blush like a nun watching porn. So to be told I'm a dirty little slut, or a fucktoy allows me to be that dirty little slut that a part of me always wished I could be, it releases the inhibitions. When you add on the shock factor of hearing something like that..( a part of my mind always hears it and then says..wait, did he really just say that..about me??? -laughs-) well, the two combined definitely send me over the moon.

I think a part of it is also the taboo..it's not something most people would ever hear in "polite society", or more than likely, even in a vanilla relationship..I think when that sense of forbidden barriers is crossed, it can be a very erotic, arousing thing. Just my two cents..

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 5/29/2007 8:59:56 AM

Domspaintoy

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Hmmm Humiliation is one i love to hate, i think im a closet lover of humiliation although He has known otherwise for quite a while lol. i have in fact begged for more in whatever form it takes recently so im converted perhaps.

Name calling turns me on immensely, He can call His dirty fuck slut whore till the cows come home, in fact its been known for it to trigger an orgasm whilst He has been fucking me, name calling excites me over it humiliating me but maybe thats the bag, being called 'slut' when W/we are out when W/we both know 'vanillas' have heard Him is just HORNY as hell.

Being ordered to go shopping with no underwear and pegs attached to certain areas under skirts or blouses thats humiliating, people may see the pegs, being ordered to hold ones ass cheeks open whilst He inspects me is very humiliating, been made to orgasm whilst in public is suprememly humiliating but incredibly erotic at the same time and also terribly hard when you HAVE to be quiet about it too, having to beg to go to the toilet is humiliating BUT boy do i LOVE it, He LOVES it which makes it all the more arousing and fun. My desire to please Him above anything will always outweigh the humilaition i may feel.

But then im just a slut who is a slave to her Master's pleasure, demands, whims, wishes and orders. What more could a girl want?

Dpt.

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RE: Erotic humiliation - 5/29/2007 9:05:11 AM

Bearlee

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OMG...even just face slapping is humiliating to me! Having my face cradled in one of his hands while the other smacks me sharply with the other...just that I know I will allow this to be done to me for his pleasure is both humiliating and warmly submissive.

I'm not so good with name calling...even being called his sweet slut is a bit squicky for me. Perhaps it's my age, I dunno.

But... displaying for his inspection? Oh gawd...

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